| | Why are girls like this?Page 1 of 2 (1, 2) | | Hi, Im Buzzy. I'm 19 almost 20 and ive been in multiple relationships and they have all ended with the girl leaving me for a "better guy" Now, im not looking for self confidence boosts or anything but i was wondering what it is about me that these girls find so bad that they want to leave me heartbroken constantly. I am the type of guy who asks you out by bringing you a rose and asking "Would you want to be my girl?" (after a few dates) Im not rich or anything, but i have a really big heart. I want to use the story between me and one of my first girlfriends as an example. This girl was what people consider "hot". I asked her to be my girl on Dec 2. The first few days were amazing, and she was my second gf but first kiss. She would call me everyday and ask if i would want to stop by to say hello before work, and i did. Her parents loved me and her dad even offered me a high paying job. About four weeks in is when my touble with her started. Every day she started ditching me to hang out with another guy. I became concerned so one day i confronted her and asked "Do you like him?" Her answer: "Thats not a good question to ask". I asked her, do you still want to be with me and she said yes. One day it snowed hard enough to where cars werent an option, so i decided to walk 15 miles to her house to give her flowers, but unfortunately when i got there i found his jeep there and when she answered the door with a hickey on her neck. We split up and argued for months, and all i was doing in these arguements was asking for space to get over her, but she would call me a loser, ugly, poor, a ****, and would say that it was my fault. Now, that story is pretty much how most of my relationships go. I dont know why, i treat girls right and they all do this. I try my ass off just to make girls happy, and it works, but why do they always decide to cheat on me? Im wondering if some girls see a certain type of guy as practice for "better" guys? | |
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Posted: 4/26/2012 2:43:42 PM | Owwww.
Why do you allow them to do that to you?
You are totally lacking self esteem.
You need a way to up that. | |
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Posted: 4/26/2012 3:12:15 PM | Every day she started ditching me to hang out with another guy.
But Im guessing you overlooked this because
This girl was what people consider "hot". so you
decided to walk 15 miles to her house to give her flowers,
she would call me a loser, ugly, poor, a ****, and would say that it was my fault. Now, that story is pretty much how most of my relationships go. I dont know why.... but why do they always decide to cheat on me?
I think you answered this question with
The first few days were amazing,About four weeks in is when my touble with her started | |
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Posted: 4/26/2012 3:14:24 PM | | I am finding women are typically selfish, shallow, conniving and manipulative. But I love them anyway. That's why I put up with it. | |
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Posted: 4/26/2012 5:35:37 PM | | At your age a lot of people are just looking for flings and nothing serious. You are the kind of guy that girls like in the long run. They often go for the douchebags at that age. I also noticed you never mentioned anything about her besides she was 'hot'. Find a girl you click with on a deeper level instead of a superficial one. | |
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Posted: 4/26/2012 6:18:33 PM | | Well, at "almost" 20,forget about the little girls, and start worrying about yourself and how you will grow into a man. Once you figure out that right now is not really the time for anything "serious" in the relationship department, the better off you will be. I say this to all you young ones, both female and male. Enjoy your YOUTH. It don't come back. Honest. | |
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Posted: 4/26/2012 8:37:58 PM | Buzz if they leave you for someone else it is their insecurities that are causing them to leave. You are young dont worry about a lasting relationship right now. Enjoy life.
I am 41 almost 42. I spent 9 and a half years married too two different women. Both cheated and both are gone.
I honestly enjoyed the millitary and what it had to offer better then marriage. After these two divrces I chased women up until 5 months ago. Now I have no desire for a relationship. No desire to settle down with a woman. No desire for a girlfriend or anything like that.
I am enjoying the single life. Miss the kids but enjoy the life of a single man. so dont worry young jedi meet someone someday you will. | |
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Posted: 4/26/2012 10:38:17 PM | Buzz I think you are a nice guy so I"m going to be honest. You are WAY too soft. You try too hard and you are a pushover to these girls.
