| | Being vocal or verbal during sexPage 1 of 7 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7) | | Im very vocal/verbal during sex, It turns me on to talk dirty. The problem is that most guys I've been with have been very quiet, they will grunt when they cum but thats it, I dont know if this is true for everyone but I want my man to either talk dirty right on back or atleast make some noise. So guys are you loud or quiet and what do you like from women during sex? and ladies are you loud or quiet and have you had the same problem? | |
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Posted: 1/12/2012 8:49:38 AM | | My SO "trained" me into being much more vocal, but I'll probably never get into talking dirty. I like vocal women, and verbal is okay. I don't need dirty talk to increase my experience, but if it works for her, then by all means, go for it. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2012 8:54:56 AM | I think guys are too busy trying to satisfy a woman to be laying back and yealling, ``Oh god!'' Women generally expect guys to be responsible for a woman's orgasm as well as their own. I personally think that if a woman was into it as much as she should be, she'd be too busy to just lay back and moan.
So guys are you loud or quiet and what do you like from women during sex?
I like women who can figure out what they want and go after it without needing directions or asking, ``Is that ok?'' Whether or not they scream while doing it is not all that important unless we happen to be somewhere where I need a pillow to muffle the noise. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2012 9:02:10 AM | | lol i enjoy being verbal and the dirty talk but I don't want it to be just something you say for the hell of it.....I mean if its nothing you couldn't come up and whisper in my ear to get me going then why be a different person in the sack. I want to be verbal and make noise if it feels good.....that way my partner knows she is doing a great job........I know I wouldnt want a lady to just lay there and not say anything.......whats the fun of that?? | |
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Posted: 1/12/2012 9:10:10 AM | It is always nice to have a lover that is similar to the way you are with enjoying sex, and if one is a loud lover and the other not.....it can become a turn off long term.
My suggestion is to teach them what you like and how to verbalize it to you, for you, and you them. It might be a good start for you to initiate the verbal side by initiating the sexual side with being on top and doing much of the work, thus allowing him to lay back and take it all in....so to speak............ 
While on top and all over him, you can now verbalize what you are thinking and wanting and then get your man to verbalize his thoughts and desires, and once you are satisfied with you being the aggressor, you allow him to be satisfied toooooo......and if you have done a good job, I bet he will let you know it.....with many words of pleasure......
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Posted: 1/12/2012 10:14:37 AM |
I think guys are too busy trying to satisfy a woman to be laying back and yealling, ``Oh god!'' Women generally expect guys to be responsible for a woman's orgasm as well as their own. I personally think that if a woman was into it as much as she should be, she'd be too busy to just lay back and moan..
I have seen you post this so many times that I can't help but wonder what it is that YOU are doing that results in your women just laying there!!
Are you giving off a vibe that makes these women think you want them to be so passive?
Yes, I love a bit of dirty talk.......but mostly it's just a natural conversation that centers around what we are doing at that moment.....it's not done as a "production".
Sometimes he gets to lay back.........sometimes I get to lay back.....and sometimes we are both like wild monkies and the whole time we are communicating our pleasure and desires. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2012 10:40:47 AM | silent sex is weird!! thinking about it now, i AM a lot more "noisy" with sounds and talking than any of my lovers ever were. it doesn't bother me if the dude is quieter, would rather it be a few breaths than some made up talk. one guy did whisper in my ear that i belonged to him and that just made me melt!
any women who need a little verbal help, listen to this song by Deadmau5 featuring Meeleefresh called 'Hey Baby', there is a breakdown around 4 mins that will blow his... load. LoL | |
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Posted: 1/12/2012 11:54:27 AM | I prefer a vocal partner. I am vocal myself, not verbal. If he's talking to me and expects me to respond with words, the sex is going to suffer. That's just how it is.
Please spare me the overly fake porn soundtrack tho. Such a turn off. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2012 12:14:14 PM | I'm not sure if having grown up and lived entirely in circumstances where silence was necessary to have any privacy whatsoever is why I tend to be quiet. I suspect it is, since I don't mind a bit if the woman makes sounds of any kind (well, not ANY kind, if you know what I mean).
I have tried, and found that I am an utter failure as a "phone sex" type of person. As soon as I try to think of things to say, I leave the compartment in my mind where lust dwells, and enter into the section where careful reason and analysis, or ethereal conceptual imaginings takes place. Perhaps I simply haven't had a sufficiently free, or well enough sexually matched partner for me to really let myself go. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2012 12:36:31 PM | I like a happy medium. LOL Silent sex is NOT appealing, yet neither is being in bed with a chatterbox who acts as though he's taking notes for his memoir. Some dirty talk here and there and plenty of "happy sounds"? Perfection.  | |
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Posted: 1/12/2012 12:42:57 PM | I have seen you post this so many times that I can't help but wonder what it is that YOU are doing that results in your women just laying there!!
