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|Would like everyones opinion on this, do you need to have chemistry, a spark, a connection before you date someone??? Really new to dating and I feel you need to have something before you date, I mean if you have a conversation on here and you know you only see them as friends, theres no buzz at all, I see it as leading someone on if you then arrange a date, have had this debate with friends and some suggest that things can build or if their married they'll state chemistry doesnt last forever!!! |
What do you think??
Posted: 2/20/2012 5:12:09 PM
|Chemistry naturally fizzles away after about 5-6 years, apparently its a human condition which encourages couples to have children, thus the bonding is to encourage procreation.|
I believe before you meet up its best to have common interests and not just good feelings or attraction.
Posted: 2/21/2012 3:29:44 AM
|I hear you, but surely that still means there needs to be something, even if it is only a shared interest bcos at least then you will have something to talk about|
Posted: 2/21/2012 7:40:09 AM
|Yeah there has to be some chemistry but in my experience women tend to be way too demanding of chemistry. I for example might meet a woman and I think she is really hot the first time I see her but other women it may take me longer.|
Just because it takes a little more time doesn't mean there is no chemistry it just means that someone gave up too soon.
Posted: 2/21/2012 8:00:42 AM
|Ok fair point, but I've yet to see one of these relationships were the chemistry comes after turn into a long lasting relationship, it always turns more to friendship|
Posted: 2/21/2012 9:19:49 AM
|mistake women make is looking for chemistry on first date . odds are you wont find it,it comes with time.what you should be looking for is someone you get along with,conversation,interest wise, via e mail meet then do you find them/ attractive habits/behaviour acceptable and get to know them.|
Posted: 2/21/2012 9:35:25 AM
|I'm definately not coming across right I mean chemisty or something to be there for you, you at least need to be able to have a conversation, I dont expect the big spark all the time, but if you cant sustain a conversation on here, whats the point in meeting|
Posted: 2/21/2012 4:36:16 PM
|I really think the chemistry is what motivates women but to understand it you must understand men. Men don't look for chemistry on a first date. If a guy likes what he sees in the pics he's sold. Thats it. That is where the attraction is for a man. Purely visual - a primal thing - physical attaction and youth. The attraction for woman I believe is not something that is kindled straight away - it just happens or most times it doesn't on first dates. If a womans emotional triggers are not fired then attraction is a moot point. Potential wealth and potential status are something a woman would look for in a man. Thats the difference.|
Conversations here are a joke as women have no idea hwta a man is about in therms of his writing. But you form a picture of how he would have a conversation with you that could be totally different in real world. My suggestion is start taking chances
Posted: 2/22/2012 1:35:32 AM
|You say men dont need chemistry, but go on to say an attractive needs to be there surely thats chemistry albeit purely physical!!!!|
Of course I cannot speak for all women but I would never be motivated by a mans wealth or status, I am completely self sufficient
But I do agree with you, I do need to be braver
Posted: 2/22/2012 7:17:30 AM
|ahh noble peach your spot on,but think thats what said in my previous post?|
Posted: 2/22/2012 2:27:02 PM
|But you asked about a spark or connection. So I'm refferring to the femaile response to attraction not nesesserily the male. And potential wealth and status refers to what women, in a primal sense, seek in a male. Not talking about a rock star or anything but a male who who has these attributes are what women desire on a subconcious level|
Posted: 3/31/2012 12:32:47 PM
|I posted this when I was relatively new to this site and safe to say I was taking the whole thing and myself way to seriously but now I'm a few mths in and after getting into the forums I realise you have to know what you want and have a giggle and give people a chance so good luck all my fellow fishers |
Posted: 4/3/2012 8:24:53 AM
|I never really got into chemistry at school, preferred biology|
Posted: 6/21/2012 9:00:53 AM
|There should be some kind of attraction. To their personality at the very least, remember if you are looking 4 a relationship you mgt actually have to kiss this person down the road, so they should be kissable, if not i can't really see you being able to do anything else.|
If no connection, its prob not your thing so get out early.
Posted: 7/28/2012 7:50:41 AM
|for me there has to be that instant.. oh yeah.. and the eye contact, otherwise.. nope.. not gona happen..|
no matter how nice a guy he is.. or anything else.. its a non runner...
Posted: 9/8/2012 2:42:29 PM
|You don't really know until you meet them. You have to meet them first before you know if there is going to be any chemistry, you can't tell from their profile pic. If you don't find them attractive from their pic, then don't go out with him. You're not obligated to meet anyone on here. |
I, personally know right away if I like someone or not. If there is chemistry, you feel the chemistry right away. If you like him, had a nce date, & if he treated you like a lady, then go out with again if asks.
Posted: 11/1/2012 12:35:52 PM
|If you do not have chemistry and there arent any other factors together then do not bother.|