I see soooo many self proclaimed "nice guys" who are just too easy a target.
I know the metrosexual stuff is so in, but I'm not into it. Be polite, fun, but also be a man.
The SECOND you thought she was messing around you give her an ultimatum. If she doesnt' change you leave her. I would rather be alone than be treated like crap. Instead of blowing her off, you just keep asking her are things ok. She's lying!
You need some self esteem. Gradually be friends with people and get to know them. Dump the rose and will you be my girl stuff. Just be yourself and stop going so out of your way to prove what a nice guy you are. Stop trying so hard.
Lets face it; women have changed a lot and they are as shallow and promiscuous as guys are. Lots of liars and cheaters. Just take your time and choose better people.
If you don't respect yourself, then why would anyone else?
Keep being a good guy, but dont be a wimpy good guy. If this is a pattern it's really not on all women that are bad, it's all women that YOU choose that are. Choose better, you will get a better outcome. Good luck; be tougher. | |
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Posted: 4/27/2012 4:08:41 AM | | I have been the same way through life Jmark, thats really good advice, thanks. Hang in there Buzz, you are young, and when you find a real woman, you will forget all about these little girls that are always looking for greener grass. Good Luck man. | |
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Posted: 4/27/2012 6:19:18 AM | | Sorry to hear about this Buzz, we can't begin to guess why a girl might do this. Maybe they're insecure, maybe they feel entitled, or maybe they're plain evil. What I can tell you is you should have dumped her around the time she started ditching you. I think she gave you enough reason to and it would have saved you a bigger heartache (in hindsight). You handled the breakup well though; it's good you didn't stay with her past the hickey thing. | |
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Posted: 4/27/2012 7:04:36 AM | | Find your balls and self esteem and you should be good to go. Oh, and stick to women a few years older than you so they are a little more mature. | |
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Posted: 4/28/2012 9:22:09 AM | | HEY,guy:I will be 57,and sometimes I wonderWHY,Im, chasing women....I have been treated to a woman (MANY WOMEN)showing interest,then running for the hills,and disappearing;I have had women tell me"We WILL be together-WHEN".....fill in the blank,any reason...I have gotten women in the middle of their double standard BS"Ican do it,dont YOU do it",and tell them about it,and I am the ***hole...Ive been called bi-polar,and psychotic,because I have exposed these nitwits,and their flaws..Sounds like you try too hard,my friend...As they say.if the chemistry aint there,wont work...I have discovered the hard way:If you do too much,they will just take,and take,and dump ya....I amstill looking for my one and only,I wish you well....Steve. | |
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Posted: 5/1/2012 2:07:07 PM | | I was with her because i had a crush on her for four years and for the longest time i had considered her my best friend before we dated. | |
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Posted: 5/1/2012 2:13:54 PM | | A lot of you have given me really good advice, thanks! Some of you are quick to jump to thinking im a softy though lol. I just come across that way on the interenet, im normal off the keyboard :p | |
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Posted: 5/2/2012 12:23:41 AM | | I gotta agree with Jmark. I havent had the same problems of being cheated on like you, but I cant find a girl if my life depended on it and my life's been full of terrible relationships. If you're anything like me and I think you are, don't try as hard. The only thing ive found is that trying hard only gets you friendzoned or makes you a vulnerable target. Try going for a while without trying and build some confidence. Confidence makes all the difference. I should know, I havent had any for 3 years and I've been in my rut/depression during those years. Save yourself before you get to my level lol! But seriously good luck, you'll find someone, just keep your chin up always. | |
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Posted: 5/2/2012 1:51:48 AM |
I was with her because i had a crush on her for four years and for the longest time i had considered her my best friend before we dated.
This is called orbiting. Don't do this.
You need to lead, and if she fits in with you... great. If not, you need to work on yourself.
Don't tag around after her, hoping she'll get bored and "give you a go".
