| | She got my name tattooed after 11 weeks together... what can i do?Page 1 of 3 (1, 2, 3) | Iv'e been seeing a girl from here for about 11 weeks. I came out of a 4 year relationship earlier this year and not really looking for anything serious. I enjoy spending time with this girl and she is very sweet but she came over yesterday and showed me that she has gotten my name tattoed on the back of her neck - while i am very flattered, it has shocked me a lot. Now i don't know what to do... If the day comes where i want us to go our seperate ways, i will feel awful. But i can't stop thinking this now...
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| She got my name tattooed after 11 weeks together... what can i do?
Posted: 1/9/2012 5:49:59 AM | Unless you put a gun to her head and forced her to get the tattoo, it's really not your problem.
Make sure you're using condoms, because her next trick will be getting pregnant to cement that permanent connection she's decided you should have after only 11 weeks. Even if she claims she's on the pill or using something else, don't believe her. Protect yourself. Babies, like tattoos, are permanent. But a lot more expensive. | |
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| She got my name tattooed after 11 weeks together... what can i do?
Posted: 1/9/2012 6:27:57 AM | You would "feel awful" if you end up separating?
Feel awful because she is emotionally unsound enough to do this ridiculous act?
Codependent much?
The actions of such a person are hardly something you should feel anything about except revulsion and disgust. What a head case she must be.
And as WindChymes said...don't be surprised if pregnancy follows. You're her soulmate, dontcha know? | |
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| She got my name tattooed after 11 weeks together... what can i do?
Posted: 1/9/2012 6:28:48 AM | Ok, perhaps the tattoo could be considered a wee bit much; I get that... but I feel nothing but absolute disgust toward those of you who are freaking out about it--as if this woman is some sort of lunatic that needs to be avoided at any cost.
You heartless, cruel, cold, evil bastards would see this woman cast aside and crushed--like some sort of worthless insect--for doing something that, in her mind, obviously stems from loving intentions and feelings.
Even with as much of a jerk as I am capable of being, myself, I could not be this evil towards another human being who--right or wrong--is trying to follow their heart. You should be ashamed of yourselves; you do not deserve love, and I hope it never finds you.
Op, you should show this girl some compassion and kindness and understanding--and maybe even some (gasp!) appreciation. Less than three-months? Most people aren't capable of being this sure about their feelings in three-YEARS, or even 30; think about that.
I think you will end up destroying this woman. It may, at a later point in your life, be a source of profound regret for you--if you do. | |
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| She got my name tattooed after 11 weeks together... what can i do?
Posted: 1/9/2012 7:45:51 AM | This reminds me of a man I dated who had a trademark mostache and goatie.
Conversation came up once and I told him I didn't like mostache's.
We continued to date cause it wasn't a deal breaker and the night came when I asked him over to my house. (I was breaking up with him but he didn't know).
I opened the door and there he stood SHAVEN completely!
As bad as I felt and trust me I felt bad.....I still told him we were over!
If you do not see this girl as the one you want to be with then you must tell her!
If you are happy being with her then go with the flow.
The tattoo should be irrelivent if you break up. It was her choice not yours to have it done.
She obviously did not put a lot of thought into it and did it to impress you which is quite scary cause she doesn't really know you enough to have your name marked on her skin. | |
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| She got my name tattooed after 11 weeks together... what can i do?
Posted: 1/9/2012 7:47:29 AM | | As previous posters have said, be very careful if you are having sex, dont get trapped into something that you are not ready for, she made the choice to get the ink, you are not responsible for her, but you may end up being responsible for something else! | |
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| She got my name tattooed after 11 weeks together... what can i do?
Posted: 1/9/2012 7:48:38 AM | When are women going to understand that tattoos don't look flattering on them....
This seems quite awesome that she feels this way about you, but you should ask her straight out why she would tattoo your name on herself before you have made any sort of commitment to her. | |
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| She got my name tattooed after 11 weeks together... what can i do?
Posted: 1/9/2012 7:49:49 AM | | This is really sad, this poor girl is clueless & is running on pure emotions. I have no idea what you should do, if you enjoy being with her then continue to do so. Dumping her right now is very cruel. She is flying high on her emotions, usually when that happens they fall out of love as fast as they fell in love. Guess you need to take it one day at a time & see how it goes. She has some serious emotional issues & more than likely she will be a clingon. You should not feel awful, unless you have lead her on to think you two will be together forever. Good luck, because you have a real looney toon on your hands. | |
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| She got my name tattooed after 11 weeks together... what can i do?
Posted: 1/9/2012 8:41:19 AM | Wow. I can understand how learning something like that would be jarring, yet as others have said there is nothing "to do" about it per se.
If you want to continue seeing her see her, but if you ultimately decide she's not the one for you move on with no remorse. It will be what it will be.
Based on what you say, it sounds like she did get the tattoo in an attempt to ensure you don't go your separate ways, at any point in time. That's pretty scary, and manipulative, if that's the case.
Don't play into that by "feeling awful" if you do need to move on.
She had the ink put on her body. You didn't do that to her. | |
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| She got my name tattooed after 11 weeks together... what can i do?
Posted: 1/9/2012 9:10:26 AM | | This begs the question: does she have any other names tattooed-previous boyfriends? I don know what would be more scary-your name being added to the list of other tattooed names or being the only name tattooed on her. Did you have the exclusive talk with her before the tattoo? I can see what she's going to want from you now. She will want you to get a tattoo of her name on you, to show your "undying" love for her. If she makes that request, tell her you don't think the word "Freak" looks good on you. | |
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