| | How has age changed you?Page 1 of 2 (1, 2) | I got a message from a forum that I used to post on 9 years ago. Wasn't a dating forum. Anyway I logged on out of curiosity and read some of my old posts. I was quite surprised about how different I seemed. At 21 I seemed a much sweeter person. I didn't have the bitterness and anger I carry around with me now. Although I was heart broken I seemed full of hope. On the positive side I'm much less shy than I used to be. So here is my question:
Do you think age has changed you for the better or for the worse?
If you could tell a younger version of you anything what would it be? | |
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Posted: 3/10/2012 10:42:42 PM | With all due modesty, I think age has changed me for the better. That is certainly the view among the vast majority of those closest to me. According to them, I have become less excitable and impetuous, and in personal relationships, have learned to strike the right balance between giving and taking.
If I could tell a younger version of myself anything, it would probably be to try and avoid losing myself in work. As I have got older, I have become very much a recovering workaholic! | |
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Posted: 3/10/2012 11:27:19 PM | Im definitely more tolerant, I used to lose my temper so easily when I was younger. Im less selfish but I think having children does that to you, having to put someone else first. Im also more careful about keeping myself safe as people depend on me now, when I think of some of the crazy things I did when I was younger Im surprised I've survived! I suppose Im more aware of my mortality ... when youre young you dont think about dying because that's just something that happens to old people ...  | |
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Posted: 3/10/2012 11:56:59 PM | im getting more of a mixed hair colour,grey...ekkk....i would say im the same,less drinking and bars,although,ten years ago,i liked to think id be a bit more settled down,like my mates where starting to be.but no.coming 36 soon,and single,on a useless dating site.wheres that feckin time machine.... | |
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Posted: 3/11/2012 12:38:34 AM | | im like a good cheese... in my day i tasted good and had an interesting texture, but nowadays im a bit shrivelled up around the edges.. and on hot days i smell a bit as well.. | |
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Posted: 3/11/2012 12:41:37 AM | | I am with Sprite here. I am much more mellow than I used to be and things do not get to me that would have completely stressed me out previously. I also think I have learned things from my experiences, good and bad and I am more likely to take chances now (measured still though - I still have those angel and devil voices on my shoulder LOL). I don't do regrets because it is a waste of energy and I have learned to let go of things and be a bigger person, this is more after watching other relatives and friends families who seem to hold grudges and it just ends up making them miserable. | |
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Posted: 3/11/2012 1:00:53 AM | Oh yes, I am way different from when I was young - I have learnt to stop & wait before engaging gob - I am far more pragmatic now, I recognise that, like it or not, most things are not just black or white.
There is always a world outside the one that currently engages me, and that larger universe impacts on every one of us.
I have learnt to be tolerant, although rank ignorance or stupidity can still push my levers...as can unnecessary & deliberate lies.
Why people make stuff up as they go defeats me. (I've had a couple of 'meet ups' where the lack of honesty was lit like neon, you get better at hearing the duff notes as you age)
I'm totally grey now, but that started ages ago: I miss good sight, glasses to read are an irritation.
I still like my music, but I tend to play it at home nowdays, there's something not quite comfortable about blokes my age hanging around clubs.....having said that, if a serious gig was offered, well, who knows?
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Posted: 3/11/2012 1:38:15 AM | I hate dishonest people as well and don't understand liars. I rarely ever lie (if i do it's to save people's feelings for instance sending a message I don't think we have anything in common to someone usually translates as I don't fancy you). Another interesting thing is i've become more left wing as I've got older which is bucks the trend. Oh and I'm going to say I'm more attractive now.
I'd tell 7 year old me to spend more time with my brother before it was to late
I'd tell 14 year old me "don't worry you will have sex one day"
I'd tell 18 year old me "don't go down to town" on the day i broke my ankle
I'd tell 23 year old me "don't bother with x (an ex boyfriend of mine) as it wasn't worth it
I'd tell 25 year old me not to have that last shot of some blue alcohol | |
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Posted: 3/11/2012 1:59:40 AM | | urmmm, i guess i'm more tolerant than i used to be, and my balls hang lower than they used to. that's about it really | |
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Posted: 3/11/2012 3:37:54 AM | | Definately changed me for the better.I was really painfully shy when i was younger so age has seen me grow in confidence.I always used to worry too about saying the wrong thing and upsetting people but with confidence came the ability to say how i feel and realise that my feelings count too.I no longer take crap or bullshit from anyone and if anyone treats me badly they are history!There are behaviours i will no longer tolerate like i did when i was younger.One thing that has never changed though is that i will NEVER tolerate physical or verbal abuse from a man.Having grown up with domestic violence,that is one thing i always swore i would never put up with and also any man who drinks to excess.If i could tell a younger version of myself anything it would have been to stop trying to be responsible for everyone else and to have aimed for my own dreams. | |
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Posted: 3/11/2012 3:46:34 AM | I think as you get older the things you thought were important no longer are. I dont know how many people I talk to now say the only important thing about a car now is that it starts and gets you to where you are going without breaking down. What was this rush to buy flat screen TVs when our old one worked perfectly well. Do we really need to pay 3 times the price for a T shirt becase its got a little man on a horse embroidered on it and it matters whether he is holding the club up or down.