It's called cat-string theory and you need to google it.
Girls are attracted to (amongst other things):
- Social intuition
- Status
- Wealth and/or career prospects
- Personal Health & Hygene
- Fashion sense
- Humour
Each girl will have different tastes and be attracted one more so than another. The bottom line is, you need to improve on yourself, for yourself only. When you start feeling better about your self, everything will fall into place.
If you build it, they will come. Don't do things to impress others, do things to impress yourself. Otherwise the whole lot will tumble like a stack of cards when you don't get the gratification you were looking for.
"When you rely on yourself and only yourself you become personally powerful." - David Shade.
Good luck mate. | |
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Posted: 5/2/2012 1:49:24 PM | | Thanks guys. I appreciate it lol. Ive actually been working on what youve said. Ive been worrying more about me and seeing what i can accomplish. I mean there isnt much i can accomplish in one week but so far ive gone to a cards game and fishing with just my bro friends and ive been a lot less depressed. Even got the nickname The Buzzinator cuz ive been stepping outside the box and doing things that i thought before were too risky and apparently im a huge fan of baseball, who knew? :) | |
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Posted: 5/3/2012 6:14:34 AM | | Some girls are just ****es man and selfish just like guys. **** them and move on | |
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Posted: 5/3/2012 7:47:14 AM | | some,girls not all whatever thier age are selfish,shallow,goldiggers,just as some guys are bulshitters,ect.the warning signs were there looking back but prob choose to ignore em,wont be 1st or the last to do so.you done nothing wrong, she has .sometimes you gotta get soaking wet in rain to appricate the sunshine.trouble is some mistake kindness for weakness. be bit more tougher, learn,move on,but dont carry this around as head baggage to future relationships of which sure there be lots more.at your age girls chase the bad boys, for excitement/in hope they be the ones change em,/they cant. karma as way come back and bite her on ass. | |
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Posted: 5/3/2012 3:06:20 PM | She sounds like an utter cow and you don't need that.
Don't read her texts or take her calls at all and just ignore her, that will wind her up no end.
Also contact your service provider and ask them to block her number and i think you can get an app that allows numbers to be blocked from calling you.
Next step get over it and when people tell you things like that, ignore them or tell them to go f*** themselves or whatever you need to do.
Don'tmake it easy for her and she will get bored and start torturing the new guy. | |
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Posted: 5/3/2012 6:46:12 PM | | She might've seen you as more of a loving friend judging by the decription of yourself. The treat em mean keep em keen saying isn't around for no reason. She'd have probably come begging if you'd slapped her about for cheating on you. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2012 11:41:53 AM | | i Dont think it should have been posted there, i believe that i had better responses and advice from these guys here than i have any of my friends that were girls. The girls tell me stick around and wait and im not like that. I burned the bridge and moved on. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2012 1:01:26 PM |
I try my ass off just to make girls happy
Big, big, big mistake.
Be happy on your own, be busy on your own, and eventually the girls will slide in alongside you and be happy with you.
Stop this flower bringing nonsense also.
Flowers are a reward for having done something special for you (such as making you a great meal - or putting out). Giving a girl flowers before any of that will almost seem like you are trying to curry her favour, and this will make you seem less attractive to her, like you're attempting to bribe her.
Don't be extra nice to women until they have earned it from you. When they have earned it, then start with the niceties.
That dude with the jeep who was banging your girlfriend - I guarantee you that he didn't bring her flowers. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2012 4:20:13 PM | You're caught up in this romantic illusion that women want sweet, caring nice guys, to "save them" from the all the other alpha males who treat them like dirt. You believe that you fit the bill perfectly, and that this would make you the perfect boyfriend. That alone is demeaning toward women, especially in this day and age when women are stronger than ever.
You think you "get" women....but you don't. At the end of the day, women want men to be men. You're coming across as clingy and needy. That,s a HUGE turn off for women...for everyone, really. | |
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