| | i am confused? is he interested in me part.1Page 1 of 2 (1, 2) | Ok, first date we went to a decent restaurant
Conversation ~ he tried to ask about my past relationship and online experience, I tried to change the topics just because I don't think its an appropriate topic..then he told me about his online experience..he met a girl who was nice but the distance was far, 2nd date she is pretty but no as pretty as her photos and wear too much make up..his is handsome, muscular and he said his ideal partner has to be physical attractive, gorgeous etc..he wants to me a woman who walks in the room and everyone would stare at her and he would be like "that's my woman"..okie of course everyone wants to meet someone who is attractive, no question...just by listening to him I knew I am not qualify for his requirements...I knew I am not 10 maybe 8, so I knew that there won't be 2nd date..
2days went by I heard back from him, just said hello..thas it..then the fourth day he asked if I wanna get together that night kinna like last min plan.. geez whatever since I didn't have any plan I agreed to meet him, I felt like what's wrong with this guy, why he asked me out again I know I am not as pretty as he describe his ideal woman, is it because he is bored, is it because his dates cancelled and he tried to fill his cancelation spot ..so we went to this live music bar...I didn't really know what topics to talk about, I didn't wanna make he feel bored of me and knowin that he is probably not interested in me that made it even harder to talk.. | |
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Posted: 4/1/2012 11:16:23 AM | 30min later 5 of his friends went to join us because they were eating and saw us walked by, he introduced me to his friends,, 3guys 2ladies...they were actually very pleasant people, we had fun, we played some game, danced etc..he tried to kiss me twice that night but I told him I wasn't ready...
We called the night pretty late, I realized that he is a fun guy to hang out with, I had a lot of fun and he is actually not only handsome but hot...now what I am so confused if he just used me to fill out his dating cancelation spot, why he introduced me to meet his friends? Is he a player? If I am ugly then why he want me to meet his people? Then the next day he invited me to come over to his place because he want to cook for me..I said not a good idea but would like to take a rain check..instead I suggested us to meet at a restaurant..so any opinions? Do u think he just want to have sex with me? Is he really interested in me..like I said I am not a super model I am about 8 not 10...thnks for inputs | |
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Posted: 4/1/2012 11:25:06 AM | A lot of drama for a 31 year old. Please do not post part 2. The guy is not interested. All this back and forth, interested not interested. If a guy is, you will know it. Who the hell knows if he is a a player but I will say you give mixed signals. Or you have low self esteem. Are you ugly? Does he think I am ugly? Is he using me to fill a dating cancelations spot? Geez .
Introducing you to friends is not big deal. He kinda had to, as the showed up. LOL
Like it takes being a super model to attract someone? Yet you put yourself down then claim to be an 8 to 10 ( I love how photoless people do that on here. All the on line hotties with no photos ).
Call him and ask HIM all this crap. It is nuts ! And gain some confidence first. | |
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Posted: 4/1/2012 11:27:44 AM | Did he accept your alternate suggestion to go to a restaurant instead?
The fact that he keeps asking you out means that he has a continued interest in you. Of course he wants to have sex with you - just like you'd like to have sex with him. Whether or not he's going to play you - I don't know. I think that if you let him know what your expectations are, he'll answer your question through his actions. You've already rejected him twice by not kissing him.. give him an explanation - that you want to take it slow. The next time you go out, initiate the kiss *yourself* and then tell him (that you want to take it slow).. that'll send all the right messages. Would work beautifully with me.
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Posted: 4/1/2012 11:36:25 AM | | I think by him saying he wants a 10, and you are not (by your own admission).. he thinks you'll be so happy or thankful.. that he's showing you the slightest bit of interest | |
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Posted: 4/1/2012 11:55:14 AM | | Hi thanks for inputs...yes I do have photos and do have my profile..I left my profile undone now because I do not like to date multiple at once...yes I am an 8..and yes I had dated someone who is way hotter than him...yes he agreed to go out on 3rd date at a restaurant ....I like to take everything slow..even though inviting m to his place is too soon but at least I know he doesn't have a gf ...am I just being paranoid???? Or insecured???I became my ex now... | |
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Posted: 4/1/2012 12:06:09 PM | Wtf..how old are you?
