| | Why don't women ask questions?Page 1 of 1 | | Many times when I send a message, and the woman responds, she may answer my questions to her, but then never show interest or curiosity in return. Why would a woman respond or keep writing if she is not interested in the man she is talking to? How do I keep a conversation going under these circumstances? | |
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| Why don't women ask questions?
Posted: 5/16/2012 3:56:14 AM | | It's logical. She isn't interested enough or should would ask something. Either that or she is trying to make you work for her attention. Either way, you could try just one more message and if you still get the same disinterested result, move on. | |
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| Why don't women ask questions?
Posted: 5/16/2012 3:56:49 AM | You can't keep the conversation going under these circumstances. Conversation, by default, requires the effort and attention of more then one person.
It's likely that she's not interested and just being polite in replying - happens to us all and it sucks when we are more interested in learning about the other person but it's the way it goes sometimes.
It might also be that she is a very private person but again, until if you aren't able to converse with her, you'll never know which of the two possibles it is. | |
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| Why don't women ask questions?
Posted: 5/16/2012 3:58:43 AM |
Many times when I send a message, and the woman responds, she may answer my questions to her, but then never show interest or curiosity in return. Why would a woman respond or keep writing if she is not interested in the man she is talking to?
Because it is in her nature to respond even though she is not interested.
How do I keep a conversation going under these circumstances?
Keep asking questions until she no longer responds or take the hint and move on. | |
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| Why don't women ask questions?
Posted: 5/16/2012 4:35:06 AM |
Many times when I send a message, and the woman responds, she may answer my questions to her, but then never show interest or curiosity in return. Why would a woman respond or keep writing if she is not interested in the man she is talking to She is bored and willing to waste both your time.
How do I keep a conversation going under these circumstances? Dude there is no conversation to keep going. Either she is not a good conversationalist or she is not interested. Your options are to
1) Move on to someone more interesting (and interested in YOU)
or
2) Ask to meet her and pray to gawd she is better conversing in person than online here.
Personally I always choose the first option. If its that hard to talk here they usually are not that much better in person in my experience. I will give them a shot on the phone at least but if things dont flow smoothly there then we skip the meeting.
Cowboy | |
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| Why don't women ask questions?
Posted: 5/16/2012 5:30:31 AM |
Why would a woman respond or keep writing if she is not interested in the man she is talking to? After a series of threads on this same topic it occurs to me to wonder, why the interrogator continues to write after receiving responses that are blecckhy.
But, look. There could be more than one reason why people do this
they're lazy
they're boring
they think you're boring
they are here to play games, not meet
they're here to meet but will still play games with people who they don't want to meet
How would knowing "why" help you?
^^good point, about maybe moving it to a phone call. I wouldn't have, but that was me. Maybe they hate to type. | |
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| Why don't women ask questions?
Posted: 5/16/2012 6:40:19 AM | No questions could be a HUGE GLARING result of: lack of interest
but if you push it, lots of women will ALLOW YOU to take them out to a nice expensive dinner just to
feel secure in knowing they really really are not interested. Maybe even a weeks worth of nice dinners before they tell you they are not interested....
so push it or move on.. your choice and life is all about choices. | |
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| Why don't women ask questions?
Posted: 5/16/2012 6:52:16 AM | I do agree with the above posts.
HOWEVER as someone who isn't much of an 'online chatter' take into consideration that some women like myself struggle with online conversations because it just feels un-natural to us. My not asking questions is not usually a representation of my lack of interest in the man. Ask the woman to correspond another way, a video call using the chat feature of this site works very well or just ask her to meet face to face, gauge her interest from how she reacts to you in person rather than based upon her lack of talent making small talk with random strangers online. | |
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| Why don't women ask questions?
Posted: 5/16/2012 7:05:39 AM | She was likley told she 'must reply' or be seen as a biatch...so she replies with no interest to be polite.
Believe me, if a woman was thrilled to get an email from your profile, she would show the interest, and ask a question to get you to respond back.
This is another reason I dislike the notion of everyone 'must reply'...it only adds to confusion for men who cannot tell the difference between a polite response and a response filled with interest. | |
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| Why don't women ask questions?
