| | Singles Party Night....should I go on my own??Page 1 of 2 (1, 2) | Hi.
I have recently received an email about a POF Singles Party Night which is due to take place at the end of the month at a bar in the town where I live. I would quite like to attend this event, but I am a bit unsure about going on my own. I know that it should be OK to go to a singles night alone, but I know that the majority of people (especially women) don't tend to go to any kind of event without someone to go with.
Don't get me wrong....I am not frightened of going on my own. I would be happy to turn up there alone if I could be sure that I wasn't going to be the only one. I just think that I would feel a bit uncomfortable if everyone else there was accompanied by a friend / friends and I was the only one there by myself!
On the other hand, if a girl can't go to a singles night alone, where can she go??!
Does anyone have any experience of these events? If so, could you tell me whether any / many people go on their own, and whether you would consider it unusual and a bit 'weird' if you saw a woman on her own at an event like this?
Thanks! :-) | |
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Posted: 4/11/2012 2:02:17 AM | Have you EVER been to this bar in your town ? If yes... were you the only one there ?
Bars usually have a regular clientele... not just POF singles... and bars usually will NOT close their doors to a singles event unless the whole place has been reserved for such and a huge payment has been deposited... because #1 it alienates their regular clients and #2 they're not guaranteed attendance or profits.
If you don't want to be alone... bring a girlfriend with you or chat up some women who are there... asking them if they're POF members, blah blah blah
Don't be a social buttefly. If this event mirrors the male-female ratio from this site... there'll be enough men there to keep you busy. | |
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Posted: 4/11/2012 4:00:20 AM | Hi Pengwie.
Thanks for your reply. I take your point re the male/female ratio on this site, but that doesn't necessarily mean that the ratio at a singles night would be the same. As for not wanting to go on my own....if I had a female friend to go with, I wouldn't even be asking the question!
I am also unsure of the age group which this event is likely to attract....at 49, will I be significantly older than everyone else there??
However, at the end of the day, I guess there is only one way to find out! So I think I will go, on my own, and see what it's like. And if I turn out to be the only unaccompanied female there and/or the oldest, that could even work in my favour! And if not, I can always just come home. "Nothing ventured.....!"
Thanks again for your advice. :-) | |
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Posted: 4/11/2012 11:36:42 AM | I am also single and would be by myself as my friends are all married. I don't really go to many events due to this, I am a widow and feel strange walking into a bar by my self. I have only went to one event and after a little while I had a few people that would talk with me, but I did not know anyone and that was a bit uncomfortable.
All I can say is check it out if you un easy leave.
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Posted: 4/15/2012 5:50:22 PM | Thanks Kaniki.
It's difficult going to things like this on your own, isn't it? But like you say, I can always leave at any time if it doesn't go well. I'll let you know how it goes!
I hope everything works out for you too.
Take care. x :-) | |
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Posted: 4/19/2012 10:14:19 AM | Went to one alone last night. Had a good time. Here's a few suggestions. If you go a bit late the difficult ones have usually been asked to leave by then. Tell people you were meeting a (same sex) friend but are running late and they must have l already left - cell phone died, etc.. Look for someone who is sitting with an empty seat near them - (not someone who is a head turner but not a real loser or scary person) and just ask if someone is sitting there and strike up a conversation. Try to park close to the front, put your credit cards, money in your pocket and your cell phone. Ladies lose the pocketbook. Guys - unless you are really hot don't go after the head turners - you can smile at them but let them make the first move. Ask the ordinary nice looking, well groomed of your own age to dance and just be friendly but not gooey or needy. You can tell if a person is interested in you. They will make eye contact and smile or at least move to the music and look at you when you approach. Pay attention to body language and back off if it's not right.
Think of this as a job interview, not a big deal because you already have a good job. And just have fun. If it gets scary, leave. No loss. | |
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Posted: 4/22/2012 1:15:50 AM | | I know what you mean becasue I was thinking the same thing, I was thinking of going I think if you went with maybe a girlfriend that would be better at least you have someone to talk to you don't feel like everyone is staring at you"" saying caddy things you know how women can be lol, I went out to a club acouple of times alone at first I felt uncomfortable but after about an hour or so I met someone and used the excuse that I was waiting for my friends to arrive , lol I didn;t want to say I couldn't find a date so I came alone lol he was nice and we talked most of the night, so if you decided to go and don't want to go alone let me know and we can go together at least we can use each others' company to act as a buffer and if you meet that special someone thats great, well what ever you decide I'm sure you'll have a good time. | |
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Posted: 4/25/2012 5:49:15 PM | Hi jscott34.
Sorry for the delay in replying to your post. I see that you live in the U.S. - I am actually in the UK so it would be a very long way for you to come for a singles night! lol. But thanks for the suggestion anyway! :-) | |
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Posted: 4/25/2012 6:33:31 PM |
I think if you went with maybe a girlfriend that would be better at least you have someone to talk to you don't feel like everyone is staring at you"" saying caddy things you know how women can be lol, I went out to a club acouple of times alone at first I felt uncomfortable but after about an hour or so I met someone and used the excuse that I was waiting for my friends to arrive , lol I didn;t want to say I couldn't find a date so I came alone lol
Hi schoolgirl19564.
Thanks for your post re the singles night. Re your offer to come with me to this event....that is very kind of you, but I note that you live in Canada. I am in the UK, so I guess that is a bit far for you to travel for a night out! lol. But thanks very much for the offer!!
Re your other comments....I know that you probably meant well, but I don't think it is particularly helpful to imply that it is somehow unacceptable for a woman to go to an event like this alone. When I said that I had reservations about going on my own, I wasn't actually thinking that other people (and women in particular, apparently) would be staring at me and making nasty comments. That thought never occurred to me, but it has now!!
