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 moonn69
Joined: 3/17/2012
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I am a 50 yearhold male who still enjoys a healthy sex life. My problem is finding woman my age to have a serious relationship with who also still enjoy sex on a regular basis. I would like to hear others thoughts and oppinions concerning this matter.
 Elgalawaat
Joined: 11/24/2008
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sexually active in their 50's
Posted: 5/28/2012 1:52:23 AM
Really it depends on you. If you give her good unselfish sex, with intense orgasms she will keep coming back for more.
 onehappyfellow
Joined: 9/21/2008
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Posted: 5/28/2012 3:17:54 AM
Sex changes as you get older. Less urgent but still wonderful. Take the word of an 84 year old widower.
 moonn69
Joined: 3/17/2012
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Posted: 5/28/2012 4:40:57 AM
@dogslife, no I dont run around to clubs trying to act or look any younger than I am, annd I am not looking for any 25yo women either. I am looking for a relationship with a woman around my age, and who still enjoys a healthy sex life. The key word you seem to have missed is relationship. Im not looking for a one night stand., I want to find a woman around my age and hopefully spend many happy passionate years together.
sexually active in their 50's
Posted: 5/28/2012 5:43:52 AM
I can not believe that this is even a question. In my mid forties, I was married to a woman in her fifties and since been dating women in their fifties (have a permanant relationship now). Women in their fifties are all about both. Healthy relationship and healthy sex life. They know what they want out life at this point as the kids have grown up and are willing to put 100% into their partnership. They are also more in tune with their bodies than younger women. Sex with an older woman is so much better. They tend not to have hangups and are more than willing to share their desires without inhibitions. You just have to follow the dating rules differently. Can't just add alcohol to get the key to their pants. The key to their panties lies between the ears.
I'll take a fifty year old that has some wear and tear on her body anyway vs. A twenty something year old with a body so tight you can bounce a quarter off her azz.
The sex is better, the conversation is better (not so many head games either).
 carelesswhisper00
Joined: 1/11/2007
Msg: 6
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Posted: 5/28/2012 5:52:18 AM
You just gotta love the women who are in their 50's and still want to have fun! I can't speak for all the women in this age range but I know what I like, how I like it and how often I like it. We are not all dead, but make sure that we want the same things we wanted when we were much younger and if the shoe fits wear it!
 MacInOC
Joined: 2/19/2012
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Posted: 5/28/2012 6:14:17 AM
I can certainly believe this is a question. I have had the same experience. Yes, every woman is different. Menopause, hormones, life experiences, past relationships all mold people differently.

But I too have found many women around 50 that just don't understand the balance that sex provides men in a relationship. Maybe the "art" of being a wife / partner got lost in this new age of women empowerment (is this the reason for the 50% divorce rate)?

I have met a few women who have gone years without sex. Why? Because they can? Who knows? I do know the the sex drive of men and women can NOT be compared. In my experience, intimacy for some woman is a cup of coffee and a deep meaningful chat. We men tend to show our intimacy in a different way.
 SSC-SAF
Joined: 5/20/2012
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Posted: 5/28/2012 6:40:23 AM
I have just the opposite problem. I have a tough time finding men who are in my preferred age range who are into the same things that I am, whose parts are still in good working order, who are looking for more than the occasional booty call and who know this:

The key to their panties lies between the ears.


The first attribute is toughest to find, but that's because it's a rare species of fish.

When I find the right fishie, he's going to need to eat his Wheaties to keep his energy up
 Moonchild51
Joined: 3/11/2007
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Posted: 5/28/2012 6:43:56 AM
I am with SSC on this one! lol...difficult for me to fathom that gals in this age bracket have hung up their "sexual" sign. As a woman, I can't believe some can go for years without it. I have asked them and they say that if you go long enough, you don't even miss it? Hell! I hope to be sexual right up till the day I buy the farm! lol
 ForRumOnly
Joined: 3/16/2009
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Posted: 5/28/2012 6:54:54 AM
Just as men vary widely in their sexual desire and ability in this age group, so do women. Some enjoy sex for its own sake, some enjoy sex in a relationship, some enjoy sex with the right person, some will seldom be interested/capable no matter how right their partner is (due to many factors), and some could care less about sex at all, ever. Even those who love sex may differ vastly in the frequency which they find satisfying.

At this age, there are many, many single (divorced) men and women seeking relationships. As always, the difficulty is finding someone compatible in the ways each finds important. That takes time, patience, and persistence, and probably many failures along the way.
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 5/28/2012 8:06:14 AM
and I have yet to meet a man in his 50's that wants sex as often as I do......

It's funny.......because I find sex with a man of my age to be the best sex I've had......they are absolutely wonderful lovers......but they seem content with just having sex once a week.

So men aren't the only ones having difficulty finding a compatible partner at this age..........
 Sirenara
Joined: 8/7/2011
Msg: 12
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Posted: 5/28/2012 8:53:11 AM
Funnily enought the last conversation I had with my gf she was complaining that her 50 something partner didn't want sex as often as her.

I have had no complaints myself so the OP may be fishing in the wrong pond.........
 Pinky127
Joined: 1/7/2012
Msg: 13
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Posted: 5/28/2012 8:59:54 AM

the world is full of fifty plus women that love to have relationships...most of then love to have sexual relationships...


