| | I keep having the problems with every single guyPage 1 of 1 | | Is it possible to meet a guy who stick to his word or am i asking for to much...the guys i been meeting lately turn me off cause of the same peet peev ( what bothers me the most). They say there gonna call after they do something and dont and i might not hear back from the til the next day and when i mention it to them they dont seem like they get it.Are they really intersted if they cant pic up the phone or take two hours to reply to a txt? | |
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| I keep having the problems with every single guy
Posted: 1/11/2012 11:47:42 AM | what bothers me the most). They say there gonna call after they do something and dont and i might not hear back from the til the next day and when i mention it to them they dont seem like they get it
Hon, every single guy YOU have been selecting must be one that may have 6 other girls calling HIM,
and has apparently learned he can act unreliable, just because some girls like his "looks"...
IF you require a guy that will focus on YOU instead of his 6 other "friends", then pick a guy that has substance and character instead of just looks "hot" to you and those 6 other girls...
The common choices you make become the results you get, over and over again... | |
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| I keep having the problems with every single guy
Posted: 1/11/2012 11:51:33 AM | | The only common denominator here is you. It sounds like you're either coming off as way too high-maintenance/clingy or you're meeting guys that have other things going on | |
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| I keep having the problems with every single guy
Posted: 1/11/2012 11:54:09 AM | | yea that is how i feel, but one tries to say im extremly busy and even to reply to a txt n i just think thats bull....and this other guy only calls when were gonna meet up....i know their juggling women and im not on top of his list. Too busy tryn to be a player i guess :( | |
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| I keep having the problems with every single guy
Posted: 1/11/2012 11:54:29 AM |
Is it possible to meet a guy who stick to his word or am i asking for to much...the guys i been meeting lately turn me off cause of the same peet peev ( what bothers me the most). They say there gonna call after they do something and dont and i might not hear back from the til the next day and when i mention it to them they dont seem like they get it.Are they really intersted if they cant pic up the phone or take two hours to reply to a txt?
Can you believe someone that claims to be in her early 30's has written such illiterate dribble?
You're a hairsylist that "is persuing an acting career?" LOL
If you speak as you type, then you need more "skoolin'"
Talk about a self image issue, WOW! | |
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| I keep having the problems with every single guy
Posted: 1/11/2012 11:55:33 AM | you're talking about two different things here.
take two hours to reply to a txt?
this is not the same as not keeping their word. people have other things to do with their time then drop everything when their phone beeps, you know. and if you want to turn someone off quickly, start treating their phone like a leash that you yank on when you're feeling bored or attention-deprived.
as far as the other, a loose approach to timeliness is very common. you might even have a few excuses you use yourself to justify it, like when 'something comes up' or 'you get busy.'
be that as it may, you can can cut as much or as little slack about this as you want. you can regard it as a yardstick of interest or not. if it happens once, i reserve judgment. if it's a pattern, then yeah, i'd have a problem. | |
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| I keep having the problems with every single guy
Posted: 1/11/2012 11:56:04 AM | | my expectations arent low....thats why im questioning this behavior and Single...i stop talkn to alot of men for this very reason....but im just wonder is this behavior the norm | |
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| I keep having the problems with every single guy
Posted: 1/11/2012 11:59:33 AM | | guess im high maintenance then if i want someone to show interested as well and notjust when were gonna see each other....lmao....if thats what u call it then im that...so cant wait til i meet a dude who can be on page cause theres plenty of high maintenance females out there thats happily married. | |
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| I keep having the problems with every single guy
Posted: 1/11/2012 12:06:01 PM | | @ MACALA yea imma report you for being a hateful and evil individual. Im on here trying to get advice and if you dont like it why respond.....you respond because ur a hateful person and your the one that sound stupid. You dont even have a pic up because you dont want no one to see you who you are. How old are you to put something so hateful on here where ppl are tryn to get answers.yea imma report for this one. | |
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| I keep having the problems with every single guy
Posted: 1/11/2012 12:09:34 PM | what if the dude is working? i've worked places where you weren't allowed to use your phone. is it possible the guy was driving and didn't hear the text? i can't hear anything in my car if i have music going.