As for pretending that you are waiting for friends to arrive because you don't want to admit that you are on your own....don't forget that this is a singles night! If a person (even a female!) can't go to a singles night by herself, it defeats the whole purpose of the event, don't you think? I haven't got anyone who can go with me, which is why I asked the original question at the start of this thread.
Anyway, I had been having second thoughts about this event and had more or less decided not to go, but now, having read your post, I have changed my mind....I WILL go, on my own, and I will not be ashamed of what I'm doing. If anyone asks, I will tell them that I am there alone because it is a SINGLES NIGHT!! lol. And if people stare at me and make unkind comments....well, that is their problem, not mine.
So....thanks for the inspiration! I will let you know how it goes..... :-) | |
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Posted: 4/25/2012 10:00:46 PM | Go to the event and have a good time because like you I was nervous about going to an event that is coming up in my area because I didn't have a date either, but after reading this entire post I am going to go and have a good time because like you said it is a single's event so why not. If the females want to see me as compitetion then that is their problem not mine, it will just go to show they have low self esteem and are more focused on everyone else then themselves. So thank you Gregorysgirl100 for giving me the courage I needed to go on my own and show that I don't care what any one else thinks about me coming alone.
I hope you find that special someone and you havea blessed wonderful day
Kate | |
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| Singles Party Night....should I go on my own??
Posted: 4/26/2012 5:18:23 AM | hello, i have been to two of the singles nights by myself and had great fun. The first night i was by myself and julie and jackie ladies who host the evening were there for me and checked to see if i was ok throughout the evening. The second time i went i ended up making new friends who i hung around with most of the evening.
I would go for it. | |
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Posted: 4/26/2012 4:08:32 PM | Hi Kate_79.
Thanks very much for your post, and I'm glad to hear that my post has inspired you to go for it!
I hope you have a good time at your event too. Hopefully we will both make some friends, which will make it much easier to attend future POF 'do's'.
I hope you find your Mr Right soon.
Take care. x :-) | |
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Posted: 4/26/2012 4:18:13 PM | Hi Taryna.
Thanks for your reply. I'm glad to hear that you enjoyed the singles nights that you attended. I am definitely going to "go for it" now! Hopefully I will enjoy the experience, but if not, I won't have lost anything.
I will let you (and everyone else who has been good enough to reply to my posts on here) know how it goes!
Thanks again for your input. x :-) | |
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Posted: 5/11/2012 6:29:27 AM | Hi ! I am a Michigan girl ,I know how you feel I have friends I would do this and that . But some times we have to get out and fly on are own . We can come and go I was like you saying I would never go on my own, I did and Happy I did, no one is going to live your life for you , get out and enjoy .You well meet many nice people as you go to more Dances events ,extend your self, talk introduce yourself .I am glad I spread my wings all is good.
Get a GPS that gives me security when I get lost when going to and from . | |
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Posted: 5/11/2012 8:57:02 AM | | I would nt say it was weird to turn up on your own! I usually have to do the same thing! Found I got more attention anyway! Gotta take a deep breath get dressed up and walk through that door!!! Enjoy your night! | |
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Posted: 5/16/2012 4:40:19 PM | | I have atttended one POF on my own and was quite comfortable. I really perferred being by myself. I did not have to worry as to whether or not the party I was with was entertained. Enjoy ! | |
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Posted: 5/17/2012 9:47:00 AM | | Heya. Yes I went to one of these events on my own before as i thought that was the point, as you are going for you and if all your friends are with you then he may be more interested in your friend which can be awkward, but most girks just like the moral support i suppose. There are no hard and fast rules about this really unless the dating agency specificallly requests that you don't bring annyone else along, but i doubt it, its publicity for them you see. So feel free to go on your own if your friends can't make it, chances are you'll end up chatting to loads of people anyway. | |
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Posted: 5/22/2012 5:37:03 PM | i go out on my own all the time. of course, this is small town area where you know most everyone. i've had many interesting conversations with people of all ages.
i have actually attended a few online "get togethers" years ago and they were a lot of fun as well. everybody is friendly and upbeat because they are there for the same reason as you!
it's a good thing to step outside your confort zone once in a while. hope you go and enjoy! | |
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Posted: 5/23/2012 10:22:52 PM | I believe it will be uncomfortable at first. However give it a chance have a drink of two. You'll probably starting have fun and be glad you did go.
I've tried this and good results. However never seems hip on your own. | |
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Posted: 5/23/2012 10:23:16 PM | I believe it will be uncomfortable at first. However give it a chance have a drink of two. You'll probably starting have fun and be glad you did go.
I've tried this and good results. However never seems hip on your own. | |
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Posted: 5/24/2012 4:00:47 PM | I went to my first one last week. The average age was 50. And male/female ratio was 50/50. I will say, the men tended to arrive later, so it was not looking good in the beginning. I arrived fairly early and easily slid up to 2 other women who were there together and more than willing to keep me company, share stories, and in general be a lot of fun. I just asked if they were with POF and they told me to pull up a stool. No one would have know I was alone other than the two of them. We quickly appeared to be old friends. And it is easy to "pretend" that you have a friend who's running late but who somehow never makes it at all, if you're uncomfortable. I noticed a couple of women came in alone, looked lost for a minute or so, and then were welcomed in with the rest of the crowd. Do mingle. Walk about and talk to everyone. Some just stayed glued to their seats but were happy to talk if you approached them. It may be a bit intimidating for the guys who tend not to be able to enter into chitchat as easily as we women can.
I wouldn't think it weird at all to go alone. It's a social event for people to meet. To meet new people. There should be no need to bring a friend. | |
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