| | Someone wants to "meet me" but I can't message him!Page 1 of 1 | Looked through the list of people who wants to meet me, one guy looked nice and sent a message but I am a year older than his settings for messaging! Also it said something about gender but I was on the app and it disappeared to quick.
Is there a way of getting POF to send him a message saying, you have listed X as someone you would like to me, she has tried to message you but....and explain the reason why? | |
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| Someone wants to meet me but I can't message him!
Posted: 4/10/2012 8:41:22 AM |
Is there a way of getting POF to send him a message saying, you have listed X as someone you would like to me, she has tried to message you but....and explain the reason why?
More than likely, no. | |
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| Someone wants to meet me but I can't message him!
Posted: 4/10/2012 9:00:49 AM | | Personally I would avoid the Meet up feature, its about as useful as croutons on a salad , Im betting he probably thought he was clicking next and he accidentally clicked yes, trust me if he was interested he would email you or save you under his favorites, now if there is a chance he is interested and doesn't realize his age restriction you can try saving him under your favorites and see if he will email you. | |
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| Someone wants to meet me but I can't message him!
Posted: 4/10/2012 9:40:07 AM | | It is such a useless feature. It's based solely on appearance and not on the content of the person's profile. A person could click 'Yes', and then try to message that person, only to find out they are blocked for whatever reason. | |
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| Someone wants to meet me but I can't message him!
Posted: 4/10/2012 9:58:25 AM | ^^ Agreed. I never use it. It's a photo gallery in reality. He hasn't actually sent you a message - he's been shown your photo and been asked if he wants to meet you...he has to choose, Yes, No or Maybe to move on. There is no option to skip. He's clicked either Yes or Maybe - an little message is automatically generated and sent to you. It's the same message for Maybe as it is for Yes. He likely doesn't realize it's even been sent. If he was truly interested, he would have gone into your profile for more information, and sent you a message after reading your profile. Don't pay too much attention to these automatically generate notifications.
Also, as you are out of his age range, that just shows he hasn't bothered at looking at your details. He's just been clicking away in the meat market and is completely oblivious to the fact you are aware that he had a fleeting interest based on your looks but not enough of an interest to send a message. | |
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| Someone wants to meet me but I can't message him!
Posted: 4/10/2012 11:03:37 AM | I don't really know how screwed up I consider Meet Me to be. At least not in any purposefully misleading, conspiracy fashion. If the site was really sending false Meet Me notifications to drum up more page views, EVERYONE would be receiving a substantial amount of them. Even if it's not completely random, any logical strategy would dictate that those users who receive few first contact messages would get the most Meet Me notifications (to give them more false hope and make them use the site more), since those who already get tons of first contact emails can barely deal with those as it is. It would be completely absurd to purposefully inundate only the popular people with even MORE notifications to deal with.
What am I getting at? In the 2 years of Meet Me's existence, I've compiled a grand total of 5. Yet most guys on here, many in much smaller markets than my major metro, complain about the disorganization of their Meet Me page because they have too many on their list. If POF had an even REMOTELY intelligent conspiracy going on, *I* would have dozens of women on my Meet Me list, too.
I even submit this as proof that the Meet Me application isn't even all that accidentally flawed. No doubt many women shuffle through thousands of Meet Me pages every year in my market. Yet the most I could possibly have been accidentally been clicked on is 5 times in 2 years? I'm not saying it doesn't happen -- in fact, I wouldn't doubt that all 5 women that have been on my list were accidental clicks since none of them wrote me back and two of them outright disqualified me in their profiles because of race or height, so obviously they didn't mean to click "Yes." But my Meet Me page appears on women's screens in my market at least half as much as any other guy (apparently POF does not allow my profile to be seen by any woman taller than me in Meet Me, which is close to half of all women), and somehow I still only have 5 "Yeses" out of tens of thousands of clicks on my page in 2 years?
Furthermore, I would even go so far as to hypothesize that this is also proof that most women actually DO check out your profile before deciding whether to click "Yes" or "No." The only information that appears on the Meet Me page is your age, what type of relationship you are seeking, where you live and your pictures. Those first 3 aren't going to hinder me anymore than any other guy. So unless I'm actually SO ugly that my pictures have turned off all but 3 (or more) of the tens of thousands of women that have seen my Meet Me page... then they must be doing like all the women who get emails from me and going to my profile page to get turned off.
Guys, on the other hand, are probably largely just clicking "Yes" or "No" entirely based on the pictures of the Meet Me page, because really, what more do we need? Nevertheless, I personally always view a "Yes" page and sometimes send an email on top of the Meet Me.
My point being, not to be too full of my self and my impressive level of failure on this site, but I do believe I'm living proof that Meet Me is not anywhere near as screwed up, intentionally or unintentionally, as people on here believe. I mean, in that same 2 year period, I've received about 8 actual first contact emails (contact history lists 6 but I'm sure some not there deleted their accounts since they emailed me). So my Meet Me's are pretty much inline with my regular email contacts. I'm not all that sure that's normal because I don't hear that much about other guys' ratios, but it "feels" normal, though when we first got Meet Me, I was under the impression that I would end up with far more Meet Me's than emails, because of women's shyness or reluctance to make the first move. Yeah, that didn't pan out, like so many things in my life. | |
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| Someone wants to meet me but I can't message him!
Posted: 4/10/2012 3:19:31 PM | The "Meet Me" feature should have limiting criteria, as it stands now it is solely based on a photo. Being able to select features such as age, location, wanting of children and such would make it much more valuable.
TempusFugus said:
...trust me if he was interested he would email you or save you under his favorites... As for saving someone to your favorites, I reserve that for "favorites" people that I have actually met and like and will continue to communicate with. There are hundreds of people that I would like to meet in the search for the perfect one. As an event host sending a personal message can be confused with announcements, especially now there is a threaded mail format. Considering many of the responses that I get from event announcements, the majority of users don't read messages in their entirety. | |
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| Someone wants to meet me but I can't message him!
Posted: 4/12/2012 12:48:21 AM | @ blazingbailey
If you add him as a favourite, he will get a message to his inbox - he may send a message to you in reply -- most guys tend to send a 'thanks' for adding me to your favourites list...
--If he sends you a message the mail settings no longer prevent contact.
Just a suggestion
(Personally, I hate the mail settings thing...
sometimes I just want to tell someone I think they have a great profile -- and they have settings that prevent me.) | |
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