| | Is intellegence a deal breaker?Page 1 of 1 | | Is it a deal breaker for you if the girl you're on a date with is not very smart? I do not mean total ditz but say you bring something up that the general public is knowlegable of and she has no idea what you are talking about. Will that turn you away? Especially on the first date considering first impressions are decision makers. When I first start dating a guy I am somewhat nervous so things I usually can talk about I sorda freez or say something so stupid. I just want to know if this is something that guys are aware of and look past or they assume I am a total moron and move on... | |
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| Is intellegence a deal breaker?
Posted: 3/12/2012 1:37:15 AM | You'll do fine I'm sure....as you
have probably found out already anyway
because you are not that young that you
are straight out of the box !
Now if you weren't good looking and
didn't have that cleavage it may be a different story ! :)
raggadie....you are Bad ! :) | |
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| Is intellegence a deal breaker?
Posted: 3/12/2012 1:43:18 AM | | You make laugh! Being knowledgeable of current events is not everyone's cup of tea. For me, as long as she does not go on and on about fashion and hair styles and cloth for hours. | |
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Posted: 3/12/2012 1:49:00 AM | I wouldn't judge a woman's intelligence if she wasn't up on current events and I'm usually in-tune enough to recognize if she's nervous.
If the guy ends up not liking you, I wouldn't blame it on your intelligence. What was it that you had no idea about? | |
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Posted: 3/12/2012 2:23:02 AM | What kind of intelligence? Social? Emotional? Intellectual? Street smarts?
I would not be concerned over perception of others. Some people lack common knowledge and excel in other arias. Take comfort in a thought that you know something your date does not. | |
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Posted: 3/12/2012 5:10:31 AM | The other way round would be a dealbreaker for me. I couldn't go much further with a man unable to excite my mind.
I suppose that, for the long term purpose, men would feel the same.
It has long been said that "dumb" pretty girls are not necessarily even good in bed... | |
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| Is intellegence a deal breaker?
Posted: 3/12/2012 5:23:17 AM | | If a woman lacks intelligence, street smarts, or wisdom it is hard for a relationship to progress for me personally. | |
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| Is intellegence a deal breaker?
Posted: 3/12/2012 5:29:08 AM | | Not being able to have a conversation is a deal-breaker. In the situation that you mentioned, if a guy brings up a topic that you know nothing about and can't provide any input, at least pretend to be interested and ask questions to keep the conversation going. If you can manage that, you'll do alright. Maybe you'll learn something as well. | |
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| Is intellegence a deal breaker?
Posted: 3/12/2012 5:37:17 AM |
Is it a deal breaker for you if the girl you're on a date with is not very smart? I do not mean total ditz but say you bring something up that the general public is knowlegable of and she has no idea what you are talking about. Will that turn you away? Honestly yes Sugar it really would be. I try to keep the banter light on the first date or first meet but I am not looking for a bowl of soggy breakfast cereal. I want one with a little snap, crackle and pop going.
I dont need a rocket scientist. I want someone reasonably quick witted though as they are way more fun generally speaking, for me anyway. You dont have to know the intricacies of world politics but being able to smile and talk a LITTLE about whats going on in our world today (not just what comes on the ET show about Charlie Sheen or Paris Hilton either) is important. I want someone to talk to and share life. My puppy listens well. I am looking for someone that can comment and respond.
Cowboy | |
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Posted: 3/12/2012 6:34:29 AM | | Depends. I'd attempt to steer the conversation towards something she is passionate, thus expectantly knowledgeable, about. The old idiom "jack of all trades; master of none" applies here. At times I'm more impressed w/ a woman who is knowledgeable about a handful of subjects rather than casually so about many. | |
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Posted: 3/12/2012 6:58:18 AM | I would hope she could at least spell intelligence  Well someone had to say it!!
I sound like a snob and am not, the measure of anyone is how well their children turn out IM (not so H) O, I'd be happy if mine waited tables or cleaned the streets as long as they were honest , caring and morally upright.
Appreciate here that intelligence isn't an excuse for common sense and the only 3 people I've ever had to dismiss have all been graduates...super intelligent but completely lacking in common sense.
Wouldn't matter to me if my next significant other worked as a cleaner in a sewage farm...but I'd have to hose her down before she came in the house..natch! :o) | |
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Posted: 3/12/2012 6:59:53 AM | | to me? yes....ill date a girl a few times before i decide if she's a "keeper" and some degree of intelligence is a must. if not the attraction stays purely physical and an actual relationship is impossible as theres nothing to connect on and its only delaying the inevitable. | |
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Posted: 3/12/2012 7:03:49 AM | | Yup! As big of a deal breaker as anything else, If the conversation isn't stimulating do I really want to be talking to the wall for the entire date?....Or even worse, the next 40 years? | |
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Posted: 3/12/2012 7:17:27 AM | I'll never understand why people equate intelligence with "knowledge of current events".
While there are plenty of smart people who honestly don't pay attention to things like local politics, I'd argue that are more stupid people who do. | |
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Posted: 3/12/2012 7:22:55 AM | Freezing or dropping a conversation is perfectly acceptable.
I've learned to turn it humorous when it happens to me.
But there is to stupid to carry a conversation in a bucket, with a lid.
I'd rather have my intellect fed and challenged and have fun talking, than be around someone I had to re-train how to walk and chew gum . . . | |
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Posted: 3/12/2012 7:27:49 AM | | At my age, if she isn't in the loop about simple things, then I can't help but think what an idiot. They don't have to be brain surgeons but should at least be intelligent enough to hold a conversation without getting flustered. | |
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| Is intellegence a deal breaker?
Posted: 3/12/2012 7:45:55 AM |
Is it a deal breaker for you if the girl you're on a date with is not very smart? I do not mean total ditz but say you bring something up that the general public is knowlegable of and she has no idea what you are talking about. Will that turn you away? Especially on the first date considering first impressions are decision makers. When I first start dating a guy I am somewhat nervous so things I usually can talk about I sorda freez or say something so stupid. I just want to know if this is something that guys are aware of and look past or they assume I am a total moron and move on...
For me, it's more of a dealbreaker if talking to a brick wall is more productive than talking to a woman. | |
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| Is intellegence a deal breaker?
Posted: 3/12/2012 8:39:56 AM |
Is it a deal breaker for you if the girl you're on a date with is not very smart?
Depends on other things that go along with it.
Like am I so much smarter than her that just me being myself makes her feel stupid.
Not that I am pointing out how not very smart she is, she just notices a disparity between us that makes her uncomfortable.
Or if she then feels she has to try and prove she's smarter than she actually is in competition with me or someone and it turns into one upping games and conflict.
I do not mean total ditz but say you bring something up that the general public is knowlegable of and she has no idea what you are talking about. Will that turn you away?
Depends on what it is.
No one can know everything.
For all I know she knows everything about China and the history of the middle east, but doesn't know who Taylor Swift is.
When I first start dating a guy I am somewhat nervous so things I usually can talk about I sorda freez or say something so stupid. I just want to know if this is something that guys are aware of and look past or they assume I am a total moron and move on...
IMO how you deal with it is going to be more determinant of being turned off or turning someone off than what it actually is. | |
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| Is intellegence a deal breaker?
Posted: 3/12/2012 9:18:28 AM | | My preference is not about intelligence on the woman's part - but more as "our" ability to carry on interesting and stimulating conversations. I've had some pretty awesome conversations with people who don't come across as the brightest bulb on a string of holiday lights. | |
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