| | Social Life Other Than POFPage 1 of 4 (1, 2, 3, 4) | Do you have a social life, apart from POF and the POF meets?
Do you play badminton regularly, belong to any clubs that meet regularly? Are they mixed gender and have a social aspect to them rather than a specific point, ie flying model aeroplanes or keep fit classes?
I ask, because whilst I spend a lot of my time on POF, always looking for that special one, although doubtful she actually exists, and enjoy the forums immensely, I still belong to a social club that meets up regularly. It contains both couples and singles and is not a dating club. We arrange, through a club night once a month in a local pub, and a mazagine which I edit, regular meets over a range of activities. I think it is because of this that I maintain a better attitude to my life overall. Some of the activities are moderately expensive, others not so, perhaps £3 contribution to a member hosting a get together and fun evening in their home and providing a buffet.
Is this something you have considered or are there obstacles in the way? | |
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Posted: 1/20/2012 4:01:59 AM |
perhaps £3 contribution to a member hosting a get together and fun evening in their home and providing a buffet.
At least your idea undercuts the other one by a quid....will there be lots of cheese?
I ask, because whilst I spend a lot of my time on POF
I spend some of my spare time on pof, the real world still exists (the good bits and the bad bits) but it's a distraction to come on here and talk bollox. I doubt if i'd ever go to a pof meet. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2012 4:05:01 AM | I really do not think you can beat the sort of social gatherings you have mentioned. It is often the case that, in terms of intimate relationships, you meet someone quite by chance and I often think that you probably have more chance of doinmg so in this sort of setting than on a dating site.
I am currently seeing someone I met at my Ceroc club. These are early days, but I have actually connected with more females in six months at this club than I have ever done on any internet dating site. Interestingly, very few people go to these Ceroc clubs with the aim of meeting a partner - that might be at the back of their minds, but their main focus is that they like dancing and socialising, so there is absolutely no sense of disappointment or frustration if they do not happen to meet someone they are attracted to in the romantic sense.
I am also a member of a swimming club and am learning to play the piano. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2012 4:12:45 AM |
At least your idea undercuts the other one by a quid....will there be lots of cheese?
Posh cheese mind, not cheese strings or Dairylea. Plenty of kung fu panda.
What do I do apart from being on here? I go to the gym and fitness classes a lot but whether they are single sex or mixed doesn't really have a bearing on whether I go, to be honest most of the classes I do have more females in them than men
I've got a few fitness weekenders coming up but again, there will be more females than men, its part courses/workships and part social.
I go and watch Motherwell fc and yes there are way more men there than females, but again that's not why I go, more like I enjoy subjecting myself to torture on a regular basis and paying for it too.
I've not been to a POF meet in around 2 years but I'll probably go to one shortly.
My lack of funds at the moment means a distinct lack of social life.
perhaps £3 contribution to a member hosting a get together and fun evening in their home and providing a buffet
This could be a cheap answer to all our problems. Wine, cheese, totty. Has anyone ever been to a party where they take along an ex they really like but don't want to be with anymore?
Or do those kind of parties only happen in Cosmopolitan magazine? Cheddar, plonk and recycle an ex. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2012 4:19:35 AM | My social life erovlves around work rather than the internet although I probably do spend waaayyy to much time online Im first to admit it lol!!
I work in retail so not always the most social of hours and days off spent cleaning and sleeping if Im honest lol!
Manage to fit in the odd shopping trip with my daughter we frequently go to gigs but like Pauline has just said lack of funds is always an issue for the Bubbles  | |
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Posted: 1/20/2012 4:23:19 AM | Yes, I do.
I would go crazy if this site was my sole social life.
It's not as active as it used to be, as nearly all of my closest friends live south of the border and the clubs up here, aren't as good as the ones I went to in London.
I'm not looking for anything, so it's not something I worry about. I meet people from on and offline (although it's hard to find a sober girl on a night out in Glasgow) so it's all gravy.
I have been to meets (not from POF) in the past, but attending a POF meet is not something I'd be interested in now | |
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Posted: 1/20/2012 4:25:53 AM | we frequently go to gigs but like Pauline has just said lack of funds is always an issue for the Bubbles
Well, to be honest a pub gig, with a live band or performer is part of our programme, at least once every month or two. And to go to those there is no charge for admission and you can get by by buying a couple of drinks, say £6, and your evening entertainment with friends is sorted! And if you are an enthusiast there are pubs around here that have that sort of entertainment every week. Couple that with a visit mid-week with a small group to form a pub quiz team, and hey presto you have a social life that costs very little.
