| | What dose it mean when a girl says this?Page 1 of 2 (1, 2) | Hi need some advice, thanks.
Been seeing this girl since march 2012. Ive totaly fallen for her :) It seemed like she shared the same feelings:D
Last seen her a week ago now. I had the feeling she didnt seem herself. Later the next day, online, i asked her. Said all is fine. I then asked her if she liked the idea of being my GF? She says 'I dont want to dissapont you'. What dose this mean?
I then asked if we are together or not, she didnt want to anser. Im meeting her tomorrow If a feeling it might be last i see of her:(
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| What dose it mean when a girl says this?
Posted: 6/4/2012 1:23:51 PM | www.earlyaviators.com/ewatspre.htm
It means that she lives in the present, not 100 years ago.
I then asked if we are together or not, she didnt want to anser. Im meeting her tomorrow If a feeling it might be last i see of her. What can i do?
You can learn from the past, and not attempt to bring anything from the past into the present..
She has obviously found someone else, and you should too. Start by being real and not trying to hide your true self.
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| What dose it mean when a girl says this?
Posted: 6/4/2012 1:26:10 PM | Brace yourself...somethings up.
She either has an interest in someone else or wants to pull back.
Just ask her to be honest with you.
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| What dose it mean when a girl says this?
Posted: 6/4/2012 1:26:32 PM |
Im meeting her tomorrow If a feeling it might be last i see of her:(
What can i do?
don't be surprised if she texts you to tell you she can't make it, or just flat doesn't show. | |
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| What dose it mean when a girl says this?
Posted: 6/4/2012 1:28:14 PM | What does "dose" mean?
In other questions of "what can i do?", ask her when you see her tomorrow. If she doesn't want to answer, then don't waste time on her. She sounds flaky and seems like she will be a PITA to deal with. | |
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| What dose it mean when a girl says this?
Posted: 6/4/2012 1:31:24 PM | You pushed the wrong button.....and now she knows what you want, and for her, she does not want the same or is not ready for it......so, she will not show up, or dump you if she does. I would give her the out now by calling or emailing her and telling her that if she needs some time and space, you are good with it and you just want the best for her.
Let her know that the choice is hers and just just let you know, and then if she does not respond.....stay home and start looking again.
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| What dose it mean when a girl says this?
Posted: 6/4/2012 1:31:31 PM | | I am thinking t means one of two things: She doesn't share the same feelings as you or she does share the same feelings but is holding something back she hasn't told you about. Either way she is unable to say that you two are together. All you can do is ask her what she means and hope for the best. Good luck. | |
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| What dose it mean when a girl says this?
Posted: 6/4/2012 1:34:40 PM | | Should also say it was her that wanted to meet. Better in person she says. At least she has some respect for me rather that a text dump. | |
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| What dose it mean when a girl says this?
Posted: 6/4/2012 1:48:11 PM | May I make a suggestion -- don't meet her at your house...
If things go bad, you will be unable to leave (and you may wish to).
Somewhere semi public that has a quiet spot is the kind of location you are after.
Best of Luck with your meeting (it may not be bad news, but at least you are prepared that it might be -- you aren't walking into anything blindly) | |
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| What dose it mean when a girl says this?
Posted: 6/4/2012 4:10:25 PM | | I suppose the best thing you can do is to not worry too much or jump to any conclusions until you have more information. Resist the urge to feel insecure. Shore up your self-confidence and set your mind on a positive self image before you two meet. Maybe she's thinking of running off and joining the circus and she has to leave town in a few days. She doesn't want you to be disappointed, but hopes you'll understand. Hopefully, you'll at least have a better idea where you stand with her tomorrow. After two months of dating it would be nice to know if you are just friends or if she sees a future with you. | |
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RT_2
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| What dose it mean when a girl says this?
Posted: 6/4/2012 7:06:33 PM | She might cancel or stand you up, otherwise:
Don't waste any $ on her.
Ask her to take a photo of you. After she hands you back your camera and you verify the pics look usable, thank her for taking the pics.
Make a cautious move. She will probably decline. She might say, "Let's be friends".
Put your new pix up on this site. You're free and looking. | |
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| What dose it mean when a girl says this?
Posted: 6/4/2012 7:18:55 PM | | Well OP, guess I'm alone in my opinion here, but I wouldn't necessarily buy in w/ all your chicken littles and detractors quite yet. Humans have a funny way of making up a story to reject themself in preparation for how the other (drumroll...) might hurt them. I think it could ALSO be possible she isn't moving at the same pace about you as you are about her. She wants to make sure you know all of her before investing her heart and committing to you, which is wise and mature. I've read many a thread of a woman wanting to have time to get to know the lad and the guy wants to race ahead and claim exclusivity on the prized female. Give her credit-she called the meeting, so she's not avoiding you either, in fact she's respecting you. Clear yourself of preconcieved notions and defenses and show up willing to listen. Maybe you'll be relieved you showed up willing to be open and curious :) Dont start a war yet-just breathe, ok Bud ;) | |
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tjl503
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| What dose it mean when a girl says this?
Posted: 6/4/2012 7:38:51 PM | You asked her though text if she wanted to be bf/gf and she said "I don't want to disappoint you" That's definitely not a good answer, she's basically saying I don't want to say no to you right now. Then you text her are we bf/gf or not and no answer to that. That's not good, call her. You're 30 years old, don't ask girls stuff like this through text. You could have avoided this if you asked her face to face and now she has you wondering what's up.
