DMF72
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Joined: 4/19/2005
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Posted: 7/26/2005 9:51:33 AM | Hey...are YOU a HOOKER???
Dude, what's wrong with a woman looking sexy. Most women dress for women...not men! LOL | |
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T N T
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Joined: 7/16/2005
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Posted: 7/26/2005 9:57:30 AM | ^^^^^^
Ok whateverrrrrrrrrrrr Michael  So does that mean when men dress sexy they're dressing for men????
ummm yeah, ewwwwww | |
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Posted: 7/26/2005 10:04:03 AM | ^^^ I see. You didn't like my reply. Ummm...am I wrong ladies? Be honest...do some of you care more what other women think? Maybe I was wrong...or maybe every women I meet lied to me when she said that? Which is it?
Men don't dress for men...come on. You be lucky if you can find a man who enjoyes getting dressed who is NOT gay! lol | |
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Posted: 7/26/2005 10:08:24 AM | Well I guess it depends on the time and place, as well as the attire itself...For instance if the OP wore "assless chap's" to the club, some may think he was trying to "draw attention" when in reality he only wore em because he was out of clean short's
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Posted: 7/26/2005 10:08:59 AM | actually...i agree with ya, mic. it's pretty easy to impress a guy....even if your shoes don't match your purse. when it comes to the details and the over all impression....it's all about the women seeing me. or if i'm with a guy....about impressing his friends. not in a trampy, look at me way...but hoping they leave going 'damn, jordy's chick is hot!' kinda way.
now...OT: the way we dress shouldn't affect the way we are approached and treated...but some behavior is asking for it. don't flash if you want to discuss literature. don't readjust your thong if you're applying for a loan. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2005 10:09:50 AM | | ^^^^LMAO....that's gonna be news to my dude. | |
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Joined: 7/16/2005
Msg: 9 | |
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Posted: 7/26/2005 10:14:53 AM | I actually dress up or dress nice because that's just how I am, and I only dress up for the benefit of the man I'm with, but actually If we're doing something casual then I dress according to the activity we will be doing...
And why do I have this bad feeling Michael, your going to have some comment for the last thing I said???? I can just feel it | |
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Posted: 7/26/2005 10:19:15 AM | ^^^ See how little you know about me...
LOL
I'll pass and let you have the last word. I said, "most" women...not all. KY, thank you for your honesty! | |
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Posted: 7/26/2005 10:22:29 AM | when i was younger and dressing to go out, i dressed more `for women' if i grok the jist of that. other women set the standards. guys went along, they always cared more what was under the clothes. now, i dress mainly for me. may feel like a girly girl that day, maybe sleek and all black clothes the next. dressing for HIM is reserved for those times we are staying in together.
as for the OP's question- say we are on a date and we go dancing at a `mixed' (wrt sexual orientation) club. it is the best dance music and vibe in town. if you dress provacatively under those circumstances are YOU asking for trouble???
LOL- generally i would say no- people should be able to wear what they want w/o fear of harassment or mauling. that said, there are some situations in which attire could be so far from what a `reasonable' person could expect in a given context that it would be unreasonable not to expect stares.
peace
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Posted: 7/26/2005 1:33:31 PM | I was at a bar last night in jeans, flip flops and a t shirt ... not a low cut one .... it was a Monday night too (relatively dead) .... I got as much unwanted attention as I have when I've worn short/ tight/ low cut, etc. .....
OT: I don't believe that the excuse "women are asking for trouble" should ever be offered to anyone. Women can wear whatever they want and not be asking for anything. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2005 10:32:10 PM | | If I dress up for whatever reason, it's usually for myself, to make me feel good about my appearance. I don't usually ever dress up for anyone but myself... I admit, there are times when I want people to notice me, but only people that are already special to me, like friends or my boyfriend or something. | |
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Posted: 7/27/2005 5:16:03 AM |
I'll pass and let you have the last word. I said, "most" women...not all. KY, thank you for your honesty!
Let a woman know that she's meeting her b/fs ex and see how much time she takes on her wardrobe every woman dresses to impress another woman at some point in her life.
On Topic: Asking for trouble? NO kind of harassment can be excused by how a woman looks. She should never be pestered or touched unless she makes it clear that she is receptive. PERIOD. | |
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Posted: 7/27/2005 5:26:16 AM | of course women dress to impress other women... if they were dressing to impress men they wouldnt have clothes
o.t. - oh did that not count as on topic... hmmm ok.... it really shouldnt change how people treat her EXCEPT she better expect to have more eyes on her | |
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Posted: 7/27/2005 5:29:18 AM | If a woman dresses provocatively at a club/bar or even out on the street, is she asking for trouble?
if women suddenly started dressing more conservatively, would the male need to hoot at them automatically decline? Or would men who need to hoot for other social reasons simply redefine "provocative" in light of their new scaled-down expectations?