But my Christmas meal cost me £45 and my New Year, with hotel stay was over £100 so sometimes the expensive bits do crop up. But the good thing is you do not, and a lot of our members do not, take part in everything. They pick and choose. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2012 4:34:06 AM | Well i go to evening collage to learn Lithuanian, Polish, Russian,Romanian, Slovakian, and Afghanistan and thats just to talk to the neighbours 
Seriously though it may seem to others that have viewed my profile at some time that i am on here 24/7 but no i work from home and the computer is on all day long and its just something to watch when i am working .... but i do have a great social life but it is mainly on the internet.. i belong to many online vintage tractor, excavator, and model forums as well as a huge friends and family list on my facebook page thing, but all this is done without leaving home ..does that sound like a sad old git or what, perhaps i ought to get out of this corner of the UK to find a social life as unless you can talk all the languages above, you are stuffed
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Posted: 1/20/2012 4:49:41 AM | Why is it that several people have almost shouted out that they would never attend a POF meet? Do they think it puts a label round their necks which says ''Hello I'm Desperate''?? Almost seems like they are sneering at POF meets which I am sure can be great fun.
I have not been to one yet but I probably will - Its just another night out meeting people I haven't met before. I am prob on here a couple of hours a week, surfing, reading the forums. I also cycle, go out and have the odd dance and beer. travel and right now Im completing an ECDL course.
Anyone who ties themselves to the pc 24/7 is never going to meet anyone - If you want a better social life and to make new friends and possibly more then you have to make an effort. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2012 4:53:26 AM | My social life revolves around the weekend. I have not been at home on a Saturday in 3 years. Weddings,Child dedications,Chess playing club,Night clubbing,birthday parties,you name it. It pays to lead an active social life while one is single and child free like me because it only takes one of them to come along and it's bye-bye to the 'good old days'.
<div class="quote"> I doubt if i'd ever go to a pof meet
Never say never I say. Give it a try,who knows? I go to meets and enjoy them although the only downside with it for me is that it's usually the over 40's who come and that's outside my dating age range. All kinds of people come to these meets. Last year I went on a date with a woman I met on a POF meet (she was over 40) and at the end of the date,she revealed to me that she was a multi-millionaire! Im still friends with her and far as I know,she is still the only millionaire friend I've got. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2012 4:56:09 AM | full social life im at a mothers and toddlers group 3 mornings with grandaugher
I go to giggs with my mates we go for lunches dinners
Ive friends that i meet through fish friends that are now fish .
that id nown before .
Loads coming up i havent got a free weekend for weeks lol .
My hobbies are wildlife victorian Architecture and clothing .
My hobbies keep me fit as i walk miles watching for deer in my local reserve .
I dont like modern Architecture i think its pants and the architects dont get enouth personal input ..
councils have way to much say
pauline you not coming sat xxx | |
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Posted: 1/20/2012 5:08:03 AM | @msg 9
I have been to countless meets from another site and met some of my closest mates at some of them.
I just got bored of going to meets. Mainly because I had no interest in many of the people going and because they seemed to be hyped up to ridiculous levels, when all they were was a night out with a few people.
plus it doesn't help that I am fairly anti-social and feel no need to be friendly with people, and whom I have no interest in
So I stopped going. I thought of going again when I moved up here, but the same thing seems to be the case... plus I do okay when it comes to meeting up with people one-on-one. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2012 5:52:29 AM |
Why is it that several people have almost shouted out that they would never attend a POF meet? Do they think it puts a label round their necks which says ''Hello I'm Desperate''?? Almost seems like they are sneering at POF meets which I am sure can be great fun
I've been to two POF meets in the past, they were awful tbh. Not my type of thing at all. And not one person there I would have looked at twice. I know many people enjoy them, and a lot of effort goes into organising them, credit where credit is due, just saying I have tried them and they are not for me.
I have a good social circle away from here, friends, family, and work-wise.
Theoldbill, having spoken to you at length I have to say I think you have got it right, your social activities have me envious,it sounds as if you have a fabulous time,albeit you have more leisure time available to you and you're not trying to fit it all in after a weeks work,. After talking to you I'm quite looking forward to being three score years and ten. 
