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 PaminSD
Joined: 2/25/2012
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I had been chatting with this gentleman for about a month and we had our first meet today. Now, take in mind, that NONE of our conversations had ever been geared toward sex at all...I thought that was very gentleman-like.

Well, we met today. He kissed me with his teeth and shoved his tongue down my throat and he got a boner. Asked if we could meet up later tonight...ummm....think not.

Why, oh why?
 gcdeb
Joined: 4/25/2011
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Bad first meet....UGH
Posted: 3/31/2012 7:24:19 PM
Yuk! Sounds like a charmer.
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 3
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Posted: 3/31/2012 7:25:32 PM
Because some men are idiots.
 kaseyj13
Joined: 3/9/2012
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Posted: 3/31/2012 7:26:36 PM
i just met up with someone last night i met from online, and i can't say it went bad, but i KNEW he was tryin to make a move and i was just so uncomfortable (not the right connection before hand).......and he did the "hug and mlove face toward my face" move and i just gave up and kissed him but refused to open my mouth...i knew he was waiting for it but **** that....
where's the connection anymore these days?
Bad first meet....UGH
Posted: 3/31/2012 7:26:46 PM


Does it surprise you?

This site is full of tactless individuals.
 Dili_gent
Joined: 1/8/2011
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Posted: 3/31/2012 7:32:58 PM
I'd suggest NOT chatting for a month.

While he acted inappropriately, you had a hand in this poor experience too.

UGH
 PaminSD
Joined: 2/25/2012
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Posted: 3/31/2012 7:35:20 PM
Well, and he was a LOT older than he was in his pictures too! I mean he stood there right in front of me just rubbing himself, (not jacking off or anything) and just going, oooh....

I was just floored! I was like...you have GOT to be joking!
 RushLuv
Joined: 4/16/2009
Msg: 8
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Posted: 3/31/2012 7:43:41 PM
He kissed with his teeth? Wtf.
 Simon4567
Joined: 10/9/2010
Msg: 9
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Posted: 3/31/2012 7:48:33 PM
eww, gross?

 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/10/2011
Msg: 10
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Posted: 3/31/2012 8:13:51 PM
Oh my goodness! A sex hunger, not a gentleman.
 tjl503
Joined: 9/29/2011
Msg: 11
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Posted: 3/31/2012 8:17:56 PM
haha. that's awesome. He was ready to go right there. It's your loss he sounds like a sweet guy.
 soicat
Joined: 3/3/2010
Msg: 12
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Posted: 3/31/2012 8:46:50 PM
OP - in your profile under First Date you say, and I quote, "I would like the man to plan it."

This gentleman took you at your word, and you took umbrage.

You should call him right now, invite him over, and do your best to make amends. If you make an effort to be affectionate, he may forgive you. I wouldn't put it past him.
 PaminSD
Joined: 2/25/2012
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Posted: 3/31/2012 9:14:41 PM
Dogslife: you could see it bulging, plus he was touching himself there.
 Buckets_of_Sky
Joined: 2/7/2010
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Posted: 3/31/2012 9:53:50 PM
Did he even buy you dinner?
 lotustemple
Joined: 10/23/2011
Msg: 15
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Posted: 4/1/2012 12:16:52 AM
Sorry it must have been horrid meeting him but thanks for sharing, its hillarious to read about.
 RussianChick7
Joined: 3/23/2012
Msg: 16
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Posted: 4/1/2012 12:21:36 AM
Ugh. Eww. Gross. I thought my strand of bad dates with douches have been bad.. This sounds worse. :( Sorry to hear it happened. Better luck next time. :)
 DanceyFace
Joined: 2/27/2012
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Posted: 4/1/2012 12:56:17 AM
OMG! I'm so sorry for this but you gave me one hearty laugh.

And what the heck is a teeth kiss??

(I'm still laughing! This story his hilarious...)
 SexyKG74
Joined: 3/15/2009
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Posted: 4/1/2012 4:21:42 AM
(Well, and he was a LOT older than he was in his pictures too!)

