| | Am I overreacting?Page 1 of 1 | So I'm new at this whole online dating thing, and I know it is hard to come up with something to say to a stranger for the 1st time. I have a great sense of humor and love a great joke but this guy sent me a joke as his 1st line of communication. I thought it was creepy. Here is the joke below please tell me if I'm overreacting?
A guy stops by to visit his friend. They talk for a while and then the friend asks,
"My feet are cold. Would you be so kind as to go get me my sneakers please?" The
guest obliges and goes upstairs. There he sees his friend's daughters, both very good
looking. Being the adventurous and quick thinking kind, he says: "Hi, ladies! Your
daddy sent me here to have sex with you!" They stare at him and say, "That can't be!"
He replies, "OK, let's check!" He shouts at his friend down the stairs, "Both of
them?" "Yes, both of them!" | |
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| Am I overreacting?
Posted: 5/27/2012 12:56:22 PM | | You are not overreacting. That's awful. The fact that a guy thinks sexual abuse of children is amusing is a complete deal breaker. Trust your feelings about this. I'd ditch him. Block/Delete. | |
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| Am I overreacting?
Posted: 5/27/2012 12:58:02 PM | That is not an appropriate joke for a first email.
so he looses guy points on that.
But it was funny.
I'm guessing it was a cut-n-paste job.
Sent to numerous women.
No reply is needed.
(unless you are short on good humor.) | |
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| Am I overreacting?
Posted: 5/27/2012 1:08:43 PM | | it depends all on you... if you dont like it then thats all that matters. If you did like it then keep talking to him. | |
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| Am I overreacting?
Posted: 5/27/2012 1:15:54 PM | flaneur001 is definitely over reacting.
On the other hand, this is a pretty corny and a bit out of line way to break the ice. He may not mean anything inappropriate, but he seems like a douche. A kiddy sex joke isn't really the way most decent guys will try to approach a girl they have genuine interest in. I say ignore/block. | |
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| Am I overreacting?
Posted: 5/27/2012 1:37:13 PM | You are not over-reacting, IMO. Flaneur is absolutely correct. Though it is possible the "girls" in question are not minors, since they are living with their father it would seem so. This sounds like a joke a pedophile might enjoy. In addition, it shows very poor judgement by the person who sent it to you. I think it qualifies as creepy.
DrMatt - I can't see any mention of children in the joke.
From the OP: "Hi, ladies! Your
daddy sent me here to have sex with you!"
How likely is it that adult children would be addressed in such a way?
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| Am I overreacting?
Posted: 5/27/2012 1:45:48 PM | The fact that a guy thinks sexual abuse of children is amusing is a complete deal breaker.
I can't see any mention of children in the joke. I agree that such a joke is probably not a good opening gambit but I think that the fact that you're all jumping to the conclusion that he's some kind of kiddie fiddler is a testament to how mistrusting and suspicious we've all come. When did society become so paranoid ? Perhaps the joke was a deliberate attempt to weed out the paranoid and sceptical from the easy going. We all make jokes about inappropriate subjects but the fact that everyone is screaming that he's a paedophile is ridiculous.
How likely is it that adult children would be addressed in such a way?
My best friend's niece calls her father daddy and she's 24.
So I'm getting the feeling that anyone who ever makes a sexist / racist / paedo / anti-semitic joke is necessarily advocating sexist / racism / paedophilia / killing of jews ?
Is the joke in bad taste ? Quite possibly. Are people being oversensitive, yes I think so. It's just a joke. It seems unfortunate that people can't see that it's just a bad taste joke and are reading so much into it and assuming that there's a serious sentiment in it. Are you all telling me you've never laughed at a politically incorrect joke. Family Guy is one of the most popular shows on tv.
There again some people will always suck up to political correctness and assume that anyone who makes a racist joke is a member of the KKK.
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| Am I overreacting?
Posted: 5/27/2012 2:01:00 PM | Jokes are not good for introductions.
Nobody knows the other person, so nobody knows what the other person would think is funny.
Interpretation of the joke can become confusing.
Contact Skippy and tell him you'll meet him for a half hour someplace, or just delete and move on. | |
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| Am I overreacting?
Posted: 5/27/2012 2:01:14 PM | another man on pof with sex on the brain.
just a random joke he probably thought was funny.
delete that one and respond to another more respectful 1st message rom someone else. | |
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Posted: 5/27/2012 2:07:52 PM | Well I think it is an over-reaction. When I first read the joke I didn't view it as a pedophile type of joke I just viewed it as an awful joke my dad would call me to tell me at work when he knows i'm very busy but he swears it's the funniest thing he's ever heard. :)
Also I have to give him credit that he was original in his post. I've come across women's profiles saying that they want guys to say something other than Hi how are you or your hot. His angle was to break the ice with a joke., albeit a bad one. | |
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Posted: 5/27/2012 2:20:16 PM | | I didn't think that he was a pedophile. I just think there are better ways to break the ice than a joke about having sex with 2 girls while their dad is downstairs. | |
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kja71
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Msg: 15 | |
| Am I overreacting?
Posted: 5/27/2012 2:26:22 PM | | I have a great sense of humor myself and I also have a 16 yr old daughter. I would've told him why I thought it was inappropriate and then to kiss my ass. Those are the kind of jokes that guys tell to other guys. Not guys telling this kind of a joke to a woman. Makes him look like and idiot in my opinion. | |
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Tam81
| | Joined: 5/10/2012
Msg: 16 | |
| Am I overreacting?
Posted: 5/27/2012 3:18:39 PM | I think it is all down to taste. What I find amusing, others may be mortified by and that works both ways. I write a lot, and while some think I'm quick witted and smart, others aren't impressed. As such, I save certain types of humour for certain people as I know they'll find it funny. Those who either won't or I am unsure about, it's best behaviour all the way. You have to know your audience when it comes to being funny or trying to be funny. However, that sadly doesn't always work both ways!
Also, I've heard that one before - it used to do the rounds quite a bit when I was at secondary school (high school for our friends across the pond!) so to me, it carries no implication. It's just not my kind of joke. Overreaction? That's up to you and you alone. | |
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| Am I overreacting?
Posted: 5/27/2012 3:19:53 PM | | Sex/race jokes are always risky unless you're very familiar with the other person. You're overreacting a little, but he really should have known better. | |
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| Am I overreacting?
Posted: 5/27/2012 3:25:41 PM | Boy did he make a HUGE mistake.
If someone sent me an email like this ... I wouldn't be replying. | |
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| Am I overreacting?
Posted: 5/27/2012 3:39:22 PM | Yes it is a poor joke - along the line of "farmer's daughter" jokes.
But I have to think this guy came up with an ingenious way of weeding out his undesirable fish without having to read this forum thread? Lol | |
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| Am I overreacting?
Posted: 5/27/2012 3:55:31 PM | | Disgusting! He has no respect for women. Maybe a pedaphile testing the grounds. | |
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