| | So I did not kiss her on the the first date. Good or bad sign?Page 1 of 5 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5) | | Went on a date with a woman who initially contacted me on here (which I like and appreciate) last night. The date went well and we talked over food and drinks for 3.5 hours. Good conversation for the most part with maybe 1 or 2 occasions when neither of us said anything. We get to the end of the date and we are standing outside of the place saying our good nights. We went in for the goodbye hug but i did not kiss her. I wanted to but was having trouble reading her vibes. Is this a good or bad thing? ..................Don't be scared to hurt my feelings. I want as much constructive criticism as possible. | |
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| So I did not kiss her on the the first date. Good or bad sign?
Posted: 5/25/2012 9:17:19 PM | You're young so I forgive you. Almost every date where I have just spent more than a few hours with someone I've always gotten a hug good bye which then turns into a kiss, sometimes a very nice kiss.
I don't know why guys are afraid to kiss a woman, Of course you don't want go grope her or be a total pig about it. But kiss her next time, like you mean it :) It's just a kiss. If she isn't at all interested, you won't be questioning her vibe, because she won't let you near her. | |
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| So I did not kiss her on the the first date. Good or bad sign?
Posted: 5/25/2012 9:33:20 PM | | I agree with the others, that if you weren't sure, you may have made the best choice not to. However, that doesn't mean I would not have rolled the dice and tried. Now, unless I got a definitive negative vibe, I probably would try. I think that when with hesitant undecided types of people (regarding something like a kiss, even just if on the cheek) if you can't do so much as kiss them, then trying for anything more, will likely be tones of hassle, even if you thought there could be hope. | |
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| So I did not kiss her on the the first date. Good or bad sign?
Posted: 5/25/2012 10:49:13 PM | Ok, I had this experience just a week ago.
First meet turned into 7 hour outting. Talking, holding hands, hugging. At the end, I briefly thought of trying to kiss her, but didn't get the vibe. Got a big hug though and felt the day had gone way better than I could have hoped for.
Later that night as we exchanged texts, you know, I'm home safe, had a great time... she dropped this on me...
"so when do I get my first kiss"
I panicked, thinking I had missed a signal, so went for some gusto...
"if you like me enough to want me to kiss you then next time I'll curl your toes"
"oh yes, toes curled please"
I asked her on the second date after some serious toe curling kissing if I had missed a signal the first time. She said no, I was true to my promise to not push for anything which is part of why she wanted to see me again.
If you didn't get a clear signal, better to err on the side of caution. Don't make her think you aren't into her, but don't push for something she may not be ready for. | |
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| So I did not kiss her on the the first date. Good or bad sign?
Posted: 5/25/2012 11:31:41 PM | Nice move!
My bf did the same thing.... And guess what? It made me want him even more!
Second date the very next night... He kissed me ontop of my head.... This was a bit weird for me... But kinda cute... And actually very memorable.
Third date, I said screw it, and I kissed him.
Later when we were a couple, I asked him why not? He said.... He liked me so much, he wanted to take things nice and slow and not rush anything.... Really won me over.... Not many guys would actually wait for the right moment...
You did well | |
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| So I did not kiss her on the the first date. Good or bad sign?
Posted: 5/25/2012 11:38:24 PM | As it was a first meet but you spent a few hours together and hit it off then a hug would have been appropriate.
The thing is have you asked her for another date and did she accept? That first meet is over so no good worrying about what ifs. If you seeing her again plenty of opportunity for kisses. If I really fancied a guy I would be kissing him on the second date if necessary. Just a light peck and then let him take it from there. | |
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| So I did not kiss her on the the first date. Good or bad sign?
Posted: 5/26/2012 4:52:11 AM |
We went in for the goodbye hug but i did not kiss her. I wanted to but was having trouble reading her vibes. Is this a good or bad thing?
I always go for a kiss precisely because I have trouble reading vibes. Had you tried to kiss her, you'd know exactly how she felt when you left. | |
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| So I did not kiss her on the the first date. Good or bad sign?
Posted: 5/26/2012 5:05:03 AM | | Hey Private Pilot. So glad you posted that question. I've been wondering the same thing....have been on a few dates lately where the end of the date came and there was that "awkward" moment when I didn't know if he wanted to kiss me or not! I didn't know what to do either. I have spent the majority of my adult life married or in a relationship and never realized how complicated dating had become :-) I don't know if its appropriate for me to make the first move and kiss him or just wait to be kissed :-) if a guy is attracted to me I would want him to show me. I vote for kiss her :-) | |
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| So I did not kiss her on the the first date. Good or bad sign?
Posted: 5/26/2012 5:26:43 AM | If I am feeling anything I will always try for at least a short goodbye kiss. If I dont kiss her then I wont ask for a second date. Ever. You could of done the big hug thing and at least kissed her neck or cheek and held for a moment to see how she was reacting. My rule is that the hug/kiss good night should not of been the first time you actually touched her if you were attracted. There are small ways to of made some type of body contact like touching her hand or even the small of her back as you hold open the door for her to enter etc... You should of been gauging her body language earlier in the evening as you did these things. I am NOT talking groping. But usually you can tell early on if she is feeling anything for you and you have that build hopefully during the evening.
