| | Is shift work an automatic turn-off?Page 1 of 1 | Hi!
Ok so I'm a nurse and this means providing 24/7 coverage and working shifts. Is this pretty much an automatic turn off for people? Although to be honest I find women who are otherwise interested run the other way screaming the moment I mention I'm a nurse. So it might just be that.
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| Is shift work an automatic turn-off?
Posted: 3/24/2012 1:18:32 PM | | Hehe! Very true... though most of my male colleagues are married to nurses or doctors, etc... Thought I'd give dating outside of the profession a go but you're absolutely right! | |
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| Is shift work an automatic turn-off?
Posted: 3/24/2012 1:30:17 PM | Not in my book...no. But it seems that if you work all these different shifts and hours (never the same days off...or always working different shifts than what you were hired for) is a hinderance to a lot of people. SOme do not understand the healthcare field and how weird it can be. Had a lot of problems with dating due to misunderstandings.
some straight male nurses are hawt btw..lol | |
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Posted: 3/24/2012 1:39:30 PM | Don't make assumptions about why a woman lost interest in you. Most of them will be happy that you have a job and a career ahead of you.
The thing I tell myself when/if a woman loses interest - if I were the last guy on earth, she'd still want to date me.
It all boils down to her having other options in this world. That's the King when looking for reasons. Meaning; don't put the blame on *yourself* and put self-beliefs in your head! ..unless you obviously have issues and need help.
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Posted: 3/24/2012 1:43:04 PM | | Shift work makes life (and dating) more difficult. But a woman is going to go for a man she finds attractive. If that's you, she will make allowances. If that isn't you, then it doesn't matter when you work. | |
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Posted: 3/24/2012 1:54:24 PM | Someone working 24/7 and on a shift work would not be for me, to each their own... I would also pass on a male nurse.
If I was a man- I would most likely pass on a woman who worked as a steelworker too... or one who rode a harley or some motor bike and dressed in leathers. Just not appealing.
To each their own, it's what makes the world go round.
So for some a turn off yes, for others no... find the ones who are ok with your work/ hours and all. | |
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Posted: 3/24/2012 2:08:45 PM | Hi Christy! Why Thank you! Complements are always welcome!
I think you're right I should probably try and make it more obvious from the get go. I often forget the uninitiated don't really know about what shift work actually means!
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Silver Sparks! Hi!
I know exactly what you mean! And those damn lawnmowers on a Sunday morning after a night shift! Enough to drive you crazy!
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Kites! I would traditionally agree with you but generally their change in body language/loss of interest coincides exactly with the moment I utter my profession. I honestly don't mind all that much as you say it's their problem not mine! I have no lack of interest at work but am trying to keep work and life separate as I've dated a house officer before and things weren't pretty when it fell apart. Thanks for the reply!
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ohenryx. yes completely! Just need to bide my time and find someone like that.
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holycowwow many thanks for your honesty!
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Thanks guys! You've certainly given me something to think about! | |
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Posted: 3/24/2012 2:11:23 PM |
If I was a man- I would most likely pass on a woman who worked as a steelworker too... or one who rode a harley or some motor bike and dressed in leathers. Just not appealing.
A steelworker I could handle if she was feminine. Biker chicks like that don't do it for me.
Maybe manfromthesouth could put some extra emphasis in his profile about his masculinity to help over shadow his job. I'm not judging it, but some women might. | |
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Posted: 3/24/2012 2:11:29 PM | | How can a relationship/marriage work if a person works 24/7??? That means you'll never have time to make for the other person. And working 24/7? Talk about a future meltdown, and thanks for reminding me to never date male nurses. | |
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Posted: 3/24/2012 2:17:27 PM | I'm not sure why a male nurse would bother some women. You'd think they'd like a man who's comfortable with his masculinity.
