| | Ladies, why do I get less replies on this site?Page 1 of 2 (1, 2) | I've been a member of another paid site - more tailored toward serious people. I get more of a response on that site, same pictures, similar profile info. I have also had quite a few dates.
Here? Nothing. I don't get the replies I want, but I do get messages from ladies who've clearly not read my preference on body size.
Face to face i'm a funny person, can hold a conversation for hours and throw wit to the table whenever it's needed. What am I not doing right profile wise? My messages always tend to address something the girl has said as well as an open question for them to reply to...
Just an FYI, it's not the tattoos that are the issue as i'm conscious that i've mailed several girls who 'like tattoos'. | |
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| Ladies, why do I get less replies on this site?
Posted: 11/25/2011 3:04:20 PM | looks to me like your serious about partying, that may have something to do with your luck on one site vs another.. esp if your buying.........
who cares about tats in the 25 to 35 age range anymore? most people by age 21 have several tats... its nothing new or even anything to remark on because its oh so common. Your profile pics strike me as your not a serious or commintment type person and that may also be true of others impressions... which may cause failure to bother to read anything, based on the pictures kinda telling the story.
Just my opinion. | |
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Posted: 11/25/2011 3:07:10 PM | Not the first person to bring to light the fact I like to be social, but none of my pictures show me slurping shots of a cleavage or stomach...
The fact is i'm less likely to have a picture taken at work or home than I am with a group of friends.
So how do I address the fact i'm a social behemoth and tone down that fact so I look like less of an alcoholic - if that is in fact what it looks like?? | |
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Posted: 11/25/2011 3:17:48 PM | | I go out every weekend normally and most of my pictures I'm pretty drunk in, hanging off someone or something to that sort BUT I deliberately didn't put any pictures up of me with friends or any obvious ones that had me out as I used this a few years ago and was labelled a party girl, although I am and do like the odd vodka or 20 I was concious to not have this highlighted in my pics this time round as there's more to me than a girl who likes to go out, so my point is there is always opportunities to have self photos, I'm sure you have some, if not take some, next time your out make sure you get a picture of just YOU! | |
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Posted: 11/25/2011 3:19:02 PM | social does not mean bar hopping.
No reason you can't have a picture of yourself with no one in it but you. If your attracting party girls, its because of your pictures and also your profile. Who at your age wants to go out till 3am on a couch of a bar? most people have jobs and other responsibilites.............. don't live to party ( which seems to be your situation).
Hey, do what you want, its your life but if your not attracting who you want, could be cuz your putting out the vibe your the party guy. .. the ones your not partying, looks like "boys" club... what woman wants to meet a guy and all his friends? ... | |
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Posted: 11/25/2011 3:20:22 PM | A group of 8-10 people with one person holding a bottle of alcohol, and that person not being me, really doesn't satisfy alcoholic criteria.
There are three other pictures of me doing active things.
So let's move on from alcohol and pictures and concentrate on the wording? | |
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Posted: 11/25/2011 3:23:51 PM | "I lost in a drunken episode involving a car and my ankle..."
something to look forword to on a date with you>/ drunken episodes ??? involving bodily injury...........
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Gosh sounds like such a fun date ! 
I can't even go any further... LOL
Maybe ? the fact is your meeting more people on this pay site you speak of to go out to party and just looking for a good time on someones tab... its the quality of people you meet, not how many dates you get. | |
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Posted: 11/25/2011 3:28:24 PM | "I have a dry but fun sense of humor and it doesn't take me long to break barriers with people"
how about
"I have a dry sense of humor and I easily break barriers with people"
More confident and to the point. | |
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Posted: 11/25/2011 3:31:27 PM | & done.
I thought I had the whole confidence thing down but maybe not.