See, this is where you went wrong...when I meet a guy who obviously posts pics that are really old/do not show what he CURRENTLY looks like, I walk away...no need to speak, just walk away. That's my new thing. I do not have time to waste, as I'm a busy woman. "Jaws," I mean the man you met, would not have even had the opportunity to kiss me!

I "just walk away" in the initial meet if:

- He shows up looking nothing that was indicated in his profile (a few inches shorter, more than 20 lbs heavier than his pics, 1/2 of his hair is gone yet all of his posted photos have him with a full head of hair, etc.)

-He's noted he's a professional in his profile, yet when you meet, he tells you he actually hasn't been in that field since the market crashed in 2007...and he's either unemployed and/or he's been a sales associate at Walmart for the past 4 years...of course very unfortunate that this happened, yet kind of misleading, don't ya think?! It's kind of like the guy who calls himself a football player...when he did it in college years ago. Of course your experience can't be taken away from you...but it is not what you do right now.

-He mentions he has a couple of kids from "prior relationships" yet he indicated "none" for having children...WTF?!? Did human beings that share your DNA just appear out of the blue?!

I'm all for nipping things in the bud!
 IronBelle
Joined: 3/13/2012
Msg: 19
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Posted: 4/1/2012 4:30:43 AM
Not shocked. Where were you guys that he did this? Out in public? Check the local sexual predator site , bet he is on there....LOL A lot of these men are. Everything from lewd/sexual behavior in public to raping minor children.

Ask for recent photos next time as well. Photos are pretty easy to figure out. And do not let chatting and e mails go on for a month.

How do you kiss with teeth? He was probably sitting there jacking the tiger before you even got there.

Welcome to Plenty Of Freaks.
 windchymes
Joined: 11/29/2008
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Posted: 4/1/2012 5:37:40 AM
Well, that's why they're looking in here. They've already creeped out all the girls in their real life.
 laskoboo
Joined: 2/12/2010
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Posted: 4/1/2012 6:58:58 AM

Well, and he was a LOT older than he was in his pictures too! I mean he stood there right in front of me just rubbing himself, (not jacking off or anything) and just going, oooh....

I was just floored! I was like...you have GOT to be joking


been there... met those guys.......
you wonder WTF? these are men? more like teeangers.........
dating sites are flooded with them... no social skills........ fixated on their penis..........
lots of them on dating sites, where they are legends in their own minds !


They've already creeped out all the girls in their real life


a lot of truth to that !
 WiseBurro
Joined: 11/25/2011
Msg: 22
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Posted: 4/1/2012 7:14:40 AM

And what the heck is a teeth kiss??

That's when the false teeth extend out of the mouth like "Aliens"
 carolann0308
Joined: 12/9/2006
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Posted: 4/1/2012 7:21:04 AM

you could see it bulging, plus he was touching himself there.


Where the hell did you set up the first meet a sleazy truck stop???
 icallbs
Joined: 2/13/2012
Msg: 24
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Posted: 4/1/2012 7:35:06 AM
I think the 1st mistake you made was waiting a month to meet the guy. You'd be less aggrieved by such a lousy date if you had less time and energy invested by the time you meet for the first time.

Usually, one or two phone conversations is enough to know if you want to meet someone and whether there's any obvious red flags -- IF you've developed some good "weeder" skills, and can listen with the big ears on when you're having those conversations. I wouldn't feel bad, though -- you said he was the perfect gentleman in his communication with you before you met... sometimes a bad date is just the luck of the draw.

I really can't imagine someone actually rubbing themselves in public, but I believe you.

Run, Forrest, Runnnnnn!
 VOYAGER1954
Joined: 12/18/2011
Msg: 25
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Posted: 4/1/2012 7:41:28 AM
Well if it is any consolation for you, I hear Viagra is expensive, and not covered by insurance. So you may have made him think twice before the next time.
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