| | birthday gift Page 1 of 2 (1, 2) | | So... I bought my SO a birthday ticket to a show for a comedian we both love. My SO travels overseas heaps but promised he would be back for the night many many times. He wont be. So I am going with a female friend. I cannot accept payment from her, I just want her to enjoy. What should I do for his birthday? How would you feel in my position??? I do not want to ignore his b/d but I spent a fair bit of money on something he will not attend. Do I just suck it up? If the majority think I should... I will. | |
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Posted: 4/26/2012 5:17:00 AM | Its the thought that counts.
You don't need to do anything else. | |
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Posted: 4/26/2012 5:18:21 AM | | What else can you do ? I think, as it was intended as a gift, it's simply unfortunate that he's not going to be available. Thankfully the tickets won't go to waste and you will still be able to attend with your friend and have a good night. In terms of an alternative gift for him, what about simply making the time to cook his favorite meal and enjoy each other's company on his return ? | |
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Posted: 4/26/2012 5:22:04 AM | | I think the meal offer is a good one. Not your fault he could not attend. | |
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Posted: 4/26/2012 5:24:24 AM | Why not just pack a picnic and/ or go for a hike? Give him something he likes or wants to try (an exotic tea, for example). I think you can do something inexpensive to mark the occasion. Have fun!  | |
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Posted: 4/26/2012 5:28:17 AM | | Take a photo of your friend wearing a party hat and eating cake....and tell him that was the birthday party he didnt get! | |
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Posted: 4/26/2012 5:33:05 AM | | I think cooking a good meal will work for both of us. His birthday is midweek... and he scheduled a doc appt on the day as he is usually not away at that time. I was just a little upset he was not available when he said he would be, esp as it was planned way in advance. I will not make it a huge problem... he misses out a lot more than I do!! | |
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Posted: 4/26/2012 5:33:21 AM | "What else can you do ? I think, as it was intended as a gift, it's simply unfortunate that he's not going to be available. Thankfully the tickets won't go to waste and you will still be able to attend with your friend and have a good night. In terms of an alternative gift for him, what about simply making the time to cook his favorite meal and enjoy each other's company on his return ? "
In addition to that, give him a night that he will never, ever forget : ) | |
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Posted: 4/26/2012 5:34:10 AM | | Maybe find a way to record the show. | |
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Posted: 4/26/2012 5:36:04 AM | | omg lol^^^^^^^^^^^ a birthday bj is a given!!!! I like as much as he does :D | |
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7thour
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Posted: 4/26/2012 5:46:41 AM | It seems that you feel a bit pinched here. You purchased these tickets before he knew he would be traveling correct? Try not to take it personally Dear.
What I would do...
First, I would have invited someone close to him, who he cares for, like his mother, father, sibling, close friend...then I would go to the event, wear happy birthday buttons with his name on it, have a glass of champagne (another shot) and make sure the table is filled with HB decorations...again taking pictures. I would then send him these pictures and let him know what a great time you both had on his behalf. (you cannot do this with someone whom he does not like or does not know otherwise it will come off as crass "look at me I am having fun on your birthday because you can't")
When he is home I would fill a bath with his favored scent and when he walks through the door he will hear music he likes, smell aromas he enjoys and I would undress him slowly and take him to the bath and bathe him (if you'd like some personal techniques on this feel free to contact me privately) Then I would dry him off, put on his new robe and slippers I just bought him and guide him to a wonderful dinner I made for him. Then take him to bed and make sure his night is filled with pleasure for him.
That of course, is only if I were in a committed relationship with this man...which by-the-way...I have done and it was much appreciated. | |
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Posted: 4/26/2012 5:53:36 AM |
I do not want to ignore his b/d but I spent a fair bit of money on something he will not attend. Do I just suck it up? If the majority think I should... I will. This is quite funny considering what has been said in this thread. hehe. | |
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Posted: 4/26/2012 6:12:42 AM | To the OP I would stick with the simple meal idea, you have already spent enough on tickets, it's not your fault if he couldn't make it.
7thour - all that running him scented baths, undressing him and bathing and drying him and putting on his robe and slippers screams MOMMY to me. | |
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Posted: 4/26/2012 6:43:23 AM | | make a video with rihanas "birthday cake" song playing in the back ground, and use ur imangination..... | |
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Posted: 4/26/2012 6:56:21 AM | My ideal birthday gift would involve my SO, several toys, unplugging the phone and calling in sick for a week (that's right, I got a week long birthday  ) | |
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A_Gent
| | Joined: 8/18/2011
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Posted: 4/26/2012 6:58:02 AM | What a great opportunity to show that you are a gracious and understanding woman. I can think of many woman who would make the guy feel like a turd for how he inconvenienced her.
I would not spend any more money on him.. but as you would have likely done a dinner in or out... the two of you spending some intimate time together would be all that is needed.
... of course you might want to get him the Rolex as well as the....
What a lucky guy! | |
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Posted: 4/26/2012 8:05:39 AM |
bj's are known to please men more than rolex watches
Christ, this little titbit of information could have saved me thousands of dollars over the years. ;-) | |
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Posted: 4/26/2012 8:28:55 AM | | Import....you are too funny !!!! OP: Use the KISS method to make him happy. Guys like simple things done by his gal, to make him happy. Gals like the bigger ticket items...get it (ticket) item to make them happy. | |
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Posted: 4/26/2012 10:53:50 AM | Capn_America:
My ideal birthday gift would involve my SO, several toys, unplugging the phone and calling in sick for a week (that's right, I got a week long birthday
Birthdays should be something special, not the same ole same ole. | |
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Posted: 4/26/2012 11:02:05 AM | give him a blowjob or put out.
that would be more than enough | |
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Posted: 4/26/2012 11:05:29 AM | | I hope you both have a fantastic time! | |
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Posted: 4/26/2012 11:05:59 AM | aaaaaa-HA! Wrong on that one, it might be the same, but it NEVER gets old if you make it original and interesting...  | |
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Posted: 4/26/2012 1:20:32 PM | First I would make sure his telling you he'd be there then not making it is something he can't help, because if he's just not going to be there because he doesn't want to be, I'd be moving on. But if he can't help how it turned out, then I'd get him a nice card, tell him he missed a great show and say you hope it works out better next year.
BTW, if I was your friend, I would certainly pay you for the ticket without you having to ask. If I really couldn't afford it and you really wanted me to go, then I would repay you in some other way, like buy your dinner or some such. | |
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Posted: 4/26/2012 8:11:48 PM | | screw the birthday bj... I would take the rolex | |
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Posted: 4/27/2012 12:44:14 AM | | There's 7 days in a birthday week right Capn? | |
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