| | widowed,single and having hell on this site!! lolPage 1 of 2 (1, 2) | | my question is im a 40 yr old single father with 3 kids fulltime..how in the hell do you find a date on this site and i must add some of the woman on here are brutal!!i know im not perfect,but do you guys have any suggestions?? be nice now.. | |
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| widowed,single and having hell on this site!! lol
Posted: 11/28/2011 10:05:22 AM | OP seeing as everyone else is making an attempt to put thier best foot forward and not being honest ( if this is your view ) then you are not putting yourself in the running with all the other fish vying for the attention of the women on this site.
I have to ask have you made it clear to any woman that you would be happy to meet a someone who also has the responsibility of being a parent to 3 children full time.
I don't see very much in your profile at all and no mention of the fact that you are a fulll time single parent of three kids. Is your idea of honesty concealing the truth about yourself and the main priorities in your life?
How about adding something to your about me section to the effect of " I am a full time father of three wonderfull children ( forget the wonderfull part if they are a bunch of brats ) and would love to meet a single parent with a few kids of thier own - or would that statement be too dishonest.
Yes you could benifit from a profile review and I think you are getting one anyway.
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| widowed,single and having hell on this site!! lol
Posted: 11/28/2011 10:10:01 AM | | absolutely,im very upfront and try to make it a point about having kids and now im really leaning for another partner with kids,theres not to many woman who will date a guy with kids that are just single..guess if i find the right one with kids we can start a baseball team!!lol | |
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| widowed,single and having hell on this site!! lol
Posted: 11/28/2011 10:13:17 AM | How would getting some insight on how to make your profile more appealing/readable make you less honest? Think about your statement.
Your profile is blah and hard to read. If you want to date, you might have to work a bit harder to make your online profile better. You aren't required to lie or mislead. Look at it this way, if you go out on a date I would suppose you take a shower, put on clean and nest clothes and brush your teeth. Is that being dishonest or putting on a false front? No, of course not, it is just making what you are more appealing. | |
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| widowed,single and having hell on this site!! lol
Posted: 11/28/2011 11:17:18 AM | just a quick note on your profile, carma... spelled wrong, its Karma with a K, not c
and by the way, sorry about your situation, must be hard to lose a spouse at so young an age with small kids.
yes the women can be brutal, same for the guys.
best to you ! | |
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| widowed,single and having hell on this site!! lol
Posted: 11/29/2011 11:22:44 AM | | Play up your strong points. A widower raising three children is clearly responsible and loyal, and you are single through no fault of your own. I suspect a lot of the ladies here will be interested if you give it time. | |
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| widowed,single and having hell on this site!! lol
Posted: 11/29/2011 2:53:37 PM | | Cama, I’m with you about the honesty, tho. If everyone is frontin’ (think Type ‘R’ sticker that adds 50 horse power-and large, coffee can muffler), then stay true and keep it real! I have only been on a couple days, and already have seen a plethora of profiles sporting pics 5-10 years old. | |
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| widowed,single and having hell on this site!! lol
Posted: 11/29/2011 4:48:16 PM | OP...well, I'm 55 and widowed with kids ages 9 and 11...so, let me tell you what I know.
1) Go to profile review and get help
2) Write your profile in word (checking for spelling, grammar, and punctuation)...then cut and paste it here
3) Write good initial contact
4) Write better initial contact
5) Write to 30 or 40 women within a week...expecting a 5% reply rate or 2-4 replies.
6)Lower your expectations
7) Good luck | |
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| widowed,single and having hell on this site!! lol
Posted: 11/29/2011 4:59:05 PM | Nothing personal, but your profile essay made my eyes cross. I couldn't read it to save my life.