The truth is this: You can't look at the way a woman dresses and decide that if she looks good, she wants romantic attention from every single guy she passes on the street. If she looks good enough, she obviously wants attention from someone. But from everyone? Including the guys who don't have anyone else to look at or anything better to do?
I think not. | |
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Posted: 7/27/2005 5:48:27 AM | Actually, she's helping the economy by raising that hemline. Hemlines tend to rise and fall with the stock market.... so help the economy... show some skin!
OT: I don't think you can judge entirely on the way a girl dresses. At the sametime, if you put on an outfit expecting a reaction, don't be surprised with you get a reaction. From reaction, that reaction might be eye contact and/or a smile. From some guys, it may be more overt than that. | |
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Posted: 7/27/2005 5:50:22 AM | I dont know about all women, but when I dress provocatively, I'm doing it for how it makes ME feel.
Do I really care if some Joe Shmoe off the streets thinks I look hot? Hell no! I wear the clothes because of the confidence boost they can give. Clothing can change your entire identity. For example, if you wear baggy clothes, you tend to slouch or make yourself extremely comfortable because you dont think people are looking at you. You act that way because the clothing you wear reflects a side of your personality. On the other hand, if you're wearing a saucy halter top and a skirt, you'll be more likely to act with a sexy persona because, for you, you've just transformed yourself into someone sexy (got to love the psychobabble).
Wow...got a bit off topic there.
OT: No, a woman isnt asking for trouble by dressing provocatively. It isnt HER fault that some sadistic morons think that she wants to get laid just because she's showing a bit of cleavage.
Maria XOXO | |
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7times
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Joined: 4/11/2005
Msg: 19 | |
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Posted: 7/27/2005 5:54:47 AM | | I don't care why she dresses that way but just thank god they make clothes so she can. | |
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Posted: 8/8/2005 8:20:46 AM | Recently while at a supermarket grocery store, I noticed a slim busted well porportioned woman who was perhaps 120 lbs and 5 foot 5 inches tall, and to me was distinctive in her manner of dress, because she attired in a quite feminine manner.
While most of the other women in the store were wearing blue jeans and a top, she was wearing a simple navy blue sleeveless dress with white stars at the hem and at the waiste. The dress zippered down the back and showed her knees. She had gold ear rings that were mid-sized, and also white low heels that matched her white purse. Her honey-brown hair was pulled back and bobby pinned in the back close to her head. She wore a white pearl necklace and it showed that she spent some time putting her make-up on.
I have no idea if the beige hosiery she was wearing was pantyhose, or thigh high elastic topped hose, but this gal stopped traffic when she walked by.
Wow.
The allure was quite substantial. In my opinion, she was a feminine "wish list" come true, as far as the packaging was concerned.
She didnt sashay her butt or act provocatively; in fact, whe was elegant.
So, gals out there. Why wear the blue jeans as a "social uniform" when you can rivet a man's gaze and attention by being a woman and wearing "girl clothes?"
I looked around and among the women, no one was dressed like her in the grocery store. I looked at the men present and like me, their eyes were all on her.
Wow! | |
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Posted: 8/8/2005 8:28:35 AM | | Asking for some attention, of course they are. ASKING FOR YOU TO BE AN A$$, NOPE!! Just because a woman dresses sexy DOESNT MEAN YOU CAN BE A PERVERTED JERK! Just enjoy the eye candy, say a nice hello. BUT DO NOT BE AN A$$, they DIDNT ASK FOR THAT! | |
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Posted: 8/8/2005 8:40:07 AM | OK so i hate to NOT be on the womens side of this..BUT
If you dress like a slut...you'll get treated like a slut..and somewhere in the back of every womans mind..we know that.
If you dress like a librarian...men arent going to look at you nearly as much
if you dress like you just walked out of the trailor park....halter top and black faded jeans that go over your belly button ...you'll get laughed at....
We dress to play a part...whether we admit it or not....and for some people any attention is good attention. | |
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Posted: 8/8/2005 8:47:42 AM | If and when I go out to clubs I dress sexy. Wether it be considered trashy or done tastefully I wear it. It's the only time I get to play dress up and it's fun.
You are only young once with a nice firm body, eventually it will start to wrinkle. So, I say enjoy your body while you can and show what you've got! | |
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Posted: 8/8/2005 8:51:28 AM | yaaaaaaaaaaay!  show me! lol
o.t. - well i do look at hot looking women... but i dont think its unwanted attention as long as i dont stare too much... or start grabbing lol | |
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Posted: 8/8/2005 11:00:31 AM | Dressing like a slut does not make you a slut!
or does it???
It hard for women not to get noticed when they dress up. | |
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