|Feedback please.Page 1 of 1 |
|Ladies, can you please give me some idea's on what I may be lacking in my profile please. I don't seem to be getting a lot of emails so I figured I'd ask why. Any ideas?|
Posted: 3/14/2012 3:44:54 PM
|what i am wondering is how "garage sales lol" became a common clickable interest.|
men! *smh* :)
not to be mean, just honest, you need a new haircut!! the bowl haircut was cute... i think in 1997. :X
"I'm looking for a girl who likes to play but can keep it real."
que? sounds sexual. what does "keep it real" even mean?
"Not a player."
are there women your age who are still "players"? i reserve that title for men.
Posted: 3/14/2012 7:02:33 PM
|The photos are really not helping. |
The blue shirt photo I'm going to hope was done in fun as the hair is really awful. Sorry, but that is just not good. A main photo should be clear, closeup (shoulders up), big smile with teeth and sparkling eyes - no sunglasses or hat/cap. If you're going to go with "Average" body type, you will need a full length casual shot.
Instead of the smartass job, why not put something in that more generally describes the work you actually do? Some women will think you're trying to hide being unemployed. No surprises.
The first 2/3's of the profile talk about who you were looking for, but only one small paragraph of a list of things you like to talk about you. That doesn't really convey your personality or sense of humour. Start with YOUR info first.
When you say you don't seem to be getting a lot of emails, do you also mean responses to your messages?
Once you've cleaned up the photos and done some editing to be more specific, work on messages again. In case it helps, I'm going to add some notes I made from another thread on sending first messages. The guy had "Fishing" as an Interest:
Try this template which may help you get over the 'writer's block' for first messages:
Message: 3-4 sentence at most, light humoured, including 1 question only so she has an easy way to respond. Sign only your first name.
Do not say:
- Hi, Hey, Hello or How are you (wastes time)
- I read your profile (should be obvious)
- you're cute/pretty/beautiful (creepy in a first message)
- let's meet up for .... (again, creepy/pushy in a first message)
- check me out and email me back ( they know what to do already)
- hope to hear from you soon (sounds like begging/desperate)
Don't blather on about yourself - your profile is supposed to give information about you.
If I were writing to you, I'd use the specific interest of Fishing. Actually, that is the exact interest I used when I first wrote to my (now) husband.
Message: I just learned how to fly fish, but haven't actually caught anything yet. I much prefer spincast river fishing - fewer casualties! Have you been out yet this season? YGF
See? No pressure, obviously I read your profile, open a conversation, easy way to respond if you choose.
Posted: 3/14/2012 7:29:01 PM
|Lol..... Bowl haircut? Not even close, but I appreciated your input. Yes, ladies "My Age" Do seem to play games :) It's odd but very true. |
Posted: 3/14/2012 9:39:36 PM
|Your profile reads like you would be fun to talk to so all good. |
My preference is for photos where you are smiling and just you.
Did you ask your neices for permission to be on a dating site?
Other than that if you messaged me I would respond cheerfully.
Posted: 3/14/2012 10:57:56 PM
|That was sweet. Thank you so much :)|
Posted: 3/14/2012 11:25:03 PM
|A bit of detail can go a long way. Maybe cutting down on two or three activies you like to do, in the last paragraph. Instead focus on some short specifics, such as, why you enjoy them.|