One thing i'd like to think is that i've removed any doubt that i'm not just some over sized tattooed muscle bound angry bouncer type. I might look like i'd give someone a good leathering for walking into me but everyone who knows me personally knows i'm a good guy. So am I getting that point across - and do I need to? | |
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Posted: 11/25/2011 3:32:50 PM | | I think removing that drunken episide part would help !!!. sounds like you got drunk and into an accident because you were drunk. Nobody likes a drunk but a drunk. | |
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Posted: 11/25/2011 3:34:06 PM |
Who at your age wants to go out till 3am on a couch of a bar? most people have jobs and other responsibilites.............. don't live to party ( which seems to be your situation).
Don't take this the wrong way but your 50, times have now changed to what they once were, hell even 5 years ago... he's only 28, that's hardly over the hill and too old to go out is it? Damn I know plenty of men, his age and older who still go out most weeks, even the ones in relationships, it's called socialising, starts off at the pub with a few mates, ends up in a club! That's how it kinda works now. People with top jobs in London go out straight from work on a Friday and make it home later than 3am!
If a guy is single, what other responsibilities should he have?? Even if he has a child with a ex, does that mean that he still can't go out with his mates for a few at the weekend????
Damn people work hard, we don't live to work, we work to live, enjoy life as much as you can, do what ever you want to do, never look back with regrets! I sure as hell don't just work to pay the bills, I, like a lot of young singles (even when I was in a serious relationship) work so I can have a fun life, buy what I want and do what I want! | |
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Posted: 11/25/2011 3:39:23 PM | I sort of agree here, that big comment about me partying and people having work to do did get my back up a bit.
I actually work hard, get up at 6am, cycle 10 miles to work, keep the entire business infrastructure running for 7 hours, go to the gym and cycle 10 miles home. The weekends is the only time I can socialise but I rarely get 'too drunk'. It's almost the reason why I discussed my job so much in my profile as it's a very good job and i'd like to make out i'm not a party animal by explaining my more mature side than simply reducing the amount of pictures. | |
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Posted: 11/25/2011 3:57:48 PM |
yeah I guess i'm 50 and don't know anything... right
I never said that did I? But suggesting he is too old to be enjoying life is suggesting that when you were 28, you were doing different things, which is true. Back then people settled down much younger, whereas nowadays people seek out a good career and enjoy going out before settling down and having too many responsibilities. If I'm wrong correct me, but how many bars/pubs/clubs have you been to lately? I would think not that many, or not many that a younger crowd go to, which would make me assume your not as aware of what the late 20s early/mid thirty men actually do in there spare time!
I mean what do we actually live for nowadays??? | |
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Posted: 11/25/2011 4:05:36 PM | You have sort of a thuggish, gang-banger appearance in most of your pictures. The fact that you're sporting a mohawk and wear all black in most of them probably doesn't help either.
I'd lose the two pictures with the party girls hanging all over you -- it doesn't impress the ladies, only other men. And you're not trying to date them, are you?
Do you have a car? N/A
That's kind of like when people say "Prefer not to say" under "Body Type". You can pretty much assume that they're fat. In this case, we'll just assume that "N/A" is code for "no".
I do prefer girls who are shorter than me, slim and confident. For those out there who are more superficial and don't like tattoos, perfection is just a long sleeved shirt away ;)
The slim hotties may not like your tattoos, but if you want to be "superficial" and not date fat amazon chicks, then you probably shouldn't expect people not to judge you for your tattoos either. Or at least don't make that hypocrisy known in your profile. | |
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Posted: 11/25/2011 4:05:58 PM | what you live for is your agenda. this is profile review and I'm saying what I see. if you don;t agree dan leave the party pics up !!! that's your choice
I agree with 12th. ( above post) | |
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Posted: 11/25/2011 4:14:51 PM | Alright, so I see one picture where i'm actually partying and there's a girl stood next to me. Is it your perception or the perception of the majority who would think 'oh I don't want to meet a guy like that with a girl stood next to him in a crowd of people'? What i'm getting at here is that the psychology would be i'm able to socialise in a mixed crowd.
As for the other one, where there's me, one other girl and one other guy, she's one of my good friends. There's girls with pictures of guys and guys with pictures of girls. Is it just how my pictures look that give off the wrong impression of my proximity to women??