What's with this "I'm an 8" attitude!?
Everyone can be a 10 with the right attitude.
If he's asked you out again, and introduced you to his friends he is interested in getting to know you more.
You are being both paranoid and insecure. And doesn't really sound like you're ready for anything serious.
I swear I thought you were in high school until I saw IronBelle say you're in your 30's. | |
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Posted: 4/1/2012 12:25:47 PM | NEWS FLASH!!!
There is not a 1 to 10 rating system that is standard across the board.
I may be an 8 to one man, a 10 to the next and a 2 to another.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
So you being an 8 and him looking for a 10 is irrelevant.
He sounds arrogant.
Defiantly not my type of man.
Why don't you just play it out and see where it goes. | |
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Posted: 4/1/2012 6:08:40 PM | Nothing about frizzle-trizzle OP seems
for real or on the level here!
Real bad English, brainless, no picture and so on.
Just another horny little twat in search of attention.
Don't know where she's from but it sure don't
look like a home girl or even a somewhat odd girl
from the territory to the North of us ! lol | |
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Posted: 4/1/2012 7:28:42 PM | | He wants to have sex with you, but you shouldn't hold your breath waiting for anythiing beyond that. However, it's pretty clear that if he wasn't hot, you wouldn't have been interested in seeing him again, so maybe you could just go for a fling. | |
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Posted: 4/1/2012 7:58:02 PM | He was saying that to make you feel like you were worthy of chasing him, and not the other way around. It's about establishing an emotional control position in boy-girl situations. Think about it the opposite way: If you meet a guy and right then he expresses that he would do anything for you, that you are the best woman he could ever have a chance with, etc -- you're in perfect position. He's not a catch -- he's a fish that jumped in your boat. What he's doing is basically saying "I am in a high league", but also showing interest, giving you a chance -- it's a pretty loud way of doing it, but that's what he was doing.
Problem is, it back fired on him. It put you in an awkward position. Whether he sees you as "good enough" to just merely hang out with and hook up with, or he sees you as someone who is relationship-worthy, he was over-the-top in executing his game.
In the end, he obviously finds you at least good looking enough to hang out with. Proven by demonstration. Since you are so awkward about it, bring it up to him and have him clear it up. What do you have to lose? You're already in too much of an awkward spot by it. | |
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Posted: 4/2/2012 6:10:42 AM | Coyote...
If u have nothing nice to say why don't you just shut tf up....take your old cowboy azz out of here...
Woshhhhhh breath breath lol..
To everyone else I appreciate your comments...confident thank you for ur kind honest inputs.
Seriously I don't want to take it serious too this time, last time I was on a different site I put my serious efford and everything, I wanted a long relationship, I met a nice guy ended up he is opposite of that I said, married with kid 13 yrs older than what he said on his profile...his lame execuse is that he didn't expect to meet someone as nice as me especially online, he wanted to tell me the truth buts I was too soon, 3mons later I found I out myself...well right now I am not taking thing serous due to my past experience, so yeah I am playing along with whatever this new guy intentions
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Last night we went on our 3rd date, not to his house but at a nice restaurant
..no kisses stilll...hahaha he didn't try this time....I am so proud of myself..later tonight he texted me and said thanks for a great company and dinner as well an amzing kiss as being a sarcastic...oh well I am taking my time and testing his patience | |
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Posted: 4/2/2012 7:08:43 AM | You're laughing now.. I *hope* you're not serious about this guy for your own sake.
You've stopped his advances dead in their tracks and he's not even trying anymore. Guys interpret rejection at many levels.. and in this case he doesn't seem to have any trouble letting you know about it - sarcastic or not.
I don't think this one will work out for you. I'd be gone very soon because you seem a bit selfish, IMO.
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Posted: 4/2/2012 1:57:51 PM | I have seen some of the most handsome men with some of the ugliest of women (and vice versa). And asked myself..."How the hell did she get him". The answer is "Confidence". Even if you are an "8" you have to believe you're a "10"!
