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I have seen a lot of people on here say dont go to a guys house on a first date and such. I was just curious to as, if two people where to meet u for just sex what would be the safest way to go about doing so?
 tinskmom
Joined: 2/11/2011
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Posted: 11/12/2011 7:54:45 AM
I'll go to their house after I've hung out with them 3 or 4 times but I don't let them know where I live for wayyyy longer than that - don't know why.
 PoeticPatriot
Joined: 10/12/2011
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Posted: 11/12/2011 8:15:28 AM
There isn't any safe place to meet just for sex.
 TooShadows
Joined: 9/26/2008
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Posted: 11/12/2011 8:26:23 AM
Hopefully you'll have known each other before you meet just for sex,so by that time it should be okay to meet at one of your homes. If on the other hand it's the 1st time you're meeting and it's just for sex,well that's different. I'd say don't do it,but you could always consider a motel. With thinner walls screams could be heard better.
 PittsburghVixen
Joined: 6/27/2009
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Posted: 11/12/2011 8:28:36 AM
A decent hotel and a pre-set-up safe call will help to lessen your risk.
 scurvy_little_spider
Joined: 11/7/2011
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Posted: 11/12/2011 8:33:20 AM
Well, the people who are saying to not go to his house, are usually advising to not be alone with a stranger the very first time you meet.

This would be to avoid things that don't usually happen in a public place, like him assuming you're there for sex; forcing sex on you; torturing, killing, and disposing of your dismembered body in a lawn-leaf garbage bag.

So if you're going to meet a stranger for sex, the issue of not getting alone with him kind of disappears.

Except for exhibitionists I guess.
 MagikMan59
Joined: 8/2/2011
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Posted: 11/12/2011 8:39:05 AM
I just watched an episode of "48 hours" and a guy was murdered when he went to a young ladies apartment for sex. He was new in town and had met her on the bus and after talking a while she invited him over. But she had male friends that wanted to rob him but it went terribly wrong and he got shot. His mother had moved him out of the big city to get him away from the crime there. That was hard to watch, he was going to college to make something of himself.

My point is, even guys have to be careful when going to meet someone, sex or not.

Get to know someone very well before going to his place. Have him meet your family and friends multiple times before spending time alone with someone. And even that is no guarantee of your safety. Sorry, just sayin.
 WinstonDoubtfire
Joined: 7/29/2009
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Posted: 11/12/2011 8:44:32 AM
Hotel, motel, dark corner of a club...pretty much anywhere that you choose.
 Dominic74
Joined: 2/21/2006
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Posted: 11/12/2011 8:45:02 AM
Safe place to meet for sex? Should you be having sex with someone you don't trust enough to see his house?? I would hope not!
 Cdn_Iceman
Joined: 12/1/2010
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Posted: 11/12/2011 8:47:39 AM
This is a first? where to go for a safe place to have sex? okay are you talking meeting for the first time? or you've known each other for a while?

If its the first time well hmmmmmmm PittsburghVixen suggestion would work, and if he cant spring for a decent hotel he isn't worth it and is probably attached.

If you've known each other for a while or met a few times and you think he is safe ( one never truly knows) then you go to each others places if possible, if not Hotel Hotel Hotel, not a flea bag motel.
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
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Posted: 11/12/2011 8:49:50 AM
I gotta agree with PoeticPatriot- sex is hardly ever "safe", no matter what its venue, so you hafta think in terms of "risk management", and how to "lessen your risk", as PittVixen advises. I've learned to listen when PV speaks.

I hooked up once (I was in the Navy) with a woman in Tamatave, Madagascar- she took me to her home, a thatched roof on poles, no walls, inside or out, in a jungly setting, but it was a village.
In Port-au-Prince, a lady escorted me from her room back to my ship to keep the local "bros" off me (they still made lotsa kinda ugly comments).
Then there was Hong Kong, Singapore, Mombasa, and lots of other places, where I shoulda been scared, but, I was driven. lol
As a woman, unless you are skilled in martial arts, you are at greater risk getting naked with a stranger than I ever was, wheresoever that may be.

I've had invitations to go whitewater rafting with me rejected because it was "too risky".

Ya know, OP, I had the same problem, about a good sex place, when I was in high school. Yeah, a decent hotel, and maybe two "safe calls", just before, and just after, is good advice. You just gotta believe in the Force, and use it.

Vaya con dios.
 lilmisssunshine547
Joined: 8/2/2011
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Posted: 11/12/2011 9:45:05 AM
This is a first? where to go for a safe place to have sex? okay are you talking meeting for the first time? or you've known each other for a while?



Actually I was more curious to the responses as Im not looking to meet someone just for that purpose. I was having a discussion with one of my guy friends who is on another site looking for just causal sex. Then I read an article about a kid from Phoenix coming up near me (Milwaukee) and was held for 2 days in some weird satanic sex ritual and ended up with over 300 stab and slash wounds so it got me to wondering, where do people who are meeting for sex , and want to be smart do it.

But basically yes I was talking about meeting for the first time. I'm sure it happens everyday somewhere, it being on here, in a bar or where-ever.
 azurawaters
Joined: 9/16/2011
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Posted: 11/12/2011 10:28:16 AM
same places you meet for a regular date. I think the question is not where do you meet its where do you go. By far the safest place is a hotel. This is also why swingers clubs exist usually the club has quite rooms you can go and use.

This is how the guy who created curious george was killed by the way. He was murdered after he invited some one over for gay fetish sex.
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
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Posted: 11/12/2011 10:29:24 AM
I'll go to their house after I've hung out with them 3 or 4 times but I don't let them know where I live for wayyyy longer than that - don't know why.

