Plentyoffish dating forums are a place to meet singles and get dating advice or share dating experiences etc. Hopefully you will all have fun meeting singles and try out this online dating thing... Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate.
     
Show ALL Forums  > Sex and Dating  > Do women think with their vaginas?      Home login  
 AUTHOR
 MysticalWorld
Joined: 8/15/2011
Msg: 1
view profile
History
Do women think with their vaginas?Page 1 of 3    (1, 2, 3)
Do most POF women have sexual compatibility on their minds when choosing which guys to reply to?

When most women reply to a guy’s messages, is it because she senses a possible in-person sexual attraction based on his photos and/or flirty words?

(I'm not talking about women seeking a one-night stand, but women who are pursuing long-term relationships... are they interested in fulfilling their sexual desires with a mate that meets their physical preferences?)
 Blah_User_Name
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 2
Do women think with their vaginas?
Posted: 2/20/2012 10:02:49 AM
No. Sexual compatibility and sexual chemistry can only be determined after meeting in person.

I can't answer for all women but I look at the profile and try to determine if we have commonality - in terms of core values and interests. If the profile has two lines and little information, I don't bother with that person.

If I think we might actually enjoy each others company - I'll contact them and hope for a meet. At that stage, as my intention is to date being open to a relationship, I will consider if there is any chemistry. But I am looked for more then a bed mate so my answer to your question is no.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 3
view profile
History
Do women think with their vaginas?
Posted: 2/20/2012 10:06:12 AM
I respond because I was raised to be polite. The ones that don't get a response have usually sent a rude or really inappropriate message in the first place that doesn't deserve a response.

Sexual attraction, for me, is about someone's insides and how they behave, not about what they look like or how they write.

I'll flirt with everyone.. I'm an equal opportunity flirter. Flirting with me doesn't mean I'm sexually attracted to you because I differentiate between flirting to make someone feel good and flirting with intent to have sex with someone.
 Munkeechi
Joined: 11/25/2008
Msg: 4
view profile
History
Do women think with their vaginas?
Posted: 2/20/2012 10:22:52 AM
I never have sexual compatibility on my mind when replying to emails. Never ever crosses my mind.

I have to know someone before I even begin to think of them in that light. Just a few emails isn't knowing them as far as I'm concerned.

We've got to have interests, values and morals in common, meet and get to know each other quite well before I even think about sexual relations with that person. And even with that, I have to know them quite well before having any sexual attraction. I'm old fashioned, I don't just hop into bed with anybody. I've got to know you well, trust you and feel a real connection.
 peppermint petunias
Joined: 9/2/2009
Msg: 5
Do women think with their vaginas?
Posted: 2/20/2012 10:46:37 AM

Do most POF women have sexual compatibility on their minds when choosing which guys to reply to?


No
But if they are extremely unattractive /offensive to me it WILL slam shut.
 MikeWM
Joined: 2/7/2011
Msg: 6
view profile
History
Do women think with their vaginas?
Posted: 2/20/2012 10:48:30 AM
A question to the OP

Did you REALLY expect any women to actually answer this truthfully?

Forget about how many women complain about men not having photos, or that men are too tall, too short, too bald too "whatever" the most common answer is going to be that visual appeal, physical appearance and anything pertaining to the aesthetic aspects of sex appeal arent part of their picking process and that they just want to get to know people

(the fact they want them to be attractive is purely coincidence you understand)

 -ck-
Joined: 6/30/2009
Msg: 7
Do women think with their vaginas?
Posted: 2/20/2012 11:37:59 AM
I ****ing hope not, females are confusing enough, with out throwing "is she into me, or does she just want sex" into the mix.
 0ldhag
Joined: 1/8/2012
Msg: 8
Do women think with their vaginas?
Posted: 2/20/2012 11:58:00 AM
Unfortuanlly sometimes. Yes.

______________________
 MysticalWorld
Joined: 8/15/2011
Msg: 9
view profile
History
Do women think with their vaginas?
Posted: 2/20/2012 12:09:49 PM
A question to the OP

Did you REALLY expect any women to actually answer this truthfully?


That's why this question wasnn't posted on the "Ask A Girl" section. Guys' can give their opinions too.