I think its a wake up call when you calculate how many days you are on this earth. For example if you live another 20 odd years we only have another 7000 or so days left.
So time to me is important. I hate this attitude that we have these days where someone elses time is more important than yours. Deliveries that dont turn up and you sit in waiting. People who say that they will call in ''sometime' but not give a time so you sit in not doing something else. POF dates who cancel at the last minute because their needs are greater than yours and it didn't matter that you arranged everything to accomodate them.
I know that I have become far more tollerate to young people and its nice to watch them progress positively even if its mediocre success . Their lives will not be the same as mine and with encouragement they will make some sort of success in life. Far to many people citisise. I know I was pushed by my parents into directions that really didn't suit my character. That was the done thing. Now reasonably happy where I ended up I am watching my daughter making her choices with encouragement and advice but not critisism. | |
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Posted: 3/11/2012 6:17:42 AM | I appreciate and value my parents more, and I also am conscious that life is short, and getting shorter, so I should make the most of it.... You kinda realise what is really important, although that something I ve done probably from my twenties onwards, when some life events really made me evaluate stuff.
I d like to have the confidence I had in my youth, so many people seem to have more as they get older, for me it seems the other way round.....
I still hope for lots of nice things in life, but I do think the optimism you have as a bright eyed bushy tailed teenager (if you are fortunate to have had a happy childhood), when the world is there for the taken, is something special but is often eroded by life events and experience.
I think the interesting correlation between age, my body, and gravity is one most can relate to, but fortunately ageing vision means I can turn a sort of blind eye to close details I d rather not see - or at least till my kids point them out!!!!! | |
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Posted: 3/11/2012 6:31:54 AM | I no longer believe I am invincible. I used to be fearless emotionally and physically. A couple of bad accidents and probably the birth of children turned me into a worrywart. I've achieved more of a balance now but sometimes I piss myself right off umming and ahing over things I wouldn't have given a moment's thought to in the past.At times I have to think for fecks sake get your head out of your backside woman and just get on with it.
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Posted: 3/11/2012 8:15:55 AM | | Age has changed me a lot. I think I have calmed down a lot. I think I was a bit of a hooligan back in the my teens. | |
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Posted: 3/11/2012 8:57:29 AM | I am more patient then I was when I was younger. I dont think I am as gullible as I was then.
And if I could tell the younger me something it would be " dont marry him ". | |
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Posted: 3/11/2012 9:15:02 AM | Grey hair - I started going grey in my mid 20’s (thanks dad) so I had to start dealing with that a long time ago (using magician's potions).
I do find that I'm becoming slightly eccentric (I've probably always been but it's difficult to step out the box when you’re younger) - when you’re a woman in your 40’s it is permissable to become a little eccentric. Doesn't bother the kids though - they just sigh and shake their heads “that’s mum with a pair of pants on her head again”. | |
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Posted: 3/11/2012 9:26:28 AM | I dont tolerate BS these day's othere than that dont think I have changed that much .
and as for my physical appearance I still dont have any grey hair 's I do look more offen but cant find any neither can they find any at the salon. Which is a bit ace because I am 48. And as for wrinkles started getting some last month my seven year old son said I have "crinkles " now so It must be true!! | |
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Posted: 3/11/2012 9:40:46 AM | I think most people calm down as they get older,i'm no exception.I think with my head more these days rather than my d1ck...which is a good thing.
I'd tell the 23 year old me.Don't marry her! If only my mother hadn't have told me that when i was 23...obviously i had to do the complete opposite,cos we all knew at that age parents know nothing. I'd also tell the teenage me.Get as much education and qualifications as possible...as my parents obviously did! but i wouldn't have listened. | |
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Posted: 3/11/2012 11:45:33 AM | I now have zero tolerance of people who are just out to get what they can out of me and can spot them a mile off.
Becoming self centered is a by product of being single by choice.
As a form of self preservation,It has it's merits. | |
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Posted: 3/11/2012 12:26:34 PM | | Broken front tooth, grey hair, absent-minded...when I'm shaving, I look in the mirror at the ugly mug and think, "Your face is familiar." | |
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Posted: 3/11/2012 12:38:08 PM | Like many people I'm more self-confident than the younger me, and not worrying about the impression I might be making leaves more time for taking notice of others. I think that's one of the benefits of age.
Unfortunately though, I've got lazier about lots of things. Think that's common too.
And I must have got more conservative because I find myself agreeing with a columnist in my paper who used to be a Tory mp. It's downhill all the way from here, clearly | |
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Posted: 3/11/2012 12:43:37 PM | | I am far more independant, tolerant and self sufficient on all levels. My expectations on others are much less and value freedom and choice above all else. I will never take myself or others for granted again. | |
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Posted: 3/12/2012 2:13:49 PM | Not one iota.
I can honestly say that I have the same values and outlook that I did when I was a teenager, in fact nothings changed exept the receeding hairline :O(
Only difference potentially is that I could move faster back then | |
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Posted: 3/12/2012 2:26:50 PM | | Its made me less tolerant of 20 threads all complaining about the same issue. | |
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Posted: 3/12/2012 2:28:12 PM | I am much easier to wind up than I was when I was younger.
I want to throttle the man who removed all the order in the forums tonight! | |
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