| | Should I talk to her again? (A lil long)Page 1 of 1 | | Well to start off this girl and I met in high school, became really good friends, best friends you can say. That was 4-5 years ago and sometime in the past 6 months I told her I had feelings for her etc. Then as we were talking she told me she had feelings for me too in the past years but she didnt want to act on them, but she was willing to give me and her a try. Then she breaks down(cries) and tells me basically dont hurt her because shes been hurt in the past a lot. I told her I wouldn't because I dont play games. Then we make plans to hangout the next following week but the day before we hangout I get no response when I text her. So the day of our scheduled plans I call text then and get no response. I even took time off work for this day, which kind of aggravated me(Cuz I missed an opportunity to make money lol). But then the next day or two days whatever it was, she called and said she had work. So I was like 'ok sh*t happens' she probably did w.e. | |
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| Should I talk to her again?
Posted: 3/29/2012 2:38:23 PM | Then the next few weeks pass and I get no contact from her even when I try to contact her. Then out of nowhere she calls me and says sorry that shes been doing that etc. Then tells me she had a bf during that time she wasnt talking to me. Then I decide to give her another chance cuz I really liked her. But then in the next following weeks she says she doesn't want a relationship. So Im like whatever I'll be on my way, and you go on yours.
4 months later(today) She sends me a message asking how I am.
I kind of want to respond to it but I dont want to get let down again? Im confused on what to do?! 0_0 | |
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| Should I talk to her again?
Posted: 3/29/2012 3:32:39 PM | I have 5 words for you
kick her to the curb
She is flaky and doesn't know what she wants, she doesn't know the difference between her ass and elbow, you are her ego boost when she feeling down.
Is this the best you can do? | |
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Posted: 3/29/2012 4:17:45 PM | ^No, and ^no again.
Definitely respond, but make sure you CALL HER OUT on what she's been doing. Leave it at that. Make sure she realized you're not a door-mat (even though so far you kind of have been, but this time you can change that...)
See where it goes from there. (As in, see what kind of bs lies she's got for you this time), then simply don't respond. | |
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| Should I talk to her again?
Posted: 3/29/2012 11:27:16 PM | Don't invest any more thought or feeling in this woman. I agree with what OneGodfather wrote; she's flaky! So, it's *you* that needs to make the decision about her now. Don't sit around waiting (investing) to see what she does..
I suspect she enjoys the type of attention that she knows she'll get from you now that you've laid the "girlfriend potential" matter on the line. Women pull this friend-zone malarkey to keep a guy around and will use it as a crutch when they're between relationships. It's interesting - you don't hear about guys friend-zoning women nearly as much.
Good luck! | |
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| Should I talk to her again?
Posted: 3/30/2012 7:32:25 AM | I had a situation like this before. It didn't go quite THIS far, but far enough.
I had a young lady play a similar game. I was doing really well financially during this time, but I never discussed it with her or anyone in public. One of her friends tipped her off about how I was doing. Suddenly I was getting messages and calls from her almost daily talking about how much she missed me, and how she wanted to hang out, etc.
Smh, lol. What this amounts to is a woman who is opportunistic. You only hear from her when she's in need, be it emotional or financial, but she has no real intent to form a lasting relationship. Back then, I was the type who would play the game back; set up fake dates and not show up, promise things and never do it, offer to help with something important and never do it, disappear from contact. I was a real cut-up, but it's not like those women didn't deserve it. Indirectly, I was teaching them a lesson; you deserve to get what you give. | |
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| Should I talk to her again?
Posted: 3/30/2012 9:22:56 AM | | Honestly, I act the way the girl your dealing with is acting when I'm not into a guy like that or interested in pursuing a relationship. Usually I'll ignore their text, take forever to respond, or cancel plans at the last minute; Heck, sometimes I don't even cancel because I forget. I wouldn't necesarily say that she's playing with your head, but I don't think she's back in your life for a commitment. She probably desires attention or is bored. I do random pop up acts too. The thing is, she knows how you feel and she know feels that you'll always be there because you always have; so she may use that to her advantage. She expects you to respond.Although I believe in authenticity and I hate game playing, I think you should ignore her and stand your ground. You don't want to seem like a pushover (I hate that), but then she'll realize that she doesn't have you like that and if she's serious about you, she'll keep coming around. | |
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| Should I talk to her again?
Posted: 3/30/2012 11:11:50 AM | | She's messed you around once already. Why wouldn't she do it again? You'd be better off with someone who cares about your feelings, not just her own, and who is reliable. | |
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| Should I talk to her again?
Posted: 3/30/2012 1:17:42 PM | okay really??
its a neon sign and still you cant see it
this girl call you when she DOESNT HAVE ANYTHING BETTER TO DO
you are the fall guy
and your letting her play you like a fiddle
wise up
next time she calls play it cool
strap on a pair of balls or this girl will continue to walk all over you | |
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