As a guy, I get turned-on by a female profile's fully-clothed photos. Just wondering if women get a little wet down there when they see guys' pictures or flirty messages. Do women factor that into their decision to reply? Most women so far say no. Interesting.
 HeartOn64
Joined: 2/9/2012
Msg: 10
Do women think with their vaginas?
Posted: 2/20/2012 12:12:37 PM
Do most POF women have sexual compatibility on their minds when choosing which guys to reply to?


Yes.Of course I did.If I wasn't at least semi'attracted to the photo I wouldn't give a man the time of day.Call it shallow or call it preference....why would I lie about wanting to be with a man I was sexually attractive to?


When most women reply to a guy’s messages, is it because she senses a possible in-person sexual attraction based on his photos and/or flirty words?


Ummm...of course.


(I'm not talking about women seeking a one-night stand, but women who are pursuing long-term relationships... are they interested in fulfilling their sexual desires with a mate that meets their physical preferences?)


Why wouldn't we be?


Did you REALLY expect any women to actually answer this truthfully?


I'll go one step further to restoring your faith in women's honesty.
I had a hard time finding one I was physically attracted to.


Forget about how many women complain about men not having photos, or that men are too tall, too short, too bald too "whatever" the most common answer is going to be that visual appeal, physical appearance and anything pertaining to the aesthetic aspects of sex appeal arent part of their picking process and that they just want to get to know people

(the fact they want them to be attractive is purely coincidence you understand)


Bullsh*t.They were too short,too bald, too old, too sexually explicit,too broke, too married...too alot of things! I found a needle in a haystack though~

A perfect blend of understated good looks and a heart of gold.

My vagina has a "brain" just like your dyck has one!
It's called having sexual preferences and we are all entitled to them!~
 Looking4smartfitnfun
Joined: 12/5/2010
Msg: 11
Do women think with their vaginas?
Posted: 2/20/2012 12:21:12 PM
Now thats too funny
 funinsun32
Joined: 9/1/2011
Msg: 12
Do women think with their vaginas?
Posted: 2/20/2012 12:27:53 PM
Isn't this another way of saying "There has to be a physical attraction"? Ummm.. YES! If you meet someone or glance at their profile you're going to look for some physical attraction... Is that all? Not for me. You can be smoking hot but if you're dumb as a box of rocks? Yea, no thanks.
 faerlan
Joined: 1/12/2012
Msg: 13
Do women think with their vaginas?
Posted: 2/20/2012 12:46:56 PM

Do most POF women have sexual compatibility on their minds when choosing which guys to reply to?

Do "most"*? This should be obvious. Come on, we're on a site designed to match make for intimate encounters, and it's just a matter of personal preferences how long would these encounters last, varying from one night stands to one life stands. Did anybody sign up on POF to look for friends to put model aeroplanes together with? No? Yeah, didn't think so.

*Yes, there are freaks who really are here only for the forums and don't care.
 --Zen--
Joined: 6/29/2011
Msg: 14
Do women think with their vaginas?
Posted: 2/20/2012 1:32:33 PM
Yes, some do, some don't. Most women have been conditioned to resist their sexual urges. Are you curious to know if you can work a woman into a frenzy with just words and demeanor? Yes, even with average appearance (looks certainly help) any guy can be irresistibly sexy to some women and repulsive to others. Attraction and specifically sexual attraction has never been exact science. There are some vanity involved but usually 'sexy' has little to do with looks.
Regardless of the intent, yes most women are interested in fulfilling their sexual desires.
 Elgalawaat
Joined: 11/24/2008
Msg: 15
view profile
History
Do women think with their vaginas?
Posted: 2/20/2012 2:11:24 PM
This is my opinion and I could be wrong, All women has sexual fantasies like men and these fancies are numerous and countless exactly like men could be the penis size, eye color, physical built and so many to mention. Like men's fancies are numerous too Hips shape and size, Bobs shape and size and numerous to mention all. When your photo resemble even remotely any of these fancies you get a response but big tings will be clarified later in meetings and decisions taken. If in your shape or look any thing which reminds her with her X who cheated on her and , kicked her ass and treated her like a dog it will come against you and you are guilty by association. It happened.
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 16
Do women think with their vaginas?
Posted: 2/20/2012 2:20:13 PM
I'm guess more women DO think of their vaginas as to your response to the question OP.... I also believe that MOST won't admit to it directly...