I'm the same way, but I know why. I've slept with someone I knew from dating a month or so and he still didn't know where I lived. My home is the one place I go to get my space and my quiet, so anyone who doesn't respect that can't know where it is. Once you know where I live you can't un-know, so I make sure before I let you know that you're going to use the information responsibly. Either that or I have to move a lot.

I tend to be the one who wants the most space in relationships so I'll respect his and never go into it uninvited. Therefore I'll go to his place if I feel comfortable, or we'll get a room somewhere.

I was having a discussion with one of my guy friends who is on another site looking for just causal sex.

Oh ok - in that case, I have no clue. I'm not one to seek it out, so I have no idea where I'd have it if I found it. I'd just rather call an ex - less crapshoot. : )
 MikeWM
Joined: 2/7/2011
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Posted: 11/12/2011 10:45:46 AM
Those soft play rooms for kids would be a very safe place for sex

The chances of getting rug burns, cuts or bruises would be practically none existent, plus the addition of swings, slides, ball pits and soft easy wipe structures would add whole new dimensions to the activity

That is the kind of "safe" you meant wasnt it?
 captainkirk1963
Joined: 3/6/2011
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Posted: 11/12/2011 11:06:46 AM
maybe go behind the building that sells morals and self respect?
 mogrl42
Joined: 4/16/2007
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Posted: 11/12/2011 11:51:19 AM
omg get real,there is no such thing as a safe place to meet for sex only.
 lilmisssunshine547
Joined: 8/2/2011
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Posted: 11/12/2011 12:19:26 PM

That is the kind of "safe" you meant wasnt it? [/quote


Hahaha too funny!

^^
Like I said in my previous post, I am not asking because I wanna meet up with a random stranger and bang him and be on my way, and if I did I don't think its any ones place to judge. They're people on here who are married or in relationship and are here just for that.

I am a thinker ad I get these idea in my head that I want to know about and I think would be a good discussion and if it has not already been discussed Ill discuss it. I am sure there plenty of men and women on here who have never even thought about there safety about meeting someone for sex and they should with the craziness you hear on the news a days. That is the reason this topic is here.
 PittsburghVixen
Joined: 6/27/2009
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Posted: 11/12/2011 1:13:24 PM
@thebigflick:

also, having a code set up with your driver/bodyguard from the 'agency' .. woman logic .


Are you referring to my suggestion of a decent hotel and a safe call as "woman logic"?

...If so, please be advised that safe calls are standard BDSM safety procedure when playing with someone whom one does not know, outside the friendly (and monitored) confines of a dungeon or a private party. Ideally, the parties involved also obtain references from the other's play partners. FYI, playing doesn't always mean that sexual acts will occur. But I think you can agree that even a man who is bound, gagged and/or blindfolded needs to take precautions as to the trustworthiness of his play partner, just as a woman would.

I just think that it would be a good idea to have a safe call for straight sex meetings, as well.

If you weren't referring to my post, we return you to your regularly scheduled programming.

[hijack] Hey, Whytwater...you sweetie... [/hijack]
 viper1j
Joined: 11/30/2005
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Posted: 11/12/2011 1:50:22 PM

I'll go to their house after I've hung out with them 3 or 4 times but I don't let them know where I live for wayyyy longer than that - don't know why.


If a guy tried that, there would be SO many "I wonder if he's married.." threads, there wouldn't be room to contain them all.
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
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Posted: 11/12/2011 5:10:03 PM
I have J U S T the place!
 scurvy_little_spider
Joined: 11/7/2011
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Posted: 11/13/2011 5:15:39 AM
^ hyuck hyuck, you ain't read the whole thread then.
I assume.
Not judging you.
 motown cowgirl
Joined: 6/30/2010
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Posted: 11/13/2011 5:21:35 AM
Then I read an article about a kid from Phoenix coming up near me (Milwaukee) and was held for 2 days in some weird satanic sex ritual and ended up with over 300 stab and slash wounds so it got me to wondering, where do people who are meeting for sex , and want to be smart do it.

well. your question presumes that the people who are meeting just for sex like dogs in the alley ARE ACTUALLY SMART.

i don't think that's a reasonable presupposition to have given the fact that you are finding articles describing how these really intellectual people ended up in some weird satanic sex ritual with 300 slash wounds as a souvenir of their experience. "HEY, what's with the jewel-encrusted ritual daggers?? i just wanted a blow job from a stranger while somebody else i've never met before was putting a dildo up my ass!!!"

as a matter of fact, your thread more or less proves my theory that satanists are a whole lot smarter than horny, wanna-be geniuses.

:ROAR:


vvvv they will be here just as soon as saint fornicatus removes his fist from their bleeding rectal cavities.
I'm waiting for the people to chime in "well IIIIIII've had sex like a dog in an alley a THOUSAND times, and IIIII never got slashed up in a weird satanic ritual" -- WHERE ARE THOSE PEOPLE!!!???
 scurvy_little_spider
Joined: 11/7/2011
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Posted: 11/13/2011 5:27:08 AM
^ok. that is not hot. (to me; not judging) HOL. (Hoot Out Loud)
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I'm waiting for the people to chime in "well IIIIIII've had sex like a dog in an alley a THOUSAND times, and IIIII never got slashed up in a weird satanic ritual" -- WHERE ARE THOSE PEOPLE!!!???
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v the subject was misleading. The real question was, where can a MAN meet for sex, and be reasonably safe from being lured into a satanic sex ritual?
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Sunday mornings on POF. God save us all.
 lovinmidlife
Joined: 11/6/2011
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Posted: 11/13/2011 5:34:38 AM
My place is safe.....promise...:-D
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