You're a "10" girlfriend and stop thinking anything less! Good Luck! | |
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Posted: 4/3/2012 12:49:09 AM | all you need to do is ask him. You are asking a forum of people to read the mind and actions of someone we've never met.
I would communicate with him. Ask him and you will find the answer. good luck | |
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Posted: 4/3/2012 8:13:06 PM | | I think your acting a little immature. The games some..some..not all women play are the reason they get left at home. Just because he asks you over for dinner doesn't mean sex, and the little game with the kiss at the end of the date..sigh..how about a hug or wamr thank you instead? I am not a game player and I grow bored very quickly with the "high school" games or attitudes.. It's like your scared to show interest in case he's not interested, yet he is doing the work.. In this day and age..men don't need to chase women, there are fare too many out there on the net, the bars, church, etc..to pick from. Guys (myself), would like a simple, balanced reply...did you have a good time? yes.. I leave it at that, I called you, you said yes, we had a good time.. If you want to go out again..your turn, pick up the phone and ask.. I've grown tired of the PTDS post traumatic dating syndrome symptoms displayed by many women on this site. It seems everyone has an ax to grind, why not just go and have a good time? Good looking (hell any woman) can get laid anytime they want with little effort, but so can good looking guys..so if he's nice, and hasn't acted the ass... why are you playing games? | |
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Posted: 4/3/2012 8:24:34 PM | A lot of drama for a 31 year old. Please do not post part 2. The guy is not interested.
Ha, ha! Brilliant Miss IronBelle!
OP - you are a very immature woman. | |
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Posted: 4/4/2012 10:22:12 AM | Hard to tell.
You shouldnt judge yourself low; THATS NOT YOUR JUDGEMENT CALL TO MAKE. However, qwith thast being said, I would also keep my wits about you, and not lie to yourself.
What you did when he invited you over for diner was the smart play. THAT is a great way to gaufge his interest levels and his intents.
If you are having a nice time with this guy and his friends, and are being respected and feeling good about it......go with it!! Eventually though; you will have to give "him" more. (You cant just take take take, and not put anything back into this thing right?) So far; it seems like you're in a pretty good "thing".
:)
P.s. Many guys call last minute. We do it because we know we're free, and decide to do something and initiate it all within 10 minutes.
Introducing you to friends is not big deal. He kinda had to, as the showed up
You reay believe the guy had no control over whether or not to risk bumping into his friends...or not? Hell; he probably set the whole thing up.
The next time you go out, initiate the kiss *yourself* and then tell him (that you want to take it slow).. that'll send all the right messages. Would work beautifully with me.
Likewise.
He wants to have sex with you, but you shouldn't hold your breath waiting for anythiing beyond that. However, it's pretty clear that if he wasn't hot, you wouldn't have been interested in seeing him again
Isnt that something; noone even notived that "she" was focusing on his hotnesss over and over again. Sounds like an alligator date; all the hot (And super shallow) people get drunk, party, and see who's baby ends up where. (lol)
..no kisses stilll...hahaha he didn't try this time....I am so proud of myself..later tonight he texted me and said thanks for a great company and dinner as well an amzing kiss as being a sarcastic...oh well I am taking my time and testing his patience
I hope you paid your own share.
If you did; all's great.
If you didnt, especially given that you laughed about not giving back, I see you as more of a 3 than an 8.
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Posted: 4/23/2012 5:57:09 AM | | It could be that he has a low self-esteem, which is not a bad thing in itself. However, it could be that he wants to control you by making you feel less attractive in the hope that you will feel lucky to be seeing him and thus stick with him. If you get to feeling this might b the case then ditch him and find a man that values you and that doesn't lead you to question yourself of your attractiveness. | |
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Posted: 4/28/2012 6:15:56 PM | I wouldn't feel comfortable going to his house so soon, that's usually how they try to lure you into sex. On the 3rd date he should still be taking you out, not inviting you to come over to his house, you don't him well enough for an intimate meeting at his home yet.
Continue to date other guys, don't get too wrapped up in him, & don't get emotionally involved with him. If he still wants to date you & you want to go out with him, then go & have fun.
Stop beating yourself up in the looks department, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Maybe he thinks you're beautiful. Be careful but don't sabaotge this. | |
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