| | Need advice - how to ask a cashier outPage 1 of 3 (1, 2, 3) | It's easy asking women out on POF, they are here to meet someone. But in the real world, it's not so easy. I suck at this.
There is this cashier who, I swear, is interested in me. She always chat me up, and not other guys. She asks me personal questions. She smiles at me and says Hi when she sees that I'm standing in line at her desk. She always asks how my weekend was, even if it was Wednesday. And so on.
At any rate, I would love to ask her out. But how is that done? Especially if there are other customers behind me. I mean, what does one say as one is inserting a credit card into a bank terminal?
The risk is, if I'm wrong about her, it will be a very uncomfortable situation for both of us. I might have to shop at another store. LOL. Is there a stealth way of asking her out, where I'm not really asking her out?
Rascal | |
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| Need advice - how to ask a cashier out
Posted: 5/16/2012 3:13:43 PM | She HAS to be nice to you... you're a customer. Didn't anybody see the "Raisins" episode of South Park?
<div class='quote'> The risk is, if I'm wrong about her, it will be a very uncomfortable situation for both of us. [quote/]
BIG risk, bro. But here's how you get around it. Next time you're idly chatting, ask her if she has big plans for the weekend. If she says no, then mentiuon you like to go to XYZ club on friday or saturday nights because they have awesome blues/jazz/pizza... whatever.
Then mention that, if you see her there, you'll be sure to say hi.
It's not a date request, but she'll know when and where you'll be for the purposes of socializing. Just don't be surprised or upset if she never shows. Just carry on as though normal. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2012 3:13:52 PM | Just ask her :-)
Women do like it when a man finds them attractive....contrary to popular belief on the forums!
I doubt if you can time it for no other customers to be around....but still ask her if she'd like to go for coffee. Make it light and if she says no, then it's no....smile and accept it gracefully.
Don't want to see a thread on here entitled "How can I MAKE the cashier go out with me" lol
P.S. forgot to say; make sure she's single...vvvv good advice | |
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| Need advice - how to ask a cashier out
Posted: 5/16/2012 3:18:38 PM | | First find out if she is married, or in a relationship. When she asks what you did over the weekend, tell her and ask her, what did you and your husband do? If she says no husband then say O.K. boyfriend. If she says she is single, say so am I and I enjoy our chats in line, would you like to go for coffee sometime. If she is not interested she will just say she can't date customers. That way she does not offend a customer and you will still continue to buy there. If she is interested you have a coffee date. Make sure you go at a time when there will not be a line or someone behind you. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2012 3:32:19 PM | Don't try to play games or drop hints.
Say "Hi. My name is Rascal. I'd really like to get to know you. If you'd like that too, how about we get together? I know you're busy so I'll check back with you next time I come in."
The next time you go in, smile, ask her "So, would you consider dating a customer or is that against the rules?"
If she's not interested, she can use that as a face-saving excuse.
No need to change stores. If she turns you down, keep going in with confidence, keep smiling and be happy to see her.
Just don't ask her out again. No big deal. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2012 3:55:15 PM | | What have you got to lose? You don't ask her out and no date, right? If you do ask then you may not get a date but you also might. | |
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RT_2
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| Need advice - how to ask a cashier out
Posted: 5/16/2012 4:00:19 PM | If she is interested, she can write her phone # on the receipt.
If she knows you have the hots for her and wants to let you down easy, she can say "we" which usually means "my man and I".
I have witnessed dudes trying to flirt with cashiers, then when he is out of range, she tells a coworker negative things about him. Perhaps have a buddy shop there and check out just after you, two or three places behind in line. He can observe her reactions when you leave. She might smile and keep watching you as you walk out, then tell her coworker how dreamy you are. Or she might look sick and disgusted. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2012 4:03:31 PM | | When I was a cashier I had a guy ask me out. He had his normal purchases and at the end some pretty flowers. After I rung them up he said "Those are for you". I loved it! Good luck... | |
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Posted: 5/16/2012 4:42:35 PM | I once asked the lady at the drive through of McDonalds for her phone number.
She actually said let me get a pen, turned away, then paused, and said no, her boyfriend probably wouldnt like that.
But she thought about it for a second. It wasn't a flat out no. Was the first time in almost 20 years I asked a woman for her phone number. It was very encouraging for me, since it was after my ex left but before the divorce was final (not sure, may have been before I even filed for the divorce).
Every time I went through that drive through on my way to work, I'd say hi, and tell her that her smile was the highlight of my morning. Always got an even bigger smile out of her.
It's wasn't awkward. I expressed an interest, she declined, we both went on with our lives.
Hmmmm, now I suddenly have a craving for a McGriddle.... wonder if she works tomorrow morning :) | |
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tjl503
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| Need advice - how to ask a cashier out
Posted: 5/16/2012 5:29:28 PM | | Pay with a credit card so she has to give you a receipt, write your number on it and hand it back to her. This is the best way if she has coworkers or customers around. If it's just her flirt with her ask her if she's single and if she wants to go out sometime. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2012 6:25:00 PM | Wow, Rascal! You sound like the kid that was locked out of his car and couldn't get in because the battery in his remote died.
If you're wrong, so what? You can't handle a "no?" You'd have to shop elsewhere?
