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 TammTamm
Joined: 4/15/2012
Msg: 1
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I would love to gain some insight into what emails/messages have attracted your attention.

I have been analyzing the messages I've been sending and trying to change them up to see if any style or size or tone shakes loose as the one that is most likely to get a response, but having no reference in regards to successful messages I kinda feel like I'm shooting in the dark.

So I am asking what emails/messages if you can share edited to remove personal details of course have caught your eye and why?

Thanks in advance for the help.
 Blah_User_Name
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 2
What messages/emails have gotten your attention from a man?
Posted: 4/22/2012 5:50:35 PM
Oh that would be too easy - And it's against forum rules. I got a substantial ban for implying I would copy a PM onto the Forums so the odds of someone actually doing that are rather slim.
 jaxs876
Joined: 3/9/2012
Msg: 3
What messages/emails have gotten your attention from a man?
Posted: 4/22/2012 7:48:54 PM
It is not the messages alone the will prompt a response from me. When I receive a message, the first step I take is to view and read the senders profile. This gives me a small idea of the man's interest and what he might be looking for. My next step is to read the message. If the profile wowed me then I might be inclined to reply to a message as lame as "hello." In the event that the profile is just okay, the message best indicate that my profile was read in order to generate a response . If there is no interest in the profile the content of the message does not matter at all and I will not respond.

With that said, you must know that everyone's approach is different and there is no one way that will work with all women.
 TammTamm
Joined: 4/15/2012
Msg: 4
What messages/emails have gotten your attention from a man?
Posted: 4/22/2012 9:15:32 PM
True I do know that there is no one approach, but I was hoping to pick up on some common elements or themes to the responses I get from women on the board.


imported: I read the forum rules but I did not see anything that said you couldn't write responses you received.

I must have missed it. Could you point it out to me?
 AngelEyes7321
Joined: 11/26/2009
Msg: 5
What messages/emails have gotten your attention from a man?
Posted: 4/22/2012 10:19:17 PM
him:
4/23/2012 1235 AM

I don't want to come off Wrong, but I am not a huge guy. Bout 150. I just can't handle to much more than I weigh..... It's a guy thing..... I don't know. You are very pretty. I have to be able to pick you up..... Sorry...... Coming off weird, but just want to meet someone I can be honest with....... I am an honest and understanding guy. We all have had things we have had to deal with, which is what makes us who we are.

Me:


I am used to being judged for my weight. I was 115 pounds before the cancer.. almost three hundred after having the surgery. I am at 170 now. I used to be a model. I can't wait until I am 115 again, so that I can come back to this site and turn every man down for being skinny..lol. Anway, I am honest too.. Sometimes it is better too walk away and say nothing, but in this case I am human too. Cheers!
 Blah_User_Name
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 6
What messages/emails have gotten your attention from a man?
Posted: 4/23/2012 3:28:59 AM
@ TammTamm

imported: I read the forum rules but I did not see anything that said you couldn't write responses you received.
I must have missed it. Could you point it out to me?


I missed it too until I got the ban...

When you signed up to your account, you agreed to the PLENTYOFFISH TERMS OF USE AGREEMENT https://www.pof.com/terms.aspx. Within that.....


CODE OF CONDUCT
You agree to use the Service in accordance with the following Code of Conduct:
a. You will keep all information provided to you through the Service as private and confidential and will not give such information to anyone without the permission of the person who provided it to you.
b. You will not use the Service to engage in any form of harassment or offensive behavior, including but not limited to the posting of communications, pictures or recordings which contain libellous, slanderous, abusive or defamatory statements, or racist, pornographic, obscene, or otherwise offensive language.
c. You will not forward chain letters through the Service.
d. You will not use the Service to infringe the privacy rights, property rights, or any other rights of any person.
e. You will not post messages, pictures or recordings or use the Service in any way that;


There is more to the CODE OF CONDUCT but I have just pulled out the relevant part.
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
Msg: 7
What messages/emails have gotten your attention from a man?
Posted: 4/23/2012 4:01:51 AM
Oh my TammTamm, you should know something about Import. She never says anything unless she can back it up...As you can see from her latest post. So if you wanna know about rules, laws, etc,she's the woman to see... :)
 TragicallyHip
Joined: 11/28/2006
Msg: 8
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Posted: 4/23/2012 5:03:50 AM
This question has been asked in various ways at least 4 times over the past two days. Do a search.
 *Cowboy*
Joined: 4/28/2006
Msg: 9
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Posted: 4/23/2012 5:16:08 AM
There are NO MAGIC MESSAGES! Guys keep imagining some magic idea for an email subject they use and then start getting tons of replies. Does not work that way OK?

Pics/profile are 90 percent of getting positive replies. Your message should show you have at least READ her profile. Ask her a question so she has something EASY to reply to if she chooses. HUMOR is always your friend. Try not to use mean or sarcastic humor as that usually does not come across as funny from a stranger in a written medium. Something witty or clever regarding her profile or interests usually works well for me.

But it does not matter WTF you write in a message, you will not get a POSITIVE reply indicating interest if she didnt like your pics/profile. If its really funny she might send a reply but thats not the same as a positive reply indicating interest if you get what I am saying. Just be sincere. Keep sending messages.

1) Do not write a novel. 4 or 5 sentences max.
2)Ask a question. Something regarding her interests, pics, profile. If she mentions music ask what kind, If she likes to work out and so do you ask something related, hell if she has a pic of her dog then ask something about the dog even as it is probably important to her if she has a pic of it. You guys make this WAY harder then it is. If she liked your pics/profile she is looking for an EASY way to reply so ask her a simple question. If she is interested she will probably answer.
3)Spell Check!
4) Dont use text speak or gang crap. Talk like an intelligent adult
5) Dont mention how gorgeous she is. Save those for later.
6) HUMOR is your friend.. If she smiles or laughs at your message (not your pics!) she will likely respond.
7) Be original! She gets TONS of boring nothing messages probably if she is attractive.