I do mention about people who want to be superficial in respect to my tattoos - and then go ahead and mention i've got a preference over body type and size. How else do I get the point across that i'm limiting myself to a girl with a slender figure? I could remove the bit about my tattoos, as at the end of the day I do have them so shirt or not the issue doesn't really go away...but body type to me is an important part of physical attraction. | |
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Posted: 11/25/2011 5:06:46 PM | I haven't really read it all but it seems to me that a lot of people are having a go at your pictures... personally I thought they weren't that bad, better than most people have, maybe you need a good solo pic for the main thumbnail but thats about it...
you mentioned another pay site - i'm interested in this because i've signed up to them all! just to see what they are like, obviously i can't do anything with them cos they won't let me view the messages, but i have thought long and hard about paying for a subscription - they are just so damn expensive... and many people on here say they are no better than this free site...
so you are the first person i hear who has used them both and its not suprising really that a on a free site it will be difficult to stand out, there are so many guys who can just put up a profile, more than half of them will be after an easy shag, sexy online chat or are lying about their age/height/marital status etc... as for the girls many on here sign up for an ego boost, many will be reluctant to actually meet and theres an interesting yt video (you should be able to find easily by typing in the name of this site) where two distinctly average ladies are getting their kicks out of laughing at guys who have messaged them...
So i guess that explains your poor luck...
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I read your profile and i liked it - the only thing i would change is the twice mentioning of the gym... you mention it in your 1st paragraph which is fine, but then again in your 3rd... try adding something new in that space and your profile will be peachy...
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twelfth_dimension - two party girls? one of which has stubble if you look closely! but she has a point - not a good thumbnail cos from a distance it looks like you have 2 birds with you! So change that main pic - or at least thumbnail it so you are in focus... | |
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Posted: 11/26/2011 12:34:18 AM | What a legendary reply, thanks.
This is exactly the sort of review I was after.
The other site has a bit of "harmony" in the address. I was offered a cut price subscription and I took it. I would say the reason for the ease of communication is because you can use the progressive stages where first you ask a couple of set questions and take it from there. On here, i'll pick something I like from the profile, mention it in a message and throw in something fun for a little bit of stand out factor. It doesn't work.
The fact is i've had even more response from the more serious site where basically you're not going to get anywhere if you simply want to dip your wick. Although the many profiles i've seen of ladies on here beg for men who can spell, aren't idiots, have a job, aren't headcases etc, still no joy. The other site even has photos of me with a beer in my hand and more nights out BUT one person did mention I looked like too much of a party person.
I have had many dates from the other site but found most were too slow to arrange something after the first or second date. One of my problems is I don't like faffing about waiting for someone to get off their arse and do something.
Point taken about the gym and sorted. | |
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Posted: 11/26/2011 3:27:25 AM | i personally like the mix of photos; you have a pic of on a sheer rock face, on holiday, in a suit etc. as well as you out drinking, which is very normal for a 28 yo (and lets face it a guy you age could be dating a 20 yo uni bird quite easily and she aint gonna want a guy who doesn't go out at weekends)... the one thing you are miissing though is a solo pic - i'll explain:
if you imagine how full a girls inbox is (fantab the girl posting above once said more 30 a day if i remember), they will often look at the small thumbail next to your message to decide wether to open the message or not, your thumbnail pic just shows lots of people; instead you need a clear face shot - if you look at my profile i have made the thumbnail fit all my pics, you do this by adjusting the square in the flash uploader...
i really think the thumbnail is important - more so than any other picture, or your entire text, for example when i have the yellow/red thumbnail i get so many more views than any of my other pics as the main - think it must be the peacock effect...
thanks for the info about that site - i haven't signed up to that one actually, that must be the only one i haven't... i have tried free versions of one begining with z, another with affinity in, and its partner site, also tried a free site which shares a name with noel and liam gallagher's band; that was cr@p there were no girl on it! I'm quite happy with pof though tbh.... | |
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