Again, I say wow! | |
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Posted: 5/16/2012 7:32:08 PM |
If you're wrong, so what? You can't handle a "no?" You'd have to shop elsewhere?
Wow. You mean you didn't read the "lol" after that line? And you shouldn't even need that. You should be able to detect the humor on your own. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2012 8:09:44 PM | | omg i would never just ask some chick out on a date at work our just out off the blue thats what bars are for to meet woman | |
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Posted: 5/16/2012 8:09:53 PM | Thanks for all the advice, people
The last time I asked a cashier out was 1995. I got turned down then.
I'll definitely update this thread as to what happens.
Rascal | |
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Posted: 5/16/2012 8:17:49 PM | I HATE when guys hit on me at work. Of course I am nice to you. It is my job.
If you feel compelled please just be 100% up front. Just ask. Don't try to be all tricky. If she isn't interested she will at least respect you. I would rather a man ask politely than some bs roundabout route. Confidence is attractive. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2012 8:24:36 PM |
Of course I am nice to you. It is my job.
She is not being "nice" to me. I know pleasant conversion from a cashier. I'm 44, and I deal with cashiers every day, so I think I know what is normal. In fact, one can say she is hitting on me. No other cashier is "nice" to me like this. If what she is doing is merely her job, then all the other cashiers in all the other stores are not doing their jobs. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2012 8:40:09 PM | | Don't ask her out in a way that requires an immediate answer. It would get awkward if she's not interested. Just pass her your card and say if she's interested in getting together sometime for coffee/dinner/whatever, to give you a call. Then walk away. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2012 9:18:10 PM | Don't ask her out in a way that requires an immediate answer. It would get awkward if she's not interested. Just pass her your card and say if she's interested in getting together sometime for coffee/dinner/whatever, to give you a call. Then walk away.
Sorry but I have to completely disagree with this. Women like confidence and also women will rarely initiate if you give them your phone number.
If it were me I would just tell her that she is quite attractive and that I have enjoyed her happy and outgoing personality and talking to her when I've been in the store and just ask her to meet for a coffee. The direct approach is best. If she is attracted to you she will be flattered and happy you spoke up. If she isn't attracted and interested she will still be flattered and feel good so it's a no lose situation.
omg i would never just ask some chick out on a date at work our just out off the blue thats what bars are for to meet woman
You sir are missing out on meeting lots of potentially wonderful women. I hate meeting women in bars. I have only ever dated one woman I met in a bar. The rest of the world is great for meeting women in a more genuine and laid back environment. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2012 9:39:42 PM | | Some women are social butterflies and they happen to end up working as cashiers too. So, it isn't clear cut to be honest, but the only way to find out is to communicate. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2012 9:57:28 PM | Sorry but I have to completely disagree with this. Women like confidence and also women will rarely initiate if you give them your phone number.
You can disagree but it still doesn't make you right. Different people react differently to this situation and not one approach will work in all situations. Some women don't like getting hit on at work and some can handle it with no problems. My suggestion was just that and makes it less embarrassing for BOTH parties involved. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2012 11:12:34 PM |
You can disagree but it still doesn't make you right. Different people react differently to this situation and not one approach will work in all situations. Some women don't like getting hit on at work and some can handle it with no problems. My suggestion was just that and makes it less embarrassing for BOTH parties involved.
Women will almost never call you if you give them your number. You have to be a man and make the move and ask for her number. You will only be embarrassed if you allow yourself to. I have approached women in public several times. I have yet to have one react badly and if they weren't interested they at least thanked me for the compliment and we went our separate ways. No one was embarrassed or upset.
Here's a secret. All women fantasize about some guy charming them at the supermarket or wherever just like you see in all those romantic movies. They almost never react badly to being approached but you have to do it in a relaxed and sincere way. We're not talking about cheesy pick up lines or coming on to her. Just honest and relaxed and fun and she will most likely respond to that.
security will probably throw you out, dont do it bro.
I seriously doubt it unless he does it in a harassing way or tries to grab her or touch her inappropriately. What will security throw him out for? He told her he liked her and asked her if she wanted to get a coffee. CALL THE POLICE! Lol!
As I said, she will be flattered to be complimented and asked out whether she is interested or not. I have never, ever had a woman react poorly to me telling them I found them attractive.
@ BornVillan:
Your eloquence and insight are mind blowing! | |
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Posted: 5/17/2012 12:51:05 AM | I have been a cashier for over 25 years, it is our job to be nice,we have to ask how was your day, weekend, party last night, its part of the job, "did you find everything ok, oh what are you making for dinner tonight it looks good?" on and on,my company is very strict about this and we have spotter shoppers.
It maybe she is just doing her job.It is extreme sometimes, we actually had a law suit against our company because of all the unwanted male attention.Some of the women I work with have had stalkers.Its not a fun job and being hit on at work is embarrassing when you are not looking for that | |
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Posted: 5/17/2012 9:21:13 AM | | I would just ask her if she's free to have coffee with you after work. It isn't against the law to pay a compliment to a woman or to ask her if she would like to join you for a coffee. That's completely different than stalking someone or crossing the line. If you get turned down, that's life, you miss all the shots you don't take anyway. | |
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