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 crayonmaster
Joined: 6/9/2011
Msg: 1
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Hi all.
Just curious if anyone is reading the Quebec forum #1, we're 3rd to last behind PEI and NWFLD...voyons donc!

So what's your message ratio related to images?

User has private images - would you send a message or skip?

No image - profile is great, but we're visual creatures...would you send a message?

image - a picture tells a 1000 words, but does it make you NOT message?

happy fishing!
 pomolive
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 2
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Posted: 12/22/2011 6:15:06 PM
FOR MYSELF I DON'T REALLY CARE IF HE HAS A PICTURE OR NOT ,IF THE CONVERSATION FLOWS THATS ALL THAT MATTERS IN THE BEGINNING, IN TIME SURE I WOULD WANT TO SEE A PICTURE OF WHOM I'VE BEEN TALKING TOO. BUT SEEING HIS PICTURE IS NOT GOING TO CHANGE ANYTHING ,IF OUR CONVERSATIONS HAVE BEEN GREAT...
 crayonmaster
Joined: 6/9/2011
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Posted: 12/23/2011 7:31:59 AM
thanks pomolive !

So those conversations you mentioned, did they start with you sending a message to a profile with no images or perhaps with private images?

That's the discussion I was having with other POF'ers offline from the forums.

I do tend to skip over the no image or private image profiles.
When I read the About Me or Interests sections, and they are really enticing, I'm still more likely to skip over the profiles.
I guess I'm more comfortable in visually seeing the person, just to know that I might be interested in going that extra step of initating a conversation by sending a message.
 pomolive
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 4
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Posted: 12/23/2011 7:43:32 AM
I so rarely send out e-mails. I wait on e-mails sent to me and I reply to them all, either way picture or no picture.thats the polite, honest way to be.
 crayonmaster
Joined: 6/9/2011
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Posted: 12/23/2011 9:06:28 AM
My profile is set up to accept messages from profiles without images, but there is an option to restrict any messages from profiles with out images.
I thought about turning it on but then I thought about if I were to like the person on paper only, why dismiss them, right?
The thing is, I am motivated to send new messages to profiles with images that I also like what they wrote in the their profile.

Oh and I definitely don't always reply to messages I get and I don't think it's impolite to just delete. A recent message I got was from a lady who is a non-smoker profile and on her about me, she explains that she smokes joints at night to relax...give me a break!
I am pretty clear about smokers on my profile, that's a deal breaker for me, big turn off.

Happy Holidays pomolive!
 pomolive
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 6
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Posted: 12/23/2011 9:38:15 AM
I haven't a clue how my profile is set up. I don't think I have any sort of restrictions on picture or no picture...If the person takes the time to send me an e-mail, the very least that I can do is reply......postively or negatively.....!.


Merry Christmas
 ned_c
Joined: 9/15/2011
Msg: 7
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Posted: 5/21/2012 10:59:53 AM
thats where males and females differ. vastly.
we are visual creatures.

im having this debacle myself. i want to see photos, but then, if i ask for photos and im not attracted to the girl
ill feel bad for blanking her. im hardly going to say, sorry, but i dont find you attractive

though in essence thats what i am saying by blanking her.

so.

to message or not to message...
 stark_industries
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 8
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Posted: 6/7/2012 6:20:11 PM
no picture = not taking this seriously. I don't care about looks (at all) but if someone doesnt put one up or refuses to show one than I loose interest. Also, I find you can tell a lot about a person by their picture (i.e. if their smiling or holding booze...those things influence me)
 Biker1967
Joined: 10/4/2010
Msg: 9
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Posted: 6/8/2012 12:15:50 PM
I hate seeing myself on a picture, does not meen I don`t look good, some people also judge too fast, I know for one people judge too fast by looks, sometimes just because they fell intimidated by what transpires from the looks of the person.

Just my 2 cents
 Mountain_Cat2
Joined: 7/14/2012
Msg: 10
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Posted: 7/25/2012 7:36:48 AM
Hello , to me I find it not so credible profile when there is no picture and what is the purpose of being on a dating site without posting your picture , this is not a beauty contest but it is being up front about the real motives for being here , i personally think everyone should have a picture of themself , alot of times the ones not posting pictures are just playing their games in here and wasting people time and theirs!
 MusicFred
Joined: 3/2/2011
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Posted: 7/25/2012 8:49:38 AM
I once dated a girl who had no profile pic, because she was a high visibility professionnal and didn't want her customers/co-workers seeing her on here (I didnt really ask her why, to each his own).

I think I waited for a week and 6-7 back and forth messages before asking for a picture, and I was pleasantly surprised !

We saw each other for 9 months, then it went to shit but that's another story :p

Nowadays if someone writes me without a pic, I will reply but ask for a pic (or at least WHY that person has no pic)
 avatar52
Joined: 5/6/2012
Msg: 12
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Posted: 7/25/2012 9:28:06 AM
I can understand some ladies wanting to be careful about posting photos on a public site. If one is sent along with a message, that's ok with me...
:-))
 Mountain_Cat2
Joined: 7/14/2012
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Posted: 7/25/2012 10:00:12 AM
Seems though with my experience in here in mtl area anyways ,lots of men who dont post a picture are not real and genuine profiles, hey we are adult ,i fugure everyone should assume being on a dating site and even if it means everyone finds out ... what is so unprofessional about being on a dating site , this is the modern day way of finding love ,which ever their own definition of love that is ; i call it each their own appropriate love !
 SimpleMat
Joined: 1/22/2013
Msg: 14
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Posted: 1/29/2013 12:31:33 PM
Hi everyone,

I agree it's a good question to ask why is there no picture.
But then, if there is a picture it doesn't mean it's gonna click.

I said that in another thread, to be in a relationship, it's important to be attracted by the other one, if I do not find a girl beautiful, how will I make her feel beautifull ?

And if I don't, how would she feel ?

Some people can feel the connexion through the intellect only, personnaly I need it to be both in the personnality, in the intelligence and in the body.

But eh, It is only to be polite to answer to someone who wrote you a decent email, isn'it ?
It's better to be told straight ahead "not interested, sorry", then to be ignored.

All of this being said, and since we're talking about pictures, people, please, do not post a photo of you with your ex-boyfriend/girlfriend. It's depressing, if you're up for a new relationship, maybe it's not for the best to present you by a relic of the last one... Who would like to feel like the replacing plan ?

Somebody might want to date you, but nobody not your ex and certainly not you thinking about your ex.

Just speaking my mind, ^_^
 Commonsens
Joined: 1/29/2013
Msg: 15
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Posted: 2/6/2013 3:22:28 PM
(yup guess who's back..but as a simple member now)

Pictures, privates, no pics....Its about reciprocity and politeness first.

- You do have public images on your profile, Perfect!! do they date of THIS decade, is the question! If your pictures are more than 2-3 years old...insert the date; otherwise you are deceptive and shooting yourself in the foot the second the person first see you in the flesh.

- You have private images and you message some who display her/his picture publicly? the decent thing to do is to include one of your private image in the message. Not doing so is a flag of either lacking in politeness and proper education...or you have something to hide...again you are shooting yourself in the foot.

- You have private images and you message someone who do not display pictures (having none or private), negotiate that both exchange pics after few message; reciprocity and knowing "what's what".

- You have no image at all? Either you been living in a cave..or have something to hide, including that you're not serious...its a big red flag for many.
 Fezuke_Kimachi
Joined: 1/7/2013
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Posted: 2/26/2013 11:29:33 PM
It irritates me 50 times more to see a profile with only one sentence in the description, than having no pictures. And the worst of all, is both.
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