| | possible hang out?Page 1 of 1 | | Hi, as I mentioned in a previous post I am really crushing on a guy in one of my classes. I have never really had a boyfriend before so I'm not the best at interpreting signals. In the past while we have been talking alot and lately he has been really friendly to me. I was talking to him the other day when we were leaving class and mid conversation he asked me if was done class for the day...is that possibly a hint that he was going to ask me to hang out? he also said he was done for the day and then I stupidly said that I had an appointment (which is true) but didn't really think about what he was potentially implying. I was just wondering if a guy would ask me that as a way of asking to hang out maybe or chances are he was just asking. Thanks! | |
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Posted: 12/1/2011 8:15:25 AM | | Whats wrong with putting yourself out there and asking him yourself? Why do guys have to make the move, equal right's. right? | |
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Posted: 12/1/2011 8:19:40 AM | | Hard to say. Could have been idle chit chat or may have been seeing if you were available to hang out. If you really like him I would just ask him out for coffee or maybe there's some venue on campus you two could go to together. See where it goes from there. | |
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Posted: 12/1/2011 8:39:52 AM | | Just ask. If you like him, and he's taking the time to talk to you, then obviously he holds some interest. Next time that happens just take advantage of the segue. Dude above me is right. It's entirely possible the guy you like is just as shy or inexperienced as you and is trying to read your signals as well. | |
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Posted: 12/1/2011 9:30:39 AM | Stop the confusion do something concrete and see what happens with him ...you have nothing to loose and everything to gain.
we dont knwo from what you said but it is certain he has some interest in you. How much this is only you can find out by asking him or agreeing - why not next time tell him you are free after class and see what happens | |
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Posted: 12/1/2011 9:35:02 AM | First of all “alot” is spelled “a lot”, sooooo many people make that mistake so please, don't be one of them anymore.
I can see that you are bran new to the dating world as, you are already showing behaviours of others who have actually been in that world for eons.
The bottom line of what is important here is, just focus on YOURSELF. Doing that will sinmplify your life tremendously.
lately he has been really friendly to me
Great but now, how do you react to that? Do you still let him make the first move or do you step out of your confort zone and initiate something?
is that possibly a hint that he was going to ask me to hang out?
It could have been just as it could have been some secret code words meaning something completely different. You see again, take what was said at face value and react to it. Doing that is sooo much easier :)
he also said he was done for the day and then I stupidly said that I had an appointment (which is true) but didn't really think about what he was potentially implying
He might or might not have been implying anything but none the less, how do you now react to that?
I was just wondering if a guy would ask me that as a way of asking to hang out maybe or chances are he was just asking
Again, we don't know so the question still comes back to you of wondering “hoe do you react to this?”. | |
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Posted: 12/1/2011 9:47:49 AM | | It's funny....I was talking to one of my co-workers who has a son in college. His son told him the other day that he was shocked about the women at his college. He said that they were the aggressors and seemed to always be the ones to make the first move. | |
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Posted: 12/1/2011 2:38:18 PM | Sounds to me that his intentions can be friendly or "friendly". It is too confusing to say where he stands because the description of these events aren't really leaning one way or the other.
He could have become nicer because he likes you as a friend/person or because he likes you as a woman. With that said, his actions are pointing that he wants to hang out with you regardless. I encourage for you to get the "balls" and ask him out yourself. Be upfront about it to. Say something like, "hey, John Doe, lets go out for a cup of coffee or grab a bite to eat today after our class". Direct. Gives him your intentions straight up (spending time with him) and gives him a set time (after class). It won't be vague so there is little room for him to not understand you. If he has plans after class then suggest a better time to do it (within the week hopefully and make sure you set a specific time). Set up your "date", give him your number, get his, let him know that he can contact you when he likes and take it from there.
If he is interested you will go out. If he is not, he will bail/reschedule but never own up to his word.
If you do go out, test the waters. If you are still interested the set up another "date" and perhaps be direct to him by letting him know that you find him attractive.
Take charge girl. Guys, especially younger guys, will like a girl with confidence and guts. You are 20 so you should already know what girl power is all about. Take charge and whatever happens, happens and you move on.  | |
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Posted: 12/1/2011 3:41:24 PM | You're only 20, don't waste your time with having a boyfriend. Thats a waste of time.
"Striaght guys" don't want to just hang out with girls. He has been "Really friendly" to you because he is thinking about you naked.
His goal is to get you naked and "Make out", not "Hang out". He just lacks the confidence to tell you he thinks you are sexy.
I was just wondering if a guy would ask me that as a way of asking to hang out
If he is gay, then yes.
If he is straight, then he wants to see you naked. | |
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Posted: 12/1/2011 4:45:35 PM | If he was leading up to that and a smart guy...he probably figures you are a smart gal and knew that's where he was headed when you mentioned the appointment. It would be enough for me to get the hint.
You're probably going to need to ask him out...if you want to go out with him. I very easily could be wrong. Just ask him out and hope he doesn't have "appointments". | |
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Posted: 12/1/2011 5:21:25 PM | A guy usually won't start any type of conversation with a girl unless he's interested.