Shift work doesn't actually mean you're working more hours, just that your schedule is somewhat erratic. You still have free time but it's just not on the same days or at the same time of the day each week. To me, it requires a flexible partner (no pun intended) but it's not impossible to do. Otherwise, the nurses and emergency medicine physicians of the world would all be unmarried. | |
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Posted: 3/24/2012 2:43:32 PM |
How can a relationship/marriage work if a person works 24/7??? That means you'll never have time to make for the other person. And working 24/7? Talk about a future meltdown, and thanks for reminding me to never date male nurses.
I think you will find he means being 'on call' 24/7, not actually working 24/7.
Personally, I'd enjoy having a partner who worked shift work, for the most part.
I like my 'me time' so I'd enjoy those times outside of 9-5 when I was at home and he was at work. I also think it provides so many opportunities for caring gestures. He arrives home at 9pm, tired. I've been at home since 5 with a couple of hours of relaxation. I hear his car pull up, put his dinner on the table, pour a glass of wine and greet him at the door with a kiss and a hug. So much nicer than both of us arriving him stressed from a busy day and peak hour traffic.
You get more chances to miss each other and look forward to being together.
I don't really care at all what hours my man works (if he hasn't retired already). If you love someone you work around it.
That male nurse you pass up today, could land a Nursing Centre management position next week, get a wonderful pay rise, and be working 9-5 from then on.
The Business Manager with the 9-5 job today, could be laid off tomorrow, and end up working at a 24 hour petrol station on irregular shifts.
The bottom line is that if you love someone enough, you will fit around their hours. | |
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Posted: 3/24/2012 3:04:10 PM | Could be the silly hat/horns.. (just kidding...a little)
Could be the nurse thing - although, at least in the US it isn't stigmatized to any huge degree - can't speak to the UK. Obviously a doctor might not want to date you... They..went to medical school afterall... lol
I would think (incorrectly perhaps) that the shift-work - in your age range specifically - wouldn't be a huge deal breaker. | |
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Posted: 3/24/2012 4:28:19 PM | | There are times I work 2 and 3 jobs, so shift work doesn't bother me. I tend to like my alone time as well as much as or more than interaction sometimes, so I'll always value any down time I get. The only time I get bothered by having down time is when I'd rather be working. The male nurse thing doesn't make much difference to me - as long as he likes what he does and is happy with the living he's making. | |
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Posted: 3/24/2012 4:52:28 PM | Oh! Gcdeb such a charmer! Indeed you are quite correct! That would certainly be my ideal!
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GreatGuyATX, If they can't handle the horns then they certainly won't handle me! I find most doctors to be both open and approachable but as I said it makes a real mess at work!
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WomanInProgress, indeed I rather enjoy my job so it's not something I'd readily give up, so it's good to hear there are those happy with the profession! | |
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Posted: 3/24/2012 5:23:38 PM | | I don't think it's the shift work, that wouldn't be a turn off for me, I think it's the prejudice that sometimes exists against male nurses.. like people thinking they are gay.. I don't think male nurses are necessarily gay though, that's dumb.. | |
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Posted: 3/24/2012 5:29:02 PM | I don't think shift-work is necessarily a problem, just somewhat of a limitation.
You'd probably have an easier time with other people who work shifts, since its somewhat harder for your "normal" 8-5 person to deal with (though some might of course), ie, police, firefighters, obviously other health-care workers, I'm sure there's other job fields that probably could apply to as well, or perhaps even those who work "2nd or 3rd" shifts (who are out of the 'normal 8-5 crowd' as well) might be more adaptable/amenable to it.
Everyone is different - it works when both people are ok with the others schedules (even if they're in flux). | |
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Posted: 3/24/2012 10:26:05 PM |
If I was a man- I would most likely pass on a woman who worked as a steelworker too... or one who rode a harley or some motor bike and dressed in leathers. Just not appealing.
I am crushed.  | |
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| Is shift work an automatic turn-off?
Posted: 3/25/2012 3:21:58 PM | | Other way round for me, I'm a shift worker to and often work weekends so I find a Mon - Fri worker a turn off and would be hard to spend time together. The profession choice doesn't bother me personally, but I can see that it could be an issue for some! | |
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