| | How to woo a guy without seeming desperatePage 1 of 1 | I tend to over-show interest and scare guys away. I just get really excited to talk to my crush so I can talk a lot. I try to take my time and let the guy come to me, but I guess I try too hard. What advice do you have for wooing a guy without being too "much"?
What's the best way to attract a guy? | |
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| How to woo a guy without seeming desperate
Posted: 6/10/2012 8:06:13 PM | The best way to attract anyone is to be yourself and hopefully that is a sexy, sensual, intelligent you that exudes all those "things", that the one you are with wants to enjoy. This is not rocket science, and attraction and chemistry will speak volumes for what is to be or not........that ever alluding next part that involves compatibility, will determine if you are short term or much much longer term.
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| How to woo a guy without seeming desperate
Posted: 6/10/2012 8:28:46 PM | I remember years ago there was an article talked about on a morning radio show. It was really more about how to keep a guy attracted and wanting to do things for you. I can't remember it exactly, but it went something like this...
1. Compliment a man's appearance. Everyone likes to think they look good.
2. Compliment his intelligence. Even if it's something lame to you, like how he debugged a computer, fixed a car, or worked through any problem. You can something like, "wow, that's pretty smart, I didn't know you knew that"!
3. I know there was a 3rd thing, I'm not recalling it though, but I'm sure it was complimenting something! Probably a work ethic or morals or something... Not sure.
Really it's all just positive reenforcement. Tell him he's important to you by acknowledging the things he does. He loves the recognition, so he continues the good behavior. It does work, I dated a woman about a year or so before I heard all this on the radio, and she did exactly all of this. Who doesn't like a woman that appreciates what a great guy you are! ha ha | |
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| How to woo a guy without seeming desperate
Posted: 6/10/2012 8:53:22 PM | Wouldn't you rather attract a guy that is going to accept that about you?
Rather than tailor and manipulate yourself in order to manipulate a desired response from him?
What's the best way to attract a guy?
You can go about it 2 ways.
You can be yourself, and with lots of time and patience and learning about yourself find one that absolutely adores that.
Or you can keep trying to tailor yourself to specific guys. Being what you think they want. Being something, but putting something up to hide what is the real you.
The problem with tailoring is eventually the seams wear thin and break, and you are back to square one.
Not to mention it starts you onto habits that you may use towards others that will not work, but if you were yourself it would have worked.
And there is the problem of having to constantly update your tailoring.
You can only add so many bows to coveralls before there is too much stress and it all falls apart. | |
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| How to woo a guy without seeming desperate
Posted: 6/10/2012 10:37:39 PM | | Just be yourself ! Being or acting differant around him.. could slip into something you really weren't ready for. Maybe just " Pace " yourself ...Or just "slow " down ??? | |
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| How to woo a guy without seeming desperate
Posted: 6/10/2012 10:45:42 PM |
I just get really excited to talk to my crush so I can talk a lot.
What's the best way to attract a guy?
The best way to attract a guy is to pay attention. Ask him about himself and let him talk. Listen, tell him something about yourself and ask him some more. Then tell him the joke about the lady with the talking leg. | |
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| How to woo a guy without seeming desperate
Posted: 6/10/2012 11:12:50 PM | I just play it straight. be yourself and dont try too hard. Just be fun and nice and enjoyable to be around.
but most of all PICK THE RIGHT GUY to do it with. | |
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| How to woo a guy without seeming desperate
Posted: 6/11/2012 8:15:30 AM | Pick up the phone..
"Hello?"
"Hi is this joebobfrank? This is amyjanelady!"
"Oh hi how are you?"
"I'm great, I have half a pound of bacon in the skillet you should come by."
Bam!!!! Love.
[Edit] bacon is the bait, the "right guy" will say yes please when you offer more ;).
If you're interested in the guy and its only been 2 days let it flow. | |
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| How to woo a guy without seeming desperate
Posted: 6/11/2012 8:29:27 AM | | show intrest in gu y tell him like see him again/find him attractive.dont do this sublte flirting lark we just dont get it,(read book why women never forget+ why men cant remember). men need direct orders, womens brains bigger part than mens devoted to non verbal communication(think babys) | |
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| How to woo a guy without seeming desperate
Posted: 6/11/2012 3:50:30 PM | | the best way to attract a guy is to go out with him but refuse to have sex. That alone will make you unique and more interesting than 95% of the girls out there. | |
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| How to woo a guy without seeming desperate
Posted: 6/11/2012 7:50:45 PM | | By looking super attractive in their presence, acting sweet and charming and by letting THEM chase YOU. If they don't take the aforementioned bait and chase you, then they are just not physically attracted and without physical attraction there is nothing you can do to make them interested, so you need to just accept it and move on. ;) | |
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| How to woo a guy without seeming desperate
Posted: 6/11/2012 11:16:12 PM | I actually wouldnt do that - If a girl is intentionally playing hard to get, that also qualifies as trying too hard, and they tend to overdue it.
I'm just gonna spitball here and guess that you MIGHT have asked the guy to "define" the relationship, probably with a text, or a question along the lines of "so....what are "we"?"
Tip: Don't ever do this. It forces the guy to make a choice, and I guarantee he'll make the one you don't want. Your best bet is to find a guy that needs to be needed as much as you need him. The way you do your business is probably exactly what a certain kind of guy wants - some of us need extra attention. Concentrate on those guys.
Best of luck to you - hope this helps | |
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