That being said, MOST women IMO that I have had experience online and IRL don't HAVE to think of their vaginas, cuz when they want it,,,,they can almost ALWAYs get it, so long as the dude in question has any experience all with women and understanding her signals, etc...
 coyotefeller
Joined: 11/12/2011
Msg: 17
view profile
History
Do women think with their vaginas?
Posted: 2/20/2012 2:24:43 PM

My vagina has a "brain" just like your dyck has one!


There is nothing like an honest Woman who knows what she
wants, once in a while ! :)


You can be smoking hot but if you're dumb as a box of rocks?
Yea, no thanks.


Really ??! ...even after a few more beers ....and if
he has 10" to offer......just so you can know if it was
all good or just a little too much?!
....Damn, this was off topic because the question
was "when considering a relationship" !!!
Never mind....!!
 Darkbutcomely
Joined: 4/20/2011
Msg: 18
Do women think with their vaginas?
Posted: 2/20/2012 2:30:20 PM

Most women have been conditioned to resist their sexual urges.


UNTRUE. Women release hormones that cause them to bond to people they are having sex with. AFTER a couple of time of NO call the next morning, week or month YOU learn your lesson.

Just read a very interesting article on it:
A key hormone released during sex is oxytocin, also known as the ‘cuddle hormone’. This lowers our defences and makes us trust people more, says Dr Arun Ghosh, a GP specialising in sexual health at the Spire Liverpool Hospital.

It’s also the key to bonding, as it increases levels of empathy. Women produce more of this hormone, although it’s not clear why, and this means they are more likely to let their guard down and fall in love with a man after sex.


However, the problem is that the body can’t distinguish whether the person we’re with is a casual fling or marriage material — oxytocin is released either way. So while it might help you bond with the love of your life, it’s also the reason you may feel so miserable when a short-term relationship ends.

Men, on the other hand, instead of getting a surge of bonding hormone receive a surge of simple pleasure.

‘The problem is that when a man has an orgasm, the main hormone released is dopamine — the pleasure hormone. And this surge can be addictive,’ says Dr Ghosh.

That’s why so many more men tend to suffer from sex addiction.

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2031498/Sex-Why-makes-women-fall-love--just-makes-men-want-MORE.html#ixzz1mxbL1YWv
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
Msg: 19
view profile
History
Do women think with their vaginas?
Posted: 2/20/2012 2:37:06 PM

But if they are extremely unattractive /offensive to me it WILL slam shut.


lol. Nice visual.

Btw: What is the sound of a vagina slamming shut?
 peppermint petunias
Joined: 9/2/2009
Msg: 20
Do women think with their vaginas?
Posted: 2/20/2012 2:46:35 PM

What is the sound of a vagina slamming shut?

Well
It's not bang bang.

Imagine a steel garage door on energizer bunny speed hitting cement.
 Yew4ics
Joined: 9/30/2010
Msg: 21
Do women think with their vaginas?
Posted: 2/20/2012 2:53:58 PM

My vagina has a "brain" just like your dyck has one!
It's called having sexual preferences and we are all entitled to them!~


I couldn't have said it better.
 *army mom*
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 22
Do women think with their vaginas?
Posted: 2/20/2012 3:20:00 PM
No.

We have enough blood to work both ends at the same time.

 HeartOn64
Joined: 2/9/2012
Msg: 23
Do women think with their vaginas?
Posted: 2/20/2012 3:46:12 PM
As if men can't think because they have hard-on's or women can't
be sexually motivated because they have "more sense" than that.
All such pointless generalizations if you ask me.
I like my men,loving,sexy,smart,handsome and respectful....and not necessarily in that order.

But there have been times....when my pvssy let my brain know that it had no clue what it was thinking and to ignore reason and go for PASSION!~
 boninibaby
Joined: 12/3/2011
Msg: 24
Do women think with their vaginas?
Posted: 2/20/2012 5:06:07 PM
I am with you no 1 bby
 funinsun32
Joined: 9/1/2011
Msg: 25
Do women think with their vaginas?
Posted: 2/20/2012 5:10:26 PM
Really ??! ...even after a few more beers ....and if
he has 10" to offer......just so you can know if it was
all good or just a little too much?!
....Damn, this was off topic because the question
was "when considering a relationship" !!!
Never mind....!!
^^^^^ coyotefeller you do make me chuckle!!!
But in all honesty, I love some cold beers and a shot or 2 of tequila now and then and even that can't compensate a dumb a$$!!!
And for me 10" is too much if you must know!!
Show ALL Forums  > Sex and Dating  > Do women think with their vaginas?