Bad news is bad news, why meet her in person to get kicked to the curb? How about you pick up the phone and talk to her instead of texting. Tell her that her answer has been really bothering you and when you asked if that was a yes she didn't answer. Ask her to be straight up with you, does she want to continue seeing you or not. If a girl said that to me I would ask for clarification not wait for a date and time for her to tell me. Call her. | |
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| What dose it mean when a girl says this?
Posted: 6/4/2012 7:46:08 PM | If I had to guess, most likely there's something, a secret, that she hasn't wanted to tell you for fear of scaring you away, but when you brought up the GF thing, she realized it was time to fess up, which is seldom a pleasant experience for any of the involved.
She might just not be ready for the idea of an official boy friend, and need some reassurance.
If it's the former, please try to react with understanding. If she's been hiding something, it could be something deeply shameful to her. Even if it did turn out to be a dealbreaker, be kind and appreciate her honesty,
If she's just scared, don't push her. That never goes well.
Good luck to you! | |
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| What dose it mean when a girl says this?
Posted: 6/4/2012 7:50:07 PM | | I think she has either already started seeing someone else or she doesn't feel the same way you do. Either way if you continue to invest your time in this, you're fighting a losing battle and there's no point in keeping up because the longer you do the worse you'll feel. Cut your losses and move on while you can. | |
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| What dose it mean when a girl says this?
Posted: 6/4/2012 9:23:39 PM | That was her answer! I don't want to be your girlfriend. I don't want to disappoint you by you asking me to be your girlfriend save yourself the trouble of asking me. Either way you read it it says.
I'm really not interested in going further in the relationship.... so don't ask. | |
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| What dose it mean when a girl says this?
Posted: 6/4/2012 9:47:00 PM | She doesn't want to be your GF, that's what that means. 90% of the time, it's a lost cause, if that's your one and only goal. 10% of the time, it's because you're coming on too strong and want more, quickly than she does.
That feeling that she didn't seem herself, and haven't seen her in a week, and have been otherwise seeing her for over 2 months where her feelings were at least at a good level... and THEN when asked that, she answers that way? Yeah, you know how she feels.
What you can do is something along these lines:
"Hey, if I've come on too strong, I want you to know that I'm not wanting to push the envelope or jump into any big serious relationship. I have strong feelings, yes, and I'm not trying to join at the hip. Seriously, I'm not, and I don't want to, because two people should be on the same page, same pace, even if it's taking things one step at a time. But at the same time, it has been over 2 months, and at this point I don't want to linger in a kinda-seeing-each-other limbo, either. So, I just want to settle things and not let awkwardness linger for either of us -- Are you in, or are you out?"
If she doesn't answer or shys away, don't let her... don't get angry, just be firm & cool... and say things in a way with a half smile a good amount of the time to not make it a solemn mood, but solidly mean it at the same time. If at first shyness on her part, just tell her you Want to hear her say things that You Don't want to hear, and that you're comfortable with it. If she refuses all the way not to say anything or really respond & play games that way, just let her know that you're not into playing games and you take that as she losing her interest, and that you can't respect that just as much as she can't respect a guy with little self respect to go through that. Be decisive.
Your chances aren't good -- but honestly, don't settle to "still have a chance" (or so it seems - lol) by her telling you kinda canned responses that are vague but seem like a door's still open. Even though in the short term that's a great feeling when you seem doom ahead, you're just borrowing money at 200% interest. It's not like it's been 2 weeks.... it's been over 2 months, you're past the point of up-in-the-air. | |
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| What dose it mean when a girl says this?
Posted: 6/4/2012 9:58:29 PM | She's interested in another guy and probably seeing someone else, sorry to say it.
Are you just having sex with this girl or are you two in a formal committed relationship with a spoken aloud understanding of exclusivity?
Some of the advice above to meet in a public place is a very good one. Not just so you have somewhere to go, but consider again that you are the man. All she has to do is cry, make any accusation and call the police and you are guilty. Doesn't matter what you did or did not do, you will be treated as guilty.
When you meet her, don't say anything, let her talk. Just stare her in the eyes, lock on, and wait for her to talk. If she's giving you some lame mumbo jumbo, ask her directly if she's breaking up with you. If she says yes, make her say it out loud and firmly. Sorry, maybe I'm just old school, but I believe if someone wants out of a relationship, they should have the guts to say so to your face directly without any of the hee hawing and mincing of words.
No matter what happens, try no to look deeply into her words. Odds are she won't be telling you the whole truth, the only truth you need to know is she wants nothing to do with you anymore and it's time to move on. Remember to keep your cool, don't raise your voice and be the bigger person. Don't show anger or jealousy or any other emotion in front of her. Don't let her see you cry. Be calm, keep your voice level and don't ask why shes doing what she is doing, any answer will be horseshit anyway. If you did love her, say you loved her and you wish her happiness and then leave. Don't shake her hand. It's ok for anyone to break up with you. It's not ok for someone to sneak out behind your back. Shaking her hand says it's ok to sneak behind your back.
Then never ever speak to her again. If are a good guy, one day she'll regret leaving a good guy, but by then you will have moved on to better things.
Time heals all wounds. Just give it time. I'm sorry this happened to you, for what that's worth. | |
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