^^^ Amen to that!!!!
All my girlfriends who are in their 40's and 50's are all very sexual,passionate women who LOVE sex but they're looking for it in the confines of a relationship and not a FWB situation.
Sex has gotten waay better for me in my 40's and i really believe older women are rarin' to go when they're with the 'right' man
 windchymes
Joined: 11/29/2008
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Posted: 5/28/2012 9:13:59 AM
I'm in my 50's and would very much enjoy a wild and crazy sex life with someone my age. What I have found in the past few years, however, is that most of the men my age that I have dated have forgotten about things like body hygiene, dental hygiene, foreplay, both mental and physical, honesty about who and what they are and what they do, what are acceptable amounts of alcohol to drink in one evening (or day), they still have emotional attachments to past relationships, and so on. Some have forgotten how to kiss and go right to grabbing. One showed up for a first meet dressed in the dusty, paint-spattered clothes he wore while remodeling and smelled like he hadn't seen a bathroom in days.

Yes, we want to have sex, too, but please, be someone we WANT to have sex with. I'm sure that applies to women, too, I'm not trying to bash one gender here. Hopefully, I've just had a string of bad luck.....
 OneOnOwn
Joined: 1/1/2012
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Posted: 5/28/2012 10:08:32 AM
Im surprised that many on here want to have a sex life at all considering the lifestyles many claim they have.
What with dancing, ceroc , zumba horse rising , gym, pilates, swimming, rambling (walking not the talking ) visiting friends and family, granchildren and the one thing never mentioned the electro-mechanical toy.
I have had several relationships where they are suddenly booked up to go on city breaks with female friends or weeks away in Spain with ceroc.
While many claim that they would like a relationship they really have their life mapped out so much that a man could only be fitted in for a day or 2 a week.
 cafutwo
Joined: 2/13/2009
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Posted: 5/28/2012 10:12:20 AM
WHERE are looking? Women of this age are in there prime!!! You must be looking in all the wrong places, there are plenty out there.
 OneOnOwn
Joined: 1/1/2012
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Posted: 5/28/2012 11:10:46 AM
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Might be a culture difference or something to do with the UK weather but you only have to read the UK ladies profiles to see I covered most of the points !! In all my dates , and they have been numerous, I could count the number who want a relationship on one hand . They don't need a man full time !! They don't do casual. They are happy in their own little world.
 scubaman47
Joined: 12/24/2010
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Posted: 5/28/2012 11:47:35 AM
Wow Ms Micki, get in touch. I'm not even content with once a day most of the time.
 egowitch
Joined: 6/5/2011
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Posted: 5/28/2012 12:13:15 PM
Certainly you're not alone ! Anyone who favors regular/daily - or more, sexual activity often has trouble finding a partner that matches up , regardless of their age.

I'm closer to 60, and just as uh ... "lively" as I was in my 20's - with a whole lot more knowledge as well !

Finding a suitable man of any legal age that is healthy and active (wink) , has been a challenge .

One simply has to stay hopeful , and keep on looking !

You may want to include older women in your search as well ...
 MutedEnthusiasm
Joined: 7/8/2011
Msg: 20
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Posted: 5/28/2012 12:19:07 PM

I have asked them and they say that if you go long enough, you don't even miss it?

True. But the first hundred years are the hardest.
 johnlondonsingle
Joined: 8/8/2010
Msg: 21
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Posted: 5/28/2012 1:36:52 PM
thanks for this topic, i voted not to delete it.
so many times you come across stereotypes such as,'over 50 and seeking sex on the internet, dirty old man',
this seems really unfair because men can father children into their 80s.
on the other hand, going onto the internet IN ORDER TO FIND sex woud make the person a dirty old man, it depends upon the intention
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
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Posted: 5/28/2012 2:48:38 PM
OP, for the most part, it IS the other way arround, its the 50 year old men that are having a hard(not), time keeping up
it is not because men can't, they could, but, stress, over work, over medicating, and being lazy, is causing men to be have a hard time getting an erection
my dad's generation, had non of these problems, I can remember, much older people still being very passionate
so, walk,know, what is enough,get, wants and needs taken care of, and think naughty thoughts about your SO!!
much better then drinking beer, and watching sports!!!
 oogiewoogie
Joined: 7/13/2008
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Posted: 5/28/2012 3:39:36 PM
Sure beats the hell out of masturbating and besides, most of the women I've had responses from are what I consider Born Again Virgins. At least they like you to believe they are.
 five-marie
Joined: 7/31/2011
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Posted: 5/28/2012 4:50:07 PM
I've got to admit that it takes more to interest me as I age. If I'm not widely attracted to him I'm likely to have dozens of excuses to not sleep with him.
I'm also less willing to help them live out their frantic " gotta try this before I die" porn fantasies.
One man I was in a relationship with would pour me drink after drink encouraging me to "relax", have me dress up in a sexy nightie he had bought me, turn on a porn and then I was supposed to perform. So boring, predictable. No foreplay, just action!
(The one porn was a take on Who's the Boss? sitcom and so far from a turn on it was pathetic.)
If a man over 50 still has no idea what turns a woman on they may well blame all women for being frigid. All the men I've dated had healthy sexual appetites, most with no physical problems. Those with problems looked into ways to fix it.
If everyone I dated had the same issue I'd have to look at myself as maybe being part of the problem.
 Plenty_of_FreeTime
Joined: 10/26/2011
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Posted: 5/28/2012 5:11:29 PM
I think if you and your partner have both stayed pretty active and healthy in your later extra formative years,
then the sex part can stay pretty active too....if you've become rather sedentary, then your sex life probably follows suit.
Diet and exercise becomes even more important the older we get! IMO
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