| virgin girl who needs advice.
Posted: 11/6/2004 2:12:23 AM | There is a guy i like... alot... he hugs me everytime i see him... does that mean he likes me? im a virgin... do you think a guy would break up with me because i want to wait? (sorry if these questions are a bit ovbious, im going through a rough time.. i need more opinions)  | |
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| virgin girl who needs advice.
Posted: 11/6/2004 3:20:00 AM | Hon this is from a 36 year old guy, now you just let that guy go who doesnt respect your feelings about waiting. So far I think you are doing the right thing by holding out. Hold out as long as you possibly can there LIL honey and the right moment will come with a hot guy or even better yet a guy that just made you feel special and all warm & fuzzie inside. Then you go for it. and please plan it a little so at least you guys are in or on a BEd /Mattress. No kinky stuff in the back of a car. you deserve better.
you are cool just for asking you got my respect. | |
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| virgin girl who needs advice.
Posted: 11/6/2004 8:43:58 AM | Take it from me, I waited till I was 24 and it was AMAZING> if you like him, and he likes you things will fall into place. Dont rush things, take your time. Sounds to me like he does like you, perhaps ask him out for a bite to eat?
Be yourself, everything else will fall into place.
PS/If a guy does break up with you, he only wanted one thing. Hey, theres other things you can do....you dont have to go all the way to have an amazing time. | |
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| virgin girl who needs advice.
Posted: 11/6/2004 8:54:20 AM | He probrably does like you, and Id think the idea of going out for a bite to eat is great. Lots of talking when you go somewhere. Go for it.
As for the breaking up if you dont want to have sex, yes unfortunatly alot of people are like that, but as much as it would hurt for someone to break up with you because you wouldnt "put out" imagine how much it would hurt if you did put out and couldnt stand the fact that you let yourself down when you realized you cared more than he did and you just lost the one thing you can never get back to a situation that wasnt all you thought it would be.
Absolutly give yourself time to get to know this guy or whoever your dating, and plan it, you always want your first time to not only be physicaly great but the best half is the emotional factor and if your heart isnt totaly into it then what should have been a super fantastic experience is gonna be so-so.
There is alot to be said for a heavy dose of making out and not going all the way. | |
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| virgin girl who needs advice.
Posted: 11/6/2004 9:08:59 AM | | No guy ever broke up with me for not giving in. In fact I think they respected me more for it. If he really cares about you he will wait until you think its the right time. I waited until I was 21 and have no regrets. I was totally in love and he was a wonderful patient man. Most women who get pressured into it end up regretting their first lover. Do what is right for you not him. If he really loves you then he will respect your feelings. If he doesn't respect your feeling then he isn't worthy of you. | |
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| virgin girl who needs advice.
Posted: 11/6/2004 9:21:51 AM | | I was a bartender for many years and almost dailey I would get flowers or gifts sent to work ..the girls I worked with (who most always went home with the customers )would say how do you do it??my answer was It's not what I do....... It's what I don't do!! You will know sweet girl ..when the time is right ..make sure the man is as wonderful as you are! | |
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| virgin girl who needs advice.
Posted: 11/6/2004 9:29:48 AM | I'm a 19 year old guy who is still a virgin, and I definately respect a girl more if she is a virgin. If the guy doesn't like your choice to wait or pressures you, he is not the right guy for you.
PS - Same goes for those guys who get pressured by those girls. It's not as common...but it still happens. | |
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| virgin girl who needs advice.
Posted: 11/6/2004 9:43:56 AM | Wait until the time is right for you. It may be a little frustrating because your friends are doing it, etc. But wait for the right time for you.
A very Christian friend of mine in college who was looking to get married excluded non-virgins from consideration. He is a great guy, he's been married for over 10 years. I went to college in Indiana. | |
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| virgin girl who needs advice.
Posted: 11/6/2004 6:44:15 PM | go for it! **** him.
no just kidding. i think the whole fact that you have to ask means youre are not sure. make sure that you ARE sure first. just do it when it feels right. | |
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| virgin girl who needs advice.
Posted: 11/6/2004 8:16:18 PM | I think that is awesome your waiting...good for you.
i think he likes you if he is hugging you.
if he breaks up with you because you want to wait. then let him go!. he is only intrested in your body not you. | |
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| virgin girl who needs advice.
Posted: 11/6/2004 11:36:33 PM | Pretty, it is your body, the thing you will carry with you the rest of your life. From an old dude that has tumbled down the river of life a bit there is a big difference between Sex and Making Love to the one you really love. Once you have the latter you will never want the other, so by all means save yourself for the one you truly love and it does not matter what age you are then, from 18 - 99, your heart & soul will be your best guide. Your questioning it, so I think you already know the answer inside your own heart.  | |
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| virgin girl who needs advice.
Posted: 11/7/2004 4:16:48 AM | THANKS. wow i almost cried reading some of those, im totally gonna wait. thanks guys and gals. really helped me see more clear.  | |
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| virgin girl who needs advice.
Posted: 11/7/2004 6:40:20 AM | ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL WOMEN
DO WHAT IS RIGHT FOR YOUR SOUL
DO NOT LET A GUY PRESSURE YOU..........
GUYS DO IT ALL THE TIME .................I DO NOT BLAME THEM THOUGH
IT IS ALMOST UNCONTROLLABLE WHEN THE HORMONES KICK IN.................YIKES
BUT WAIT .............TIL YOU ARE READY O.K ?? | |
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| virgin girl who needs advice.
Posted: 11/7/2004 8:08:10 AM | | i read sum of these post hun stay a virgin as long as u can if a guy dont like it then let him go let me u sumthing i wish i stayed a virgin but to keep my man i slept with him i didnt againt nothing just losted him forever so just wait till ur ready ok marlena | |
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| virgin girl who needs advice.
Posted: 11/7/2004 12:05:09 PM | Sweetie, YOU break up with HIM if he doesnt want to wait....
dont ever settle, and dont EVER compromise.....
Later, (*prettykitty i said a prayer for you*)
and hugs to all,
Blondago56/Mary M. | |
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| virgin girl who needs advice.
Posted: 11/7/2004 4:27:35 PM | | i'm not going to tell you to do one thing or the other.. thats purely your choice but from one guys point of view i'd never break up with a girl for this reason. good luck. ;) | |
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| virgin girl who needs advice.
Posted: 11/7/2004 8:29:21 PM | Join the club! I am a 19 year old virgin and i love the fact that i waited. I don't want to sound prude or anything, but i just want to wait for the exact perfect moment! I say its all on you. You can't really ask for advice in this situation. Its all a feeling!
~KrIsTy | |
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