However, I sort of doubt he was asking if you were thru with class hoping that you guys could hang out for remainer of the day. More than likely he was attempting to start a conversation with you in hopes of getting to know you more and at some point hoping to date you.
You did NOT blow it by telling him that you had an appointment, but you may have blown it if you cut the conversation shorter than necessary. If you're intersted, you should talk to him again. | |
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Posted: 12/1/2011 7:31:36 PM | yes its possible he was looking for an opening to ask you out.
now that theres dialog between you two about classes ending for the day you have an opener to bring it up and try again.
if you`re too skiddish to ask him, just make the comment that your classes are done for the day and you have no appointments. then flip your hair back and bat them eyelashes at him. | |
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Posted: 12/1/2011 8:08:41 PM | If you want something in life, go and get it.
(Always avoid the consequences of not taking risks.) | |
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Posted: 12/1/2011 9:36:45 PM |
First of all “alot” is spelled “a lot”, sooooo many people make that mistake so please, don't be one of them anymore.
Sigh... really? Look her post was not rife with errors. It was a very legible post. It's kind of a douche bag move to correct her spelling here. Especially when in very next sentence you have...
I can see that you are "bran" new to the dating world
and you end the post with...
comes back to you of wondering “hoe" do you react to this?”.
We all make mistakes. None of us are perfect. Pointing out her mistakes (just like the reasonable mistakes that you made) is a jack-a$$ move. | |
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Posted: 12/2/2011 12:26:10 AM | We always say it but girls never seem to hear it or when they do....they don't rely on it too much.
We can't read your mind.
Which means, he probably doesn't want to ruin a friendship with you by asking you out if you don't feel that way. It would make things awkward. It would be "manly" if he took the chance since, if he's a man he can take being shot down but if he's a good man he's maybe trying to be considerate of you and doesn't want to make things awkward at all. So I agree, ask him if you're interested in him. He may be interested in you, you never know but he's not ignoring you at all. He's talking to you for more then just "hi/bye"
Good luck. | |
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Posted: 12/2/2011 3:15:00 AM |
You need to learn to flirt before you learn to play Hide The Sausage.
Without some basic flirting/conversation skills you will get eaten (but not eaten out) for breakfast by experienced douche bag guys.
You won't be able to approach gentler male types and make their day by asking them out.
You don't tell a guy that is talking to you and you are interested in that you have an appointment lol .. you might as well tell him hes the ugliest twort you have ever set your eyes upon and to get out of your space before you puke.
You say something like ...deciding what to wear when you ask me out for dinner next week Big Boy !
Unless he's fat in which case you might want to say .....Hung Like A Donkey Boy...
You get the idea .. or will you just dismiss this advice as silly and carry on being ineffectual because after all that's the easiest thing to do isn't it and the right person will come along if you wait ?
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Posted: 12/2/2011 5:01:03 AM | some bad advice on here..^^
If he asks what you are up to in the future and you have something going on.. Then say I have an appointment today but I would really like to spend some time with you outside of class some other time.
To me it sounds like he is testing the waters to find out if you have time before he asks. He could just want to hang as friends or have other motives... Either way he was sizing up the situation before he asked. | |
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Posted: 12/2/2011 6:26:19 AM | but if he's a good man he's maybe trying to be considerate of you and doesn't want to make things awkward at all.
That is just a huge cop out !
He's not a "good" man on this evidence. he is either a sexually disinterested or an ineffective uncompetitive "man" that needs to learn to spot and act on opportunities.
See what lengths people will go to justify their wussy behaviour ?
A male after poonani needs to avoid this sort of wrong thinking.
Same for men that want to imagine they are getting higher quality later / or might get it/ or have told themselves they don't want it yet - because you have to be capable of turning it on when opportunities present themselves.
It is an absolute failure to comprehend the rules of nature that so many"nice" gents out there hide behind "nice" gent behaviour derived from convoluted defensive thinking, that has got nothing to do with trying to win and everything to do with cowardice.
Nice gents have to compete at a base sexual level before they get a chance to turn it up and compete at the "nice" gent cerebral level.
Likewise "nice" girls need to compete at a base sexual level and learn to talk to and flirt with guys.
^^^ Treating dating like business meetings is not the best thing to do even for women that are worried that a man might think her "easy" if she does more than hint at a passing interest in him.
What prospect would you go for ? The "spending some time outside class" girl or the one that's apparently offering a cast iron guaranteed fun night out ?
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Posted: 12/2/2011 6:44:09 AM | | It could have been small talk since you have been talking with him a lot lately. On that note, you could invite him out for a coffee after class, or a light lunch. Don't assume anything that might be something innocent because you may set yourself to daydreaming scenarios with this guy. Of course, anything is possible so take the initiative. | |
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Posted: 12/2/2011 10:32:20 AM | This is truly a stupid question !
I'm sure that like me.....most guys here failed that mind reading class.
I guess you'll never know what he wanted unless you ask him !!! | |
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Posted: 12/2/2011 5:12:50 PM | | You don't have to be direct and ask him out on a date, or to go for refreshments. Girls I've known are usually more devious, like asking about course material, if he has time to explain something to you, can he recommend a place for lunch, and so on. | |
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