| | So my ex ( the one that got away) is getting married!Page 1 of 1 | well..we have been broken up for almost two years...and I can't lie i am still not completely over here. I was madly in love with her and don't know if I will find somebody that made me feel the way she did.
But as time marches on each day gets better and I find myself going weeks, months without thinking of her.
That is until I found out she was getting married last week. Thoughts of the past, mistakes i have made and life in general have been flashing through my head.
Just needed to vent a bit. Anybody else have the one they wish they were still with get enganged? | |
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| So my ex ( the one that got away) is getting married!
Posted: 4/4/2012 8:28:30 AM | It may not be her that you want but the fact that "she beat you to it" and got on with her life. Was this the life you wanted? Did you want to get married? If it is then you should work on finding women with the long term relationship idea in mind.
I usually get happy when exes get married. I know they weren't meant for me afterall. I don't look at it as "the one that got away" - you have too much going for you to sit home and wonder what you lost. You have a bright future ahead of you! | |
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| So my ex ( the one that got away) is getting married!
Posted: 4/4/2012 7:44:45 PM |
Just needed to vent a bit. Anybody else have the one they wish they were still with get enganged?
I don't stay in contact with my Ex's anymore...
However I do hear about them through friends who have stayed in contact etc...
For the most part, they didn't do all that well in the long run...
One lovely lady, dumped me for a "great guy"... He has a profile on Plenty of Fish...
Another Ex, ended up going a little nutty... well, actually, nuttier than squirrel poop...
Several, judging by their weight gain, apparently feared floating into the sky and wanted to prevent it...
Several, they married, remarried, some tried it again... And so on...
Most of those women who found love after me... are single...
So, I don't wish them ill, or anything, but I do think that they got the short end of the stick...
A marriage these days doesn't mean it will last...
I know people who have been apart for years who end up back with thier long lost loves... even though boyfriends, husbands have come and gone, and kids have grown...
I've often wondered, if they regret the years they spent apart, that they could have spent together.... | |
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| So my ex ( the one that got away) is getting married!
Posted: 4/6/2012 12:31:01 AM | Its brutal. Its like the Mortal Combat games:
GAME OVER! HUMILIATION!
My friend, do what you have to to break the thread that connects your soul to hers and sort yourself out before it eats you alive. | |
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| So my ex ( the one that got away) is getting married!
Posted: 4/6/2012 3:05:07 AM | Dating other women will help you with that.
I've been in that situation before, so I know the sting. But in the long run, it means little. Your ex found someone she wanted to marry, and so will you eventually. But not if you're hung up on this ex of yours. | |
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| So my ex ( the one that got away) is getting married!
Posted: 4/6/2012 6:15:38 AM | Yeah.
Been there, and done that.
I know it feels like she's "the one that got away", and it hurts. I have had my share of "I wish it would have worked out" type things.
The advice given by some is pretty solid though, and I had to do it too. You have to find a way to disconnect yourself from her.
A few years ago, I dated this woman, her and I had instant chemistry, instant attraction, and a whole host of other things. I felt we were made for each other. We dated for 9 very happy, and very exciting months. To make a long story short, we broke up, and I was devestated. I thought she was "the one", and I pined, oh boy, did I pine for her. But, I had to get over her, because she moved on, and got married (she has since been divorced, but, I don't keep in touch any more) To get over her, (because I spent too much time analyzing, wishing, and hoping, Almost two years worth of time) I started to disconnect her from my life, and make her a permanent part of the past. The first thing I did was deleted all of the emails, and other messages that we exchanged, (I had them saved on my computer). Second, I went through my stuff, and unless it had value, if it came from her, it was put away (not thrown out, but taken out of sight) I had a set of pajama pants, a shirt, some photo frames, and a DVD player. I took those and boxed them up, and stored them. A few months later, gave them to a friend to sell at his garage sale. I took all of the cards she gave me, and the photos of her and I, and put those away too.
I found that all of those little mementos, all of those little things, so long as they stayed within sight, then I had a constant reminder of her, and constant reminder of the break up, and how much I missed her, and etc. Now, you can't dispose of memories in your head, and that part takes some time to get over, but you have to tell yourself it's over. Part of that, is to remove all of the reminders of that relationship. I am not telling you to get angry and destroy anything, that's counter-productive. Once I took the step to remove those connections, I discovered just how much I was still stuck on her. And, it also made me realize that, while I kept her in the forefront of my mind, I was no longer in the forefront of hers. While she was part of my present thinking, I was part of her past. It was time to make her part of my past as well. Once those physical steps are taken, the mental ones come easier.
To ease the letting go process, get yourself involved in your hobbies, keep busy, and pretty soon, things get easier. It's wrong to make someone the focus of your life, if you are not the focus of theirs. And it's especially tough when you focus on them, and they are focused on someone else. But, move on, get past it, and then find someone else. (I know, easier said than done) | |
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