I never said they were just laying there. Maybe that will stop you from wondering. My guess is that you are a lot more easily satisfied than I am and that guys you have sex with don't expect too much. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2012 1:21:53 PM | | I'm more of a whimper kind of girl unless it's faced paced and a tad on the painful side. Over vocalized men in the bedroom is a huge turn off for me. Was once with a dude that shreeked/yelled "I'm cummin...I'm cummin" over and over until he finally did. It took all I had to not laugh. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2012 2:35:29 PM | ^^^^^^True...a mans mouth is usually pretty busy elsewhere.
I'm a little more on the quite side. I was with a woman that literally screamed.....big turn off for me. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2012 3:19:03 PM | I recently discovered I love dirty talk... but on the screaming front I tend to keep quiet unless he's really doing it for me. As a woman you always run the risk of being told your faking an orgasm if you get too noisy and aren't quite there. Still... if he's getting it right theres a lot to be said for making sure he knows he's got it right for future reference.
I like my man to talk back to me... it turns me on. Overly exaggerated porn style grunting not so much. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2012 4:04:45 PM |
I never said they were just laying there. Maybe that will stop you from wondering. My guess is that you are a lot more easily satisfied than I am and that guys you have sex with don't expect too much.
Oh yes, that must be it......YOU are the only man that expects an equal partner in the bedroom
Hey you're the one always throwing around how the women in your life have never been aggressive enough for you......as we like to say here in the forums.......YOU are the common denominator in all these women.
MY satisfaction level and/or performance levels has nothing to do with YOUR unsatisfactory sex life 
Maybe this is why some people like phone sex so much.....you get all the dirty talk you want that way....... | |
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Posted: 1/12/2012 11:19:59 PM |
So guys are you loud or quiet and what do you like from women during sex? and ladies are you loud or quiet and have you had the same problem?
I prefer for her to moan but quietly. Too much noise breaks the mood and the mystery. Little moaning and moving and dancing with her hips turns me on wild. I myself don't make noise but I talk with low tone with my lips kissing her ears and tell her how lucky and happy she is with me.
From my experience sex needs concentration I hate it when the TV is on loud I rather have very soft music. Another thing criticizing breaks the mood once I had that woman who was a little itchy she was criticizing every thing I did that night the dinner, the restaurant were bad I am not a gentleman because I did not open the car door for her. I lost erection while I was inside her and I was so embarrassed. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2012 11:40:24 PM | I think this depends on the individuals. For a man, I am VERY vocal/verbal in the bedroom. However, you have to make sure the female is into the same type of verbiage because you may scare/weird her out. But if both people are verbal/vocal, it can DEF intensify the encounter and will probably make you want M O E... LOL. I love a woman that can speak her mind during sex. Its shows that she is capable of multi-tasking. LMAO. Which can be an additional asset for the encounter...
Women, if u want your man to be M O E verbal tell him before yall have the next sexual encounter. Let him know what u like to hear, and u may be in for a verbal rampage the next time.    | |
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Posted: 1/12/2012 11:47:24 PM | I'm both verbal and vocal. I have a difficult time in silence. How am I supposed to know if you are enjoying it?
At least turn on some music or something - but not Sportscenter! | |
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Posted: 1/13/2012 7:16:08 AM |
Over vocalized men in the bedroom is a huge turn off for me. Was once with a dude that shreeked/yelled "I'm cummin...I'm cummin" over and over until he finally did. It took all I had to not laugh.
Well.. at some point in 1995 my ex's cousin came to visit. I think it was around Christmas time, but not sure. So the cousin stayed with us and we hooked him up with a girl my ex knew (and that I'd gone to school with). The ex and I listened to her shrieking and squealing for nearly 2 hours straight. I'm not at all sure what he (the cousin) was doing to her.. and from the sounds of things I couldn't tell if she liked it or not.
Yes.. I've had the "I'm cummin'.. I'm cummin'" kind of guy. STFU and DO IT already. Do you have to talk yourself into it? Is that what's going on?
Eh, I'm usually too busy orally fondling her boobs to be verbal.
You can still make noise. I like that. The sensation of a moan, groan, whimper, growl on the body is really amazing. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2012 7:40:30 AM | | OP: I don't have problems with sex. I talk to my lovers about what we want all the way down to the noises we make or not during sex....everybody is different. What turns me off is not communicating first. | |
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