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 ibakecakes
Joined: 11/27/2008
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Having read through the 7 or more pages of discussions about black women not dating black men, I saw a comment that basically asked a poster if being black was what defined him. When filling in forms these days, it is quite common to be asked if you have a disability and also what 'race' you are. So with the government and stastistics obviously using the colour of a person's skin or disability to formulate who we all are, what do you think defines you? If you were asked to describe yourself in 5 words, what would they be? Would define ourselves by our sex, age, skin colour and perhaps whether we are a parent or maybe even marital status - is this REALLy what we are all about?
 Lusipher
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Posted: 3/23/2012 7:21:33 AM
Oh I can imagine this getting really "clever", really quickly

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5 words that define me, you say?

Intelligent
Opinionated
Fickle
Logical
Geezer... nah, a Realist

Or... I am what I am

(thanks Popeye)

Tbc...

I think age, height, colour, etc are descriptive words... I wouldn't see any of them being things that define me.

I know some people would be defined by them and it's a core part of their being. Just not for me.

I am neither proud nor ashamed of my gender for example, it's just the way I was born. It's more important to me that I am an Arsenal fan than it is about where I was born, where my parents came from, my nationality, my gender, my colour, etc... As I had no say in the matter on any of them.

Things I have chosen myself, define me more than things that were determined for me or without my input.
 Strider886
Joined: 3/28/2006
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Posted: 3/23/2012 7:22:41 AM
"It's what you do that defines you"
 Jacknher
Joined: 11/23/2011
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Posted: 3/23/2012 7:23:20 AM
Single....white....happy.....independant.....mother
 Mephistone
Joined: 7/3/2009
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Posted: 3/23/2012 7:26:21 AM
British.

And all the heritage , history and cultural milieu that entails.
 OldTomBombadil
Joined: 1/22/2010
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Posted: 3/23/2012 7:44:00 AM
It's kinda difficult to convey the full spectrum of what a wonderful human being you are on a dating website, but even if you could, most people are only interested in your pictures anyway. People always make snap judgements about others based on a few key pieces of info.

Personally I read your username "ibakecakes" and in my mind I'm already planning our wedding.

Reserved, studious, stoic, humanist engineer.
 Wafta
Joined: 9/9/2008
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Posted: 3/23/2012 7:54:01 AM
I can only think of one word.

Me
 celladore
Joined: 11/11/2011
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Posted: 3/23/2012 8:00:46 AM
i am unique, i am beautiful, i am free in my mind, and i have all the potential in the world. all other definitions are temporary.
 *rem*
Joined: 11/5/2008
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Posted: 3/23/2012 8:07:00 AM

Single....white....happy.....independant.....mother


Is it me or..?

Meticulous (things im passionate about anyway)
Patient
Confident
Talented
Humble
 ChuffingBinty
Joined: 11/2/2007
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Posted: 3/23/2012 8:54:08 AM
Fab

Great

Wonderful

Awsome

Fantatsic

Just kidding...... But i think what defines us is the way we are in general not how we look or our age.

But i do think im fab that one wasnt a lie

what isnt fab is..... MESSAGE TO SHORT
 SwanSpirit
Joined: 10/30/2008
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Posted: 3/23/2012 9:04:44 AM
Swan ... long necked big arsed bird with attitude.

Nuff said.
 Lusipher
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Posted: 3/23/2012 9:11:30 AM
Swans mate for life, right?
 SwanSpirit
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Posted: 3/23/2012 9:14:19 AM
Apparently so Lus.
 Lusipher
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Posted: 3/23/2012 9:30:45 AM
Does your fella know about this?

He might start praying for a swansong

"ich schneide mein eigenen Hals"

Yes, my German is poor... No, I don't care
 sprite1950
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Posted: 3/23/2012 10:29:38 AM
Every time I try to write something I end up deleting it because reading it back makes me cringe. I dont like describing myself
 Monkeysox
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Posted: 3/23/2012 10:32:22 AM
Ha, I have just done the exact same thing Sprite, typed out 5 things , looked at it and then deleted them.
 ControlledFolly
Joined: 2/17/2011
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Posted: 3/23/2012 11:19:59 AM
My intent through action.

Others define me as an enigma - Thats ok i dont understand myself most of the time.
 pleegeree
Joined: 5/14/2009
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Posted: 3/23/2012 11:28:11 AM
My sisters would say I am a bit odd and geek..

but I would say I am a nervous character, my mind always needs to work on some kind of a puzzle, individualist, untidy, very positive, direct, eccentric, smoker and overweight.
 Ger2000
Joined: 2/9/2010
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Posted: 3/23/2012 11:37:59 AM
The parameters of my brain and my life experience define me - and everybody else, I reckon.
 shortbutsweet63
Joined: 8/21/2011
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Posted: 3/23/2012 11:44:38 AM
Chirpy
Cheeky
Honest
Reliable
Loveable

 indigovelvet
Joined: 5/9/2010
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Posted: 3/23/2012 12:06:04 PM
my ability to make a balls up of something major and shrug it off as minor.

erm.... I might have to reflect on that if I'm handed my P45 next week.
 fairytoothmother
Joined: 7/18/2011
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Posted: 3/23/2012 12:41:26 PM
mad
kind
loving
patient
intelligent
 Pud78
Joined: 4/29/2010
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Posted: 3/23/2012 1:29:20 PM
Adaptable, opinionated, reliable, respectable and respetful

These are the strongest character traits that I have and place most value on but I am not defined by those traits and they have no bearing on who I am.

Those 5 traits tell you nothing about me really......and there is a chance you know more about who I am by descriptive information.

Male, white, Cambridge, Graduate and 34.

That may tell you more about me if you didn't know me, If though you met me then you would almost know a lot of that information.

So ultimately I think your defined by what you do, what you believe in and what drives you and can't be summed in 5 words/
 flaneur001
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Posted: 3/23/2012 1:50:57 PM
How I would describe myself:
compassionate
authentic
calm socially poised introvert
sensitive
thoughtful

How others would describe me:
creative
fearless
dynamic
compassionate
direct
 Lusipher
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Posted: 3/23/2012 1:55:50 PM
@msg 24

That's got to be a case of how you think other people MIGHT describe you, or how you would hope they would describe you

There's no way in this or any other reality, that everyone else is going to think of the same 5 things... Especially as they're all positive traits.
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