| | Does it seem like more and more men only want casual?Page 1 of 6 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6) | | Maybe it's just my perception, but it seems like more and more men are only looking for something casual -- just sex. Does the age of the guy have anything to do with it? Are men more jaded about relationships when they've just come out of one and are over 40? I've come across these guys more often or not. | |
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| Does it seem like more and more men only want casual?
Posted: 4/17/2012 11:32:26 AM | | Nope you are right. It seems to me most men at least my age just want sex so when a guy says he wants a relationship I associate it with a lie to get in my pants. Crappy I know but its usually how men my age get laid by lying. Men get jaded when the girl they want doesnt want them like women do or when the barbie doll they wife up cheats on them. I dont feel bad when men get cheated on based on dating a girl for her looks. You are right though. | |
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| Does it seem like more and more men only want casual?
Posted: 4/17/2012 11:35:00 AM |
Are men more jaded about relationships when they've just come out of one and are over 40? I've come across these guys more often or not.
Nope. It's easier to have sex with a woman without ties now, as compared to 60 years ago when you had to marry the daim. Feminist movement solved that problem for us.
Besides, just sleeping with someone is a lot easier than actually understanding her, and its so easy to lie to a woman who will believe practically any outright lie without a shred of proof. I'd have harder time washing my hair. | |
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| Does it seem like more and more men only want casual?
Posted: 4/17/2012 11:42:57 AM | Personally, its more that I don't believe in marriage. I think its an outdated institution, is inherently discriminatory, and I don't believe that you should need the approval of the government or a church to love someone, or be committed to someone.
Also, sorry to be sexist, but divorce laws are overwhelmingly in your favor, whether children are involved or not. Its not like I shall ever be wealthy, but I have no desire to have my paychecks and possessions handed over by the court to an ex, and have alimony checks bankrolling her relationship with the next guy. | |
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| Does it seem like more and more men only want casual?
Posted: 4/17/2012 11:43:45 AM | Totally agree with Capn A......
Feminism messed everything up, and the reality has left women on the short end of the stick where relationships are concerned.......men can literally get laid very easily these days, and not even have to buy dinner. Why would they want to buy a wife??????????
Yes, I am anti-feminist, and damn proud of it!!! | |
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| Does it seem like more and more men only want casual?
Posted: 4/17/2012 12:00:30 PM | | When a guy can get a car date on CL, why should he ever bother with dating and getting to know someone. When I say relationship, I don't mean that marriage ('cos that's not what I'm looking for) has to be part of the package just more than a one-night stand or FB. Us women have needs, too, but meeting up for a car fling is...ugh. | |
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| Does it seem like more and more men only want casual?
Posted: 4/17/2012 12:10:33 PM | It seems as men we're kinda up against it, as the myth that all we want is sex is perpetuated again and again (and again.)
And we're expected to up the romance factor after receiving our tongue lashing.
Beat a dog with a wet rolled up newspaper enough and they don't come when you call anymore. ;o) | |
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| Does it seem like more and more men only want casual?
Posted: 4/17/2012 12:22:05 PM | It's not that more men "want" casual-- it's that more women are willing to provide it.
And if he's getting laid with minimal effort required, no pressure to commit, and the "I don't need a man" attitude thrown at him, who could blame him?
As the saying goes: "Gentlemen stop behaving as gentlemen when ladies stop behaving as ladies." That train left the station years ago. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2012 12:27:21 PM |
It's not that more men "want" casual-- it's that more women are willing to provide it.
No truer words were ever uttered, and its the key behind it all. The numbers havent changed; the ease of access has. Its the same when you say there is MORE natural disasters, more murders, more rape. There isn't; its just because with the net, tv, radio, etc, your more aware of the ones that happen. | |
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| Does it seem like more and more men only want casual?
Posted: 4/17/2012 1:43:31 PM | en are only looking for something casual
Not me; I prefer strictly professional and meticulous romance.
;)
You're right; bad joke
Are men more **** jaded about relationships when they've just come out of one and are over 40?
You meant to insert "also" <<^up there; right?
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It seems to me most men at least my age just want sex so when a guy says he wants a relationship I associate it with a lie to get in my pants.
Ouch buddy
How about the fact that he wants to put in some time, share some chat and lifespace, and have some sex.....WITH YOU
The way you described it sounds like a no win situation, and that's SO unfair to do to yourself.
Feminism messed everything up, and the reality has left women on the short end of the stick where relationships are concerned
It's left everyone confused; en masse.
but meeting up for a car fling
WHAT!?
WHAT'S THAT!? (CAN I COME?)
Besides, just sleeping with someone is a lot easier than actually understanding her
Lol.
Ummmm
*shrugs*
Doh
Gentlemen stop behaving as gentlemen when ladies stop behaving as ladies
;)
We love her. | |
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| Does it seem like more and more men only want casual?
Posted: 4/17/2012 2:19:41 PM |
OP - Maybe it's just my perception, but it seems like more and more men are only looking for something casual -- just sex.
