| | Atheism and DatingPage 1 of 10 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10) | | I don't exactly advertise the fact that I'm an atheist when I'm meeting women. One time, I was dating this girl for a couple of months, and I told her I didn't believe in God. She cried. Anyone have similar experiences? | |
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Posted: 12/23/2011 12:16:33 PM | | I think you'll find in the responses that the reaction you got is pretty much an American issue. I'm guessing reactions would be similar in Saudi Arabia, but there don't seem to be any Saudis posting here, much less atheist Saudis. | |
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Posted: 12/23/2011 12:16:58 PM | Of course she cried - you basically told her she was horrible in bed .
Way to go !
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Posted: 12/23/2011 1:48:02 PM |
Sucking in bed is a bad thing?
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Posted: 12/23/2011 2:21:15 PM | Santa knows you guys are being naughty! 'wink'
Who cares if someone believes in god or not, as long as they're passionate in bed!
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Posted: 12/23/2011 3:30:37 PM | | I prefer to be in a relationship with another atheist. I consider myself a bit of a 'fundamental' atheist so if my girlfriend isn't atheist I'll just end up trying to change them. | |
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Posted: 12/23/2011 5:01:27 PM | ^^^ lol
For me, I'm an athiest but have no problem seeing non athiests so long as they're not preachy. An ideal match would be someone who could debate their views with me, whatever they may be, without beeing offended and if about religion: not with intent to convert (direct intent anyway haha)
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Posted: 12/23/2011 6:05:00 PM |
I'm an athiest but have no problem seeing non athiests so long as they're not preachy.
No serious believer(in their right mind) would carry on a (serious) relationship with an atheist. This is not because of haughtiness or disdain over the non believer, but because it goes against the very tenets of what a believer is to strive for; that is, to keep growing in faith!
The OP was lucky to be in that relationship for that long; in most cases it would have ended far sooner! | |
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Posted: 12/23/2011 6:36:39 PM |
No serious believer(in their right mind) would carry on a (serious) relationship with an atheist. This is not because of haughtiness or disdain over the non believer, but because it goes against the very tenets of what a believer is to strive for; that is, to keep growing in faith
this may be true .... in fact arguably certainly true thanks to your bracketed inserts, but I'm still stating it holds no issue with me :-)
You're a new name I've come across on here so I would just like to point out that I am very lowly educated, one symptom of this is I don't have such an impressive vocabulary or even true understanding of many of the words I do possess in it.... so please excuse my crude point making techniques lol
If there are say exactly 2billion theists in the world and only 1 million theists that are of sane mind are willing and happy to settle down with an atheist (I was just reading some old threads talking about definitions of "belief about God" termonology and of course I've discovered that what knowlage I had on the matter is only a scratch of the truth lol) while it's a small percentage, making generalising more forgivable, who would argue that a million is a small number?
I'm well aware that these figures are BS but it's for illustration purpose only haha .... and the subject of theists dating athiests is also changeable to any topic to show my belief :-)
In summary: There are always exceptions (yes, I'm very verbose) | |
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Posted: 12/23/2011 8:34:51 PM | I don't think I could handle either an atheist nor a very religious.
Have never had an atheist girlfriend so I'm not quite sure. However I do know that it would be very uncomfortable to be with someone that looked at all religion as a mockery and a joke. To me it feels unethical.
The same goes for the true believers in religion. I can't grasp the concept of someone that thinks that the earth is a few thousand years old, believes in anything that overtly dismisses the humanity of other races or points of views. To me it feels unethical.
Ethics and science are cool. Especially if you think about them. | |
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Posted: 12/23/2011 8:35:36 PM | | Not yet. I won't even ponder them if they have a religion for romance. It's a question I would ask long before months have passed. Atheism is fairly popular in my circles. Skeptical junkies in the computer world. Hell, we don't even like other peoples IDEs, programs, or OS sometimes. No surprise we don't like their gods. | |
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Posted: 12/23/2011 10:19:21 PM | Interesting thread!
I think most non-fundamentalist Christians could handle dating a non-fundamentalist atheist, and likely vice-versa. But if either party is absolutely certain that his/her belief is fact, I don't think it's possible.
I was a skeptical practicing catholic, and dated an atheist. He and his atheist friends were utter douchenozzles, but atheism didn't make them that way, and they did not become atheists because of said douchenozzledom...
I truly believe it's possible for an atheist and a christian to have a romantic relationship as long as both parties truly respect the other's viewpoint...oh, look! Is that a unicorn?