Cowboy
 curvesweetblonde99
Joined: 5/7/2011
Msg: 10
What messages/emails have gotten your attention from a man?
Posted: 4/23/2012 10:02:12 AM
There are multiple factors that get my attention

1) I need to be physically attracted to the guy and he needs to be age appropriate
2) his profile needs to be well written with proper grammar and spelling
3) his profile needs to be interesting, unique and indicate that he is along the same wavelength as me
4) he should have some similar interest (at least one similar interest is preferred)

IF all those factors are met, then I will proceed to read his email. For it to attract my attention it needs to:

1) not be a copy/paste
2) not be a "hey how are you?" kind of email
3) not simply be a compliment about my appearance
4) It should be a paragraph of 3-7 sentences, discussing something specific in my profile
5) It should mention something his own profile or his own life in general that he thinks I might find interesting
6) ask 1 or 2 pertinent questions
 TLM82
Joined: 4/20/2012
Msg: 11
What messages/emails have gotten your attention from a man?
Posted: 4/23/2012 2:43:47 PM
It will be different for every woman depending on what she is looking for. Some women only want attention and will respond to every single person that gives this to her. Some are only overly friendly and will also do this. Personally I put on my profile to not send me a hi, how are you message but rather start a conversation. When I get the hi, how are you messages I automatically know he didn't read my profile; therefore he isn't really interested. I hope this makes sense! :)
 TammTamm
Joined: 4/15/2012
Msg: 12
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Posted: 4/24/2012 10:57:15 PM
I wanted to thank you all, believe it or not you have all been a big help.
 Tao_of_Steve
Joined: 5/17/2011
Msg: 13
What messages/emails have gotten your attention from a man?
Posted: 4/25/2012 6:29:22 AM
I did an experiment a few years back on another dating site. I set up two profiles that were identical, but the only differnence was the picture of the guy in the profile. One picture was an attractive looking guy and the other was just your average guy off the street. By the end of the day, the attravtive looking guy's email was filled, the other guy had nothing.

I continued with the experiment and just put a couple of generic lines in the models profile and left the average guys alone. Again by the end of the day more attractive guy's email was filled, the average guy had nothing.

I then sent emails to various women on the site and again, the attrative guy's email was filled, the average guy had no responses.

I am sure it works the same way with the women on the site as well.
 Sparkledustpajamas
Joined: 4/6/2012
Msg: 14
What messages/emails have gotten your attention from a man?
Posted: 4/25/2012 8:47:42 AM
There is no black and white answer to this question as we are all so unique.

My favorite email was from a man who told me he was an alien disguised in human form, sent to earth to practice his mind control powers on me.

Hmmm......still smile when I think of that one :)

BTW, there was no photo attached to his profile, yet I still responded.
 femaleconnection
Joined: 8/12/2010
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Posted: 4/25/2012 9:17:42 AM
Basically, none of the emails I recieved garnered any inerest from me. Every time I met a man from online and actually dated him-I emailed him first. I am a way better picker than I am a pickee. If I just waited for someone to come along and 'interest me' Id be covered in dust bunnies.
 RyanReed
Joined: 3/14/2012
Msg: 16
What messages/emails have gotten your attention from a man?
Posted: 4/25/2012 11:00:28 AM
Whenever I am trying to message a girl and she doesn't respond, I just wait until about 2-3am and then message her again asking if she likes dinosaurs. I don't know why, but it works half the time...which is better than 5%-10% of the time..

Women are weird.
 Wittybittynot
Joined: 4/20/2012
Msg: 17
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Posted: 4/25/2012 11:32:16 AM
I'm totally trying the dinosaur method.

Only I'll change it to something even more insignificant. Like grass. Everyone loves grass. Even if you're allergic.
 SnowMoon2012
Joined: 1/21/2012
Msg: 18
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Posted: 4/25/2012 11:52:04 AM
I may be dating myself but grass could be misinterpreted... :)
 DevotedExplorer
Joined: 8/12/2011
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Posted: 4/25/2012 11:52:21 AM
" did an experiment a few years back on another dating site. I set up two profiles that were identical, but the only differnence was the picture of the guy in the profile. One picture was an attractive looking guy and the other was just your average guy off the street. By the end of the day, the attravtive looking guy's email was filled, the other guy had nothing. "

Not at all surprised by that, Im a little shocked that an average guy would get bothing mind. I guess it depends on what you wrote on both profiles to be honest.
 Espanglish23
Joined: 4/10/2012
Msg: 20
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Posted: 4/25/2012 12:08:57 PM
All you can do is communicate with her.

Communication means expression. Be sincere, and have respect for yourself and for the person. Put your cards on the table, and let them fall where they may. Then you'll have done your bit and won't need to worry about it. If she is interested in getting to know you a bit more you she will reply.

It really is that simple. There are no tricks. There's magic, that's for sure, but no tricks...

Regards.
 LizzZZ611
Joined: 10/9/2011
Msg: 21
What messages/emails have gotten your attention from a man?
Posted: 4/25/2012 8:30:43 PM
Name how are you! My names ! I like your profile I think your beautiful \ and would love the opportunity to meet you! I go to studying criminal justice as I want to work for the government! I am graduating in may! I also work with kids with special needs! I love kids and love to help people! i am avery nice guy,I look forward to speaking with you.


Anything that sugestes you actualy took the time to read my profile. From my experience I delete any message that says Hey sexy or whats up... also take the time to check for obvious mistakes. Hope it helped :)
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