| | Would you be ok with your kids dating online? Page 1 of 1 | My sons are 20, 18 and 16, raised in a single parent home with a relatively normal upbringing. One in university, two in high school. My sons were raised that school, sports and work comes before hanging out with friends.
To my question: I noticed many young adults on POF looking for people to date. Then I started to wonder if my older sons were on POF, so I asked them. After they stopped mocking me for being on POF, they said no they don't date online. They don't use Facebook, Twitter ect. I was relieved because I don't want my kids dating online, given my experiences with online dating, I think it could leave them jaded and socially inept.
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| Would you be ok with your kids dating online?
Posted: 1/2/2012 12:00:06 AM | | I would actively discourage them from dating online. Mainly because the real world is out there for them, and they should be getting out and socialising at those young ages. | |
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| Would you be ok with your kids dating online?
Posted: 1/2/2012 5:26:43 AM | If I do it, it would be rather hypocritical to tell them not to, unless there were a specific REASON that the situation was age-linked.
As far as I'm concerned, online stuff is no different than "real life" stuff, from the standpoint that in all situations, there are risks and lessons. In my "real" life, most of which took place before the internet, there was just as much delusion, lies, tricks, and problems from deluded people earnestly claiming to be something they weren't, as I've seen on the internet. After all, people haven't changed.
In dealing with ones children, it is ALWAYS the adults responsibility to try to properly prepare the child for the dangers and consequences of what ever they are about to get into. For myself, I was not AT ALL prepared, either by my parents, or by my educational system, to deal with the fact that this world is populated by a LARGE subset of liars and opportunists. In fact, I was more or less set up to be a patsy by them, unintentionally, as a part of their trying to PROTECT ME from those very swinish people.
So if my own children wanted to try online dating, I would let them, AND I would consider it my duty as a parent, to try to help them RECOGNIZE the dangers that are inherent to the venue. It's no different than letting your children meet strangers at shopping malls, or sporting events, or anything else. | |
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| Would you be ok with your kids dating online?
Posted: 1/2/2012 7:00:38 AM | My daughter was the one who put me on this site.
She met a wonderful man, and they are in the process of moving in together.
So the answer is ... I'm ok with my kids dating online. | |
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Posted: 1/2/2012 2:54:05 PM |
If I do it, it would be rather hypocritical to tell them not to, unless there were a specific REASON that the situation was age-linked.
As far as I'm concerned, online stuff is no different than "real life" stuff, from the standpoint that in all situations, there are risks and lessons. In my "real" life, most of which took place before the internet, there was just as much delusion, lies, tricks, and problems from deluded people earnestly claiming to be something they weren't, as I've seen on the internet. After all, people haven't changed.
I was a wild child growing up, most of the things I tell them not to do are based on experience, I am hypocritical often.
I don't want my children learning their interpersonal skills online. To me online dating is like prozac, it provides a cheap thrill that screws with natural chemistry. I think online has far more falsehoods than real life, and I believe it runs the risk of them being jaded or unrealistic in their expectations. I couldn't or wouldn't stop them from dating online, they are men who have a good understanding of risk and thrills of courting.
My youngest son has been in a committed relationship for a year with a girl he met at school. My middle son is special needs and still not at the dating stage. And my oldest son, well he is a natural with woman.
And I'm not on POF to date. I like the forums. | |
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Posted: 1/2/2012 4:40:02 PM | | i've always found online dating to be helpful when you're in a new area or are just too busy with work to get out and meet people. when you're younger it's easier to meet people at work because you're working at places like malls and movie theaters. when you're older and doing warehouse work or in my case, wind farms construction, you don't have the same connections. facebook isnt the same as POF because you know people who know people who are single. you can meet them easier than asking someone out on here and then meeting them. | |
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Posted: 1/4/2012 8:42:56 AM | | I see no reason why kids this age need an online dating site, they are much more social then say us in our 30's and 40's with a family etc. So I would discourage it. | |
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Posted: 1/5/2012 11:15:49 AM | Nope, I will NEVER be ok with my daughter talking to a boy let alone dating while I am still alive. 
Shes 14 and the cuties speech doesn't work anymore.  | |
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| Would you be ok with your kids dating online?
Posted: 2/2/2012 12:42:41 PM | 20 years ago I was mortifyed when my mum met a man through the lonley hearts collum in the paper......I didnt tell my friends where she met him......they have been married for 19 years this year......
Even a couple of years back I wouldnt have admitted to being on a dating site......
change happens as the world turns huh?
My son is 9 and already a natural with the older ladies...... haha.....but if he ever needed/ wanted to date online (or what ever is out there when he is old enough to date at 25!!!) then I would give him as much support and guidence as I could to ease him through the pitfalls........
Wineandroses.....as a single mum who works nights I find it hard to meet people......im sur there are alot on here in a similar possition.....however.....if it wasnt for the forums I would have been gone a while ago....... | |
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