Posted: 5/16/2012 7:32:02 AM | | Unfortunately, keeping the conversation ongoing under these circumstances is an exercise in futility. You need to search for more engaging conversationalists. | |
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| Why don't women ask questions?
Posted: 5/16/2012 7:42:19 AM | Someone not asking you any questions or giving you anything to respond to in the messages they return to you illustrates that they are either not interested in you, too busy with other men to show interest, far too interested in themselves, or maybe they are just playing silly girl games with you. Either way it's a pretty good indicator that it is going nowhere.
There are many women who will reply politely in order to appear polite and nice and yes I agree that this does confuse some men. Since some women like to play the game of being coy or feigning interest and many men have played along with this game in the past ( but hoping the women they meet have grown out of that phase ) with some success it's no wonder we get confused by polite responses.
Now if a girl would just say " No thanks I'd rather stick pins in my eyes" there would be no confusion. | |
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| Why don't women ask questions?
Posted: 5/16/2012 9:07:21 AM | | Because if she didn't reply then there is a chance you'd come here and post "how come I don't get any replies?" or call them various names for not responding. As far as you keeping the conversation going, become an interesting person. If you have to drag a conversation out of someone, they aren't interested. | |
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| Why don't women ask questions?
Posted: 5/16/2012 9:23:36 AM | The other thing it kind of seems obvious to me but maybe I'm just weird... but if your emails are all in question/answer form,
maybe she thinks you are just wanting answers.
Instead of just doing nothing but writing questions and hoping for answers...
put the ball in her court and maybe initially do a question, and then offer something up about yourself that she can follow up and ask about it further. If she asks more about it; maybe she's interested and not too comfortable with online. If she doesn't bother; she's probably not interested. | |
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| Why don't women ask questions?
Posted: 5/16/2012 9:30:46 AM | | Hmm I sometimes get messages from men I am not interested in..it'll be hello so I write back hello...saying hello doesnt mean Im interested, then the next message will be something like how are you? or something along that line, Im not a rude person so I will answer Im good how are you? If they mention getting together then I will say no thank you not interested, but some men will not get to the point and send endless messages. I wont ask questions about a man Im not interested in. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2012 4:14:00 PM | | Interesting questions encourage interesting questions. Boring questions encourage... boredom....and not caring to carry on the convo. | |
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| Why don't women ask questions?
Posted: 5/16/2012 4:24:16 PM | OP wow this is funny. If you ask a question and you get an answer to the question ... done. However, if you make a comment about what you think about something and ask for someone else's opinion you will get more, you also gamble more.
In my experience, men often show interest by clicking the yes button, then follow up with a short one-liner question message, but their profile is like yours - a short list with maybe a sentence or two thrown in ... it doesn't inspire much curiosity. So, how about you actually create a conversation.
:-P~~ | |
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| Why don't women ask questions?
Posted: 5/16/2012 4:46:45 PM | | Why do men insist that if we're not interrogating you that we're not interested? Do you not realize that just within regular communication, we are able to get a sense of who you are and what you're all about? When a man expects me to be his Mommy, teacher or Boss right away without meeting halfway in a spirit of friendship, I lose respect for him and assume he's not all that. | |
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| Why don't women ask questions?
Posted: 5/16/2012 5:11:46 PM | | I am one of those women who does NOT interview or grill her potential dates. I would rather have a normal conversation and get to know you naturally. | |
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| Why don't women ask questions?
Posted: 5/16/2012 6:34:22 PM | Some aren't good at communicating online
Some are self-centered so answering questions about themselves is fun but asking you one isn't
Some aren't interested in you but still reply out of boredom or to be polite
Some are incredibly quiet and shy hence which makes conversation even harder in person than online | |
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| Why don't women ask questions?
Posted: 5/16/2012 6:44:46 PM | | I dunno, I ask questions. If I'm not interested I don't reply. If I am interested I ask questions. I have pretty good conversational skills though, I think, compared to a lot of women on here TBH. Some men have made the comment that I am more interesting to talk to than lot of other girls on here. | |
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