| | why not put more emphasis on women messaging men?Page 1 of 3 (1, 2, 3) | | Okay men do the majority of first time messaging. Why not make it so women are encourage to message first. Maybe not allow men to do so at all,or as frequently. If men could only reply or send,for example 3 starting messages a day,it would mean women search. Im fed up of getting very few messages and having to search all the time | |
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Posted: 4/2/2012 12:58:15 PM | ^^^^^^ 
I'll take cash. Proper spelling and punctuation are extra.
OP. Even if your idea went into effect, it wouldn't make women message you .
If you're tired of it, stop. | |
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Posted: 4/2/2012 1:06:09 PM | Food for Thought - Why would women ever initiate contact with men when there is no need?
To me it is a simple economics question about supply and demand.
Sounds like you're trying to force a demand that isn't there.
That being said, if you follow your model, I think you'd be just sitting there listening to crickets as the other men continue pursuing the ladies you want to talk to but didn't bother with. | |
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Posted: 4/2/2012 1:16:39 PM | Exactly but its not so much to do with forcing,but a change in direction, something new. I really thought more women would be in support of this? it would allow them to seek out the men they prefer rather than being bombarded with messages. If it meant a smaller user group,would that be so bad? I initially joined in 2009 i preferred the site back then
and cricket is dull | |
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Posted: 4/2/2012 1:31:26 PM |
Maybe a cookie is being materialistic?
Oye.. sarcasm went over your head I guess.
The women who want to message someone DO. I message first, but unlike a lot of men on this site, I ONLY message someone who really impresses me. I can tell by some of the e-mails I get that some of the guys are just sending out as many e-mails as possible in the hopes of getting a hit.
Exactly but its not so much to do with forcing,but a change in direction, something new
Forcing anyone to have to send messages on a dating site is ridiculous.
I really thought more women would be in support of this? it would allow them to seek out the men they prefer rather than being bombarded with messages.
You think that just because a bunch of women start messaging guys (and some already do, by the way), that this would completely stop them from being bombarded with messages?
How exactly? Makes absolutely no sense.
The only way to stop being bombarded with useless non-matchy messages is to have your filters set so high that virtually no one can message you. | |
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Posted: 4/2/2012 2:01:05 PM |
Okay men do the majority of first time messaging.
And your basing this statement on you and your friends? Thats not an accurate study.
How many people are on POF at any given time. | |
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Posted: 4/2/2012 2:14:31 PM | I think you going off a bit here? I stated its not about forcing.........
Also Im a member of a social group of over a 100 people many of which are women. In the UK if you did the research i would think you found that it was the men that message women for initially on the majority of occasions.
I will know not to post here again,people are negatively,even if it is a daft idea a hint of a positive reaction wouldn't have been so much to ask | |
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Posted: 4/2/2012 2:18:00 PM | | Oh and the cookie, comment obviously irony goes over your head?after all cookie usually very cheap so the whole idea of me saying it was materialistic was sarcasm...... | |
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Posted: 4/2/2012 2:42:09 PM | I dont agree with your analysis of if more women emailed guys thy wouldn't be bombarded , it doesn't work that way
How would it stop the bombardment of emails? lets face facts here, most men on here that has a profile well to put bluntly ... Their profile blows dead bears, its sucks.
Why do most men on here strike out when emailing women? 1) there emails suck 2) the profile sucks 3) the pictures for the most part sucks and 4) they are not interested in you, the men dont appeal to them its not your fault its just the way it is.
Most guys that think they are handsome post terrible pics, silly pics, pics taken in front of the mirror, out with friends drinking, making silly faces, grumpy pics, posing with hot women and you clearly know they dont know the woman but she happens to be in the shot.
This is why most guys fail.
Think about this, you receive 25 emails from women all saying practically the same thing, oh how hot they are, they are nice girls, we have things in common blah blah blah, you tend to go all koo koo eye and think WTF and start deleting. | |
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Posted: 4/2/2012 2:59:40 PM |
.it wouldn't stop you being bombarded by messages,but would reduce it. ...
I can promise you here and now that it would not reduce it. The only thing that it would mean is that I'd be contacting at least as many men who contact me.
I don't know why you're getting so defensive. Other than disagreeing with you, no one's being negative, really.
Why do most men on here strike out when emailing women? 1) there emails suck 2) the profile sucks 3) the pictures for the most part sucks.
Sometimes, we're just not interested. Not cuz the guy's done anything wrong.. we're just not into him. | |
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Posted: 4/2/2012 3:04:28 PM | | Are we reading the same thread?....its pretty negative,no real constructive critism. .........I think women would be more exclusive to whom they messaged. ....As a generalization of course | |
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Posted: 4/2/2012 3:44:44 PM | OP, I think the problem here is the women responding don't see anything wrong with the way things are working for us so far. Furthermore I don't think any of us see how forcing us to pursue men is going to aid us in this problem you say we have.
From my point of view, it seems your suggestion is more self serving in an attempt to force women to contact you than your claim of wanting to "aid" us in a problem that we really don't need help with. Frankly I'm happy with the surplus of emails - much better than not enough emails and well, if I ever felt like I was getting too many emails I would just tighten my email restrictions - simple as pie.
I guess I compare it to nightclubs.
There are a lot of nightclubs that let ladies in for free but charge cover charge to men.
To me your suggestion would be like saying:
make the women pay cover and the men get in for free.
All you'd end up with is a room full of men, scratching their heads and drinking ale wondering why the ladies aren't flooding in to meet them. | |
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Posted: 4/2/2012 4:24:35 PM | What about it being a dynamic new approach,enabling women to have the control. Are you saying women wouldn't be bothered searching,id like to think they would. As i mentioned previously its not just me.many other men in England are frustrated by the lack of messaging. I wanted to empower women to be more active in searching,rather than setting up a profile and waiting to be messaged!
Some dating sites actually only charge for men. Even this website has added features for women so I've been told?l have nothing to back that up or to say it isn't worthwhile, its just hearsay | |
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Posted: 4/2/2012 4:40:49 PM | Ideally men wouldn't over message but also women would contact men more. Its obvious from this thread that its not fun having to search and type the first message all the time. Your right why would women want to receive less or no messaged,but then that shows insight into many mens experience s.....which is probably a result of 'cut and paste messages'as after initially being creative it becomes less fun when women don't reply, as they have 200others to deal with.what i should have asked for is suggestions for women to be more active in searching,leaving it an open answer.ironically maybe cookies would be the answer | |
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Posted: 4/2/2012 5:03:46 PM | What about it being a dynamic new approach,enabling women to have the control.
Last I looked, I think women have the control when it comes to online dating.
In fact, I suspect your suggestion would take away some of the control we have by trying to force us to contact men. As it is, we contact who we want to contact and respond to who we want to respond to.
I don't quite get how your suggestion would be giving us more control than we already have. | |
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