Quite possibly. On the other hand, you may have a faulty "picker". :-) Are you certain you are choosing men to date based on the appropriate criteria? I for one am looking for a meaningful relationship. In time, I hope it would include extremely and mutually satisfying intimacy. It would also include mutual respect, admiration, compassion and unbridled love for each other.
Landra - It's not that more men "want" casual-- it's that more women are willing to provide it.
Yep! | |
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Posted: 4/17/2012 2:29:18 PM | | It's not that more men want a casual relationship. It's the same as it's always been. The only difference is that now nobody is all that quiet or discreet about letting their desires be known. If it isn't what you want then shut them down immediately. Playing into the foolishness, even for a little bit, will only make it worse. | |
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| Does it seem like more and more men only want casual?
Posted: 4/17/2012 2:36:41 PM | | Its not an age thing either im only 23 and I find alot of women are looking for nothing serious and casual also, yeah its deffinatly not a bloke thing, you could flip it around and say the same thing about women just the other side of the same coin | |
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| Does it seem like more and more men only want casual?
Posted: 4/17/2012 2:51:12 PM | | I see a lot of women's profiles saying they don't want anything serious/no commitments. I don't care why there are a lot of people seeking out flings, let them find what they want. Yeah feminism broke society but you can't do anything about that. All you can do is figure out what you want and go on a treasure hunt. Trying to find what you think is treasure is half the fun. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2012 2:54:20 PM | Blame the Feminist Movement and one-sided legal structure for mans lack of relationship/matrimonial commitment. No man in his right mind will accept any woman's terms of marriage these day, especially knowing the system is and will be the failure of him later on.
These days, it's best to keep things casual. In the event, things doesn't work out for either party, he'll have the option of washing his hands clean of the situation/relationship and move on without a loss of pride, self-worth and personal finances.
Let's be honest. It's extremely easy for men to get laid these days. Why would any man want to buy a wife? Too much of a liability, if you ask me. :-/ | |
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Posted: 4/17/2012 3:11:01 PM | | A lot of people sound jaded saying that men don't want to get married because the divorce laws are in women's favor and yet everyday, many men do still get married. I don't think those men who got married are thinking that they'll get divorced. They're too busy not being jaded, taking chances and living life to be boggled down by the divorce statistics. Even my father who's extremely angry that my mom left him, managed to remarry and find happiness with his current wife (who is 2 years younger than him). If anything, that proves that if you want something enough, you'll seek it out until you find it. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2012 3:12:58 PM | | Im jaded but not towards marriage. I want nothing more than to have the chance ot be married but at this point Im 100% sure its not going to happen. Ive been seeking and yet find nothing. Iget nomessages on here sea its shitty but Idk what to do anymore. I update pics constantly but guess men go after the same attractive female | |
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| Does it seem like more and more men only want casual?
Posted: 4/17/2012 3:27:43 PM | Message:
Maybe it's just my perception, but it seems like more and more men are only looking for something casual -- just sex. Does the age of the guy have anything to do with it?
No but the ratio of men vs women who is on this site here does.......lol
so..............rant your rant cuz it is what it is for u,& it is what it is for them.......as the numbers rule in what is avail considering the over all ratio. jmo & good luck with that.
Bottom line for folks who can't find the time to interact in the flesh, [ or in the present expecting to find their gaga]is to find a site where the numbers are more equal between the sexes. jmo
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Posted: 4/17/2012 3:36:15 PM | Domo31, you're not old. There's a lot of time on your side. Hell, my parents got divorced in their mid and late 40s and remarried in their early 50s. My mom told me she found true love at 50 and married her current husband. My dad was and still is pissed at my mom for leaving him but guess what? My pops got remarried and found happiness with wife #2.
I was married and divorced. My ex was 26, so he was a young also. It sounded silly to me at the time but I had to seek out a divorce group and much to my surprise, met several who were like me, in their 20s and didn't have kids. We mostly were concerned about picking up the pieces of our changed lives. I was surprised to find that very few in that support group were bitter. Like me, most just accepted that their former marriage didn't work and it wasn't anyone's fault nor did we blamed a long lasting social institution. Seeing my parents pick up the pieces made me realize that it's not too late until you throw in the towel. A few months ago I received an email from a friend in the support group saying that he's getting married again and wanted my address to send out the wedding invitation. He's 31 now and have moved on to find happiness with someone else. It can and does happen. You just have to be tenacious and believe in what you want. | |
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| Does it seem like more and more men only want casual?
Posted: 4/17/2012 3:38:30 PM |
and its so easy to lie to a woman who will believe practically any outright lie without a shred of proof. I'd have harder time washing my hair.
true, billions believe in an invisible sky wizard (called by different name sin different parts of the world) because others told them it was true, hundreds of millions believe in astrology, tarot, fortune-telling, etc. | |
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| Does it seem like more and more men only want casual?
Posted: 4/17/2012 3:40:00 PM | | Thats a pretty positive email thank you for that sea :) I appreciate you not berating me like others on this site and you understand where Im coming from. Although ive revamped my profile so many times Imnot sure anymore what else i can do to get messages. The ones I get are either my dads age and slip through filters somehow or just want to talk dirty uggh lol | |
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