sounds like you want a lil boy who doesn't work and stays home all day sitting next to the phone. | |
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| I keep having the problems with every single guy
Posted: 1/11/2012 12:10:27 PM | | The only person on this forum that was helpful is the first responder...I cant read no more because i dont get the dumbness. Im asking a simple question and luckily it was answered right away. Take care. | |
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| I keep having the problems with every single guy
Posted: 1/11/2012 12:17:41 PM | | It sounds like your expectations on people are so tightly pigeon holed, they have little chance to have success with you. If you think that not responding to a text within two hours is such a crime, then you are really hurting yourself in the long run. | |
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| I keep having the problems with every single guy
Posted: 1/11/2012 12:23:29 PM | Is this what is commonly referred to as “ebonics”?
“yea imma report you”
“where ppl are tryn to get answers”
“a guy who stick to his word”
“asking for to much”
“the guys I been meeting”
“same peet peev”
Or is it just more like illiteracy combined with text speak? | |
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| I keep having the problems with every single guy
Posted: 1/11/2012 12:27:49 PM | | This is not the only metric that says the guy is interested in you. If he is interested in you you will feel it in your bones and other spots on your body too. The fact that he did not call back immediately could be other reasons which his interest in you has nothing to do with it. | |
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| I keep having the problems with every single guy
Posted: 1/11/2012 12:33:12 PM |
They say there gonna call after they do something and dont and i might not hear back from the til the next day and when i mention it to them they dont seem like they get it.Are they really intersted if they cant pic up the phone or take two hours to reply to a txt?
Why the rush? You should actually try to respect the fact that other people have lives and other things to do.
Is it possible to meet a guy who stick to his word
Unless they have said that they will always respond to you within 5 minutes or less, it sounds like they are keeping their word.
am i asking for to much
Too much or maybe to little. It depends on the type of guy you are seeking. | |
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| I keep having the problems with every single guy
Posted: 1/11/2012 12:35:37 PM |
They say there gonna call after they do something and dont and i might not hear back from the til the next day
That's calling you.
Are they really intersted if they cant pic up the phone or take two hours to reply to a txt?
Yes, but I think you expect guys to be at your beckon call. It doesn't work that way to begin with. I think although you have high expectations, you still need to be realistic within them.
People have a life and commitments as well as dating . Which in fairness says a lot of a guy. If he left it for a week I'd understand. | |
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| I keep having the problems with every single guy
Posted: 1/11/2012 1:04:32 PM | Geez, I can be watching TV at home and hear a text message arrive and not check the phone for two hours. I check it when it suits me.
My pet peeve is people who think that because they call me or text me I have to answer the phone or respond to their text immediately. The caller/sender's urgency is NOT my urgency.
(I'm not trying be a smart#$# saying that, it really IS a pet peeve of mine).
Also, in the very early days of dating someone, I might deliberately not reply to a text message straight away. Not because I'm playing games, but because I don't like the relationship to 'develop' via text messaging. I try to avoid it at all costs if possible. I just think that it creates a false closeness that hasn't yet been achieved in person. I also might delay answering a text straight away just to slow things down a little, or just because I don't have an hour to waste sitting on my phone exchanging endless texts. | |
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| I keep having the problems with every single guy
Posted: 1/11/2012 1:33:59 PM | Yeah... they aren't really all that interested.
Demanda, you are turning them off with your expectations.
If they are interested you have found a way to alienate them quickly, no man wants to be your babysitter. | |
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| I keep having the problems with every single guy
Posted: 1/11/2012 1:37:08 PM | | Your problem is trying to start a relationship through texting. Your one of those girls who will text me "are you alive" after not promptly replying to your text. I hate texting, if you wanna have a conversation with someone do it face to face or over the phone instead of playing little text games. | |
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