Yeah...we can dream... | |
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Posted: 12/23/2011 11:24:06 PM |
I don't exactly advertise the fact that I'm an atheist when I'm meeting women. One time, I was dating this girl for a couple of months, and I told her I didn't believe in God. She cried. Anyone have similar experiences?
Were those tears of joy - perhaps because she found a man who has the same beliefs as her?
Or were those tears of sorrow - perhaps because she believes you are a lost soul?
Freakin unicorns piss me off!
I knew I was not the only one!
Do unicorns really think their horn makes them more aerodynamic than say a horse with a horn on it's head? Oh those arrogant unicorns! | |
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Posted: 12/23/2011 11:28:10 PM |
Were those tears of joy - perhaps because she found a man who has the same beliefs as her?
Or were those tears of sorrow - perhaps because she believes you are a lost soul?
That would be, "Loss of connection." | |
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Posted: 12/24/2011 4:54:55 AM | | My son has been talking to some girl for at least two years. He never covered up the fact that he isn't a Christian. All the sudden she couldn't accept his lack of belief and they couldn't be friends any longer. ****es be trippin' | |
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Posted: 12/24/2011 5:12:39 AM | | I couldn't date someone without a spiritual equation or wonder. I couldn't date a materialistic and individualistic woman. | |
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Posted: 12/24/2011 6:39:40 AM |
I couldn't date someone without a spiritual equation or wonder.
While I could ... it probably wouldn't last long because IMHO, to not wonder would most likely be connected to low intelligence.
I couldn't date a materialistic and individualistic woman
I don't think most "good" men could haha
Just to point out though, a theist can be both these things .... the first one less so, unless they believe in a God because they were brought up to and never questioned it :-)
Gertrude:
I love your point about unicorns being harmless unless too heavily saght after ... a grteat analogy to life :-) | |
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Posted: 12/24/2011 11:19:57 AM | | My girlfriend knows I'm an Atheist. In fact I gave her an audio book copy of "The God Delusion" by Richard Dawkins. We both come from Jewish upbringing. She's not much of a God believer and especially doesn't like organized religion anyway. Frankly shes doesn't believe in God as a supernatural supreme being that created the Universe as most religious people believe. | |
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Posted: 12/24/2011 7:29:20 PM | I put it right there in my profile that I don't believe in anything.. but I'm ok if she does as long as she doesn't waste too much valuable free time in her preferred place of worship. That much being said I've had long term relationships with women who did spend time in church and did their share of praying. While it didn't thrill me, I have to be realistic.. I already have rather stringent requirements for a girlfriend and if I stick to athiests I'm down to about 17 percent of the population before I apply the rest of my rules.. and that would make it almost impossible to meet the type of woman I'm looking for.
On the other hand, they didn't seem to mind my lack of belief.. but I don't know how many women pass over my profile because they realize I'm not going to be kneeling next to them on Sunday mornings. | |
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Posted: 12/24/2011 7:58:54 PM |
One time, I was dating this girl for a couple of months, and I told her I didn't believe in God. She cried. Anyone have similar experiences?
I met one woman here who met me without asking what ``non-religous'' meant and then after meeting her and setting up a second date, she decided to clear that up. Once she understood that meant ``athiest,'' the second date was off. After that, I added a line to my profile telling religious zealots to not contact me. | |
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Posted: 12/24/2011 8:28:19 PM | Wouldn't a "real" Christian try to show you the light? I have issues with faith myself, but I DO go to church every Sunday and that really seems to be one of the things they preach. Hell, my Mom cried when I told her that I didn't have the same faith that she does.
The thing is, if you're a true atheist, maybe it's best to just keep that to yourself. After all, it's not like there's some sort of higher power that you have to please...your belief system says that you can do whatever you want. What exactly is the harm in just refraining from telling your loved ones that you don't believe in their God? Sometimes wearing your heart on your sleeve causes more harm than good. | |
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Posted: 12/24/2011 10:42:03 PM | Atheism just means the person doesn't believe in a god; it doesn't mean you don't have some ideas of what we are and what our default position (so to speak) is when we're not time-spacing. An atheist doesn't necessarily believe there's nothing outside of our life here-now.
That said, empathy can go a long way in bridging the gap between someone who has theistic beliefs and oneself who doesn't share those beliefs. Just as a person might be part of a camera club, say, and go to those meetings, but their SO isn't into photography and so stays home or does something else, so can the religious mate go to church and the other person do something else during that time period. It's part of the right to individuality within the relationship.
Unless an SO was pushy about it or determined to 'convert' me, I would not have a problem with that person being theistic, as long as he didn't mind me not being a 'believer' of what he believes. | |
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