POF is an extra, an add-on for me. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2012 6:01:36 AM | Pof meets arent everyones cuppa .I like them but im very outgoing and sociable .
Im not hosting the actul pub meets anymore reason is i like my nature walks more want to consintrate on them that is more my thing ,
Ive loved hosting the pub meets but there are enouth hosts and if i posted as well way to many .
My friend will post the rock meets i will post nature walks and other activitys through spring summer .
As again everyones diffrent not all people drink not all like pubs .
In glasgow we go out our way to welcome fish to events but again we cant force people to socialise
Im at every event but not as a host | |
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Posted: 1/20/2012 6:33:15 AM | It would be nice if there was a POF meet that could (I know it can't because of geographical reasons, just saying, like) included all of those who post on this forum either regularly or occasionally.
I think it is always nice to meet those to whom you talk regularly, and perhaps if there was some personal interaction then perhaps some of the threads could be discussed in a more personal awareness frame of mind. I am sure that I would try to be more polite to someone who was a real person rather than just a funny name and a picture.
Hi LusipherVVVVVVVVVV
Well I could do it, and you could by the sounds, but to get everyone to an agreed location would be very difficult. Perhaps sometime in the future. But I am glad you looked at my thought so positively. Perhaps if we plant the seed now, we could return to it sometime in the future. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2012 6:44:09 AM | @msg 15
Why can't that happen?
With the site I used to use, people would come from all over the show to go to some of the meets - and at first, the attendees were all people who used the forums. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2012 7:00:18 AM | bill i no loads on the forums personaly ive meet them ive traveled .
those i havent i no people who no them a friend works with luisipher . Its a small world
Ive always wanted to meet hams my friend does no him as she lived in england .
My mate nows zeegary he he
id be up for it also | |
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Posted: 1/20/2012 7:09:53 AM | Wow, I am beginning to think differently. You never know.................<img src=http://www.plentyoffish.com/smiles/icon_201.gif border=0>
EditVVVVVVVVVV
Bambi, if there is one thing that I appreciate in life, that is enthusiasm for the positive. You seem to have that in abundance, lovely to see it. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2012 7:29:11 AM | bill ive organised events for yrs i could also get a large volume of the hosts that again i do no to attend
anything is possible if you believe in it .
uk forum annd pof event country wide meet up wow | |
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Posted: 1/20/2012 7:31:10 AM | iving on the outskirts of a town someone once asked would you rather lose your house or your car. To which I replied house. I'm out most nights . I have what I call bolt holes.
I go to place A and if no good I go to place B ,C, D. That can be pub, friends etc.
This idea works well with some POF dates. If it goes well all well and good. If it ends early off to a bolt hole. Yep done the night clubs, pubs, bars, and some other charity work.
Unfortunately in this economic climate some of my bolt holes are going bust.
I do think the internet is self defeating in a way. Virtual friends you never meet. Isolation of people in their homes. Kids glued to the X box instead of going to the park. Reliance of dating sites when there is a better chance of meeting a good partner in real life.
People are becoming more isolated. Get out of bed, get in the tin box with wheels, go to another box to shop or work. This Xmas was particularly telling. The usual cavalcade of families walking in the park was virtually non existant. New bikes being repaced with flat screens and X boxes. Sad . | |
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Posted: 1/20/2012 9:23:02 AM | I'm up for a POF UK Forum event.
Could be an eye opener as far as fake profiles go, they wont be able to make it, naturally...
Look forward to meeting everyone face to face. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2012 9:45:08 AM |
Why is it that several people have almost shouted out that they would never attend a POF meet? Do they think it puts a label round their necks which says ''Hello I'm Desperate''??
Actually i thought it was a sticker with your name on? *cringes* nope not for me i'm afraid but fair play to all those that do. I've looked at meets in my area but so far there's been no women attending i could see myself shagging.
I'd do a forum meet though.....but only if gary and jovan go....bagsie a ring side seat! | |
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Posted: 1/20/2012 9:52:46 AM | | Yes i do have a social life apart from pof but my social life funnily enough came about because of pof!When i lived in a different area i started pof meets and it,s through them that i met and made the friends i have today who i socialise with on a regular basis.This could be going to each others homes for dinner ,parties or bbq,s,going on holidays or just a night out.I come from a big family as well, so there are family get togethers or visits.Even college on a Saturday morning is a kind of social occasion. So plenty going on in my life other than pof. | |
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