Go for the profile review. It's not about honesty or accuracy, it's about spelling, grammar, and punctuation. I pass by womens' profiles that are written like yours, regardless of what they say or what they look like in their photos. | |
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| widowed,single and having hell on this site!! lol
Posted: 11/30/2011 2:30:38 PM | | i wanted thank all of you for your help with my profile..much appreciated ..i tryed to spruce it up as much as i could,my interest section didnt turn out like i wanted,its still under consruction..lol but,im working on it!!baby steps guys..everybody happy holidays!! | |
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| widowed,single and having hell on this site!! lol
Posted: 12/2/2011 12:20:01 AM | Heres some good advice and i learned this from a woman i used to date state the facts but leave the details out of the equation until the time is right, nobody has to know all your business until you decide they are the right fit for you. its not being dishonest, but your life should be precious and you gotta treat it that way, heres an example not to sound disrespectful.... you have a penis and two nuts, its ok that she knows you have a penis she doesnt need to know how big it is or if you have small nuts or large ones understand.
its like selling a car, year , make, and model, ect......... ultimately dont give a price right away let them ask you about the car or wait until you get them to the dealership then you can give them all the details....... i hope i made this alittle easier | |
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| widowed,single and having hell on this site!! lol
Posted: 12/2/2011 8:13:26 AM | i think you made it easier!!lol that was funny,and true though...thanx for the advice. ok,note to self"keep penis and nut size to myself!!"lol..ahhh man,sorry im still laughing!! | |
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| widowed,single and having hell on this site!! lol
Posted: 12/5/2011 9:27:52 AM | I have 3 children and am single. I don't mind dating guys with kids at all. The profile info was good for you because if I had only seen your profile I would have skipped over you. You list 2 interests, and one of them is so open ended. What will we talk about? Do you have any interests other than children and plumbing.
If you have a kid free weekend, what do you enjoy doing? Which I am sure is not often when you are widowed.
I wish you much luck, maybe trying looking at it from a lady's point of view. | |
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| widowed,single and having hell on this site!! lol
Posted: 12/7/2011 6:01:29 PM | | Remove the picture with you and your child. I am a single mom and I do not talk to guys who put pictures of their kids on their profiles. This is an online dating site and you never know who is looking. | |
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| widowed,single and having hell on this site!! lol
Posted: 12/8/2011 6:55:44 AM | | actually i've had alot more responses,having my pix with me and my daughter,i was like you at first,but i think it's been working a little better for me.as far as concern for potential weirdo's,there everywhere as easily as typing your name in the computer..here in texas firearms are very common and we have the right to protect ourselves..and i certainly would.. | |
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| widowed,single and having hell on this site!! lol
Posted: 12/8/2011 8:03:34 PM | read the forums, invest a weekend in it, there is a wealth of information here on what to expect dating as a single parent, as a middle ager, as a man, on the web, and the whole combination of doing all of that in this modern world.
My experience with women who can be brutal, is that men do not police themselves. Of course, neither do women.
I call my girls on any behavior that I find to be game playing. I notice they call out their friends in kind. It isn't acceptable behavior in this house and I hope that I have taught good examples.
What I don't see is men (since that is mostly who I work with and around) calling out their buddies and acquaintences for crappy behavior to women. And here, on the site, the letters that women get are just phenomenal. I get hate letters for saying that I am not 420 friendly, that I won't date a heavy drinker or heavy smoker, and that due to my lack of free time and resources, I won't date men who live at a distance from me. I mean HATEFUL letters. They usually start out nice enough but byt the second or tthird the whiney BS starts. any indication of that can send an oversensitive over prodded woman over the edge.
It's not an excuse, mind you, it's just an explanation. | |
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| widowed,single and having hell on this site!! lol
Posted: 12/10/2011 7:30:09 AM | Hmmm depends what the brutal is. Most of the Men on here/or any site a brutal too. It is up to us to feel that attraction first visually, the read the profiles carefully. Look for the little things like.. If they smoke, want or dont want kids, etc. All that is to help us in our journey to find our comfort levels with the "right" person. Hope that helps
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| widowed,single and having hell on this site!! lol
Posted: 12/12/2011 5:28:06 AM | | I am having the exact same problem - doing this as a widow with kids is brutal and I am about to give up - seems that the majority of people on here are only looking for a quick fix so to speak, have no intentions of ever actually forming a real relationship with anyone or are so freaked out by the combination of single parent plus widow that they never even take a chance. Wondering if there is a point? BTW 35 3 kids widowed since 2006. Good luck | |
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