I START my dates with a better hug then a lot of you guys are going for at the close of a date I promise ya. And the weird guys that shake hands to end a date? WTF is up with that non sense? I shake hands at a business meeting. I cant imagine a date or meeting ending with shaking hands. Its a hug at least unless you are just thinking "Ewwwwwww" and then you dont offer any physical contact but shaking hands just seems totally weird to me to end a date/meeting and would signify in no uncertain terms that there would be no further contact.
But I always go for a nice hug and a kiss if I am wanting a second date. I am not talking some sloppy make out kiss or sticking my tongue down her throat like a lizzard! I am talking a sweet goodnight kiss when the date is over.
There is an art to flirting with women that seems to be lost on many men of all ages. Flirting and reading body language is a key in romancing women.
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| So I did not kiss her on the the first date. Good or bad sign?
Posted: 5/26/2012 9:23:08 AM | It's a strange world we live in. On one side of the spectrum some are unsure whether it's ok to kiss on a first date then all the way to the other end we have people who have sex right away on a first meeting.
If it's just a quick meet and great, then yep, probably don't want to kiss her. I still think if you spent that kind of time together, 3.5 hours, you're good to go for a nice kiss.
Practice makes perfect pilot :) | |
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| So I did not kiss her on the the first date. Good or bad sign?
Posted: 5/26/2012 10:11:39 AM | Even a kiss to me is important and I don't want to be kissed by a bunch of men. So, I have to really feel good about the guy and that we are going forward with seeing one another. First dates, no matter how good they are can lead to no dates afterwards. Maybe we had a good time together but I see him just as someone I could be friends with. It may take a few more dates to turn those feelings into something else.
Now I am not talking about a peck on the cheek here. That is fine. But full on mouth to mouth intercourse...not for me unless I care about you and know we will be seeing one another again. | |
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| So I did not kiss her on the the first date. Good or bad sign?
Posted: 5/26/2012 11:14:37 AM |
First dates, no matter how good they are can lead to no dates afterwards. Yeah like the ones without kisses. Those go nowhere.
Maybe we had a good time together but I see him just as someone I could be friends with. It may take a few more dates to turn those feelings into something else. I know in 3o seconds if I would want to kiss her. And 1000o dates would not change that for someone I didnt know I wanted to kiss in the first 30 seconds I promise ya.
You may be attracted to someone initially but turned off later as you get to know them but I know immediately if I do or do not want to kiss them. We are not talking about a relationship. Or a makeout session in the backseat for christ sakes. We are talking about a simple good night kiss not tongue sucking.
But full on mouth to mouth intercourse...not for me unless I care about you and know we will be seeing one another again. sweetie that good night kiss is how you tell the guy you are attracted, interested and WANT TO SEE HIM AGAIN.
full on mouth to mouth intercourse lmfao. Mouth to Mouth INTERCOURSE! You guys crack me up with this nonsense.
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| So I did not kiss her on the the first date. Good or bad sign?
Posted: 5/26/2012 11:28:23 AM | | bad thing..... just joking. Set up another date and see if she is interested in seeing you, if she's up for it there's your answer if not, move on. On the next date initiate that kiss with her and see what happens. If she ain't kissing it's not happening. | |
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| So I did not kiss her on the the first date. Good or bad sign?
Posted: 5/26/2012 11:49:10 AM | I wouldn't worry about it too much. The first date is a mulligan. If I'm not going to kiss her on the first date I'm not going to hug her. I think, and it's just my humble opinion, that shows waffling and indecisiveness. Come big or stay at home. If you like her and you are on a 2nd date and she likes you back, she will more than likely make it easy for you to kiss her. If she's standing toe to toe and just barely outside your personal space, you better kiss her. If she's well outside your personal space and standing facing away, not good. Just a guideline not a rule. There are no rules.
And keep the first kiss short and sweet and smile. This is no time to play tonsil tag, that is a rule :) | |
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| So I did not kiss her on the the first date. Good or bad sign?
Posted: 5/26/2012 2:47:26 PM | you know what cowboy...think as you wish...LYAO and think it is nonsense, as you wish. We are all different in what we feel.
His hard, wet, warm tongue enters my soft, wet, warm mouth, probing and tasting me. That is the first time he enters my body anywhere. Yes, that is important to me and I won't do it just because I like the guy the first time I meet him.
If he likes me, touch my hand, hold it. If I don't withdraw then I like him. If we are meant to be together, our patience will reward us in the future.
but that is just me...and I am ok with that, if he is not, then I am ok with that too.
and P.S. Cowboy..to your statement
I know in 3o seconds if I would want to kiss her. And 1000o dates would not change that for someone I didnt know I wanted to kiss in the first 30 seconds I promise ya.
If I am attracted to a guy, I can mentally fuk him in the first 30 sec of meeting him too. But that doesn't mean I am going to do it until we are in a relationship. | |
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