| | How people get to a first meet. Deal breaker?Page 1 of 3 (1, 2, 3) | I just wanted to get people's opinions on this. You set up a date you are going to be arriving seperately. Is it a huge
deal if people take transit to a first meet and not drive their cars?
Should it be of the man's/woman's concern of how you arrive to that first meet? | |
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| How people get to a first meet. Deal breaker?
Posted: 6/10/2012 8:22:48 PM | Wouldn't bother me but the reason may be a game changer. I live in a car dependent area.
That being said.
If you live in an area there are subways, taxis all over, buses, etc... then it would be another matter.
In my area, no car...
you go no where and fast. Must have car to survive in some places. If you live in an area with mass transit, guess it wouldn't be a big deal
The devil is always in the details and you give no details OP. | |
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| How people get to a first meet. Deal breaker?
Posted: 6/10/2012 8:43:41 PM | | No it's not a problem for the first date but once they find out you have no vehicle they won't want to taxi you around next date. It's a dealbreaker, we all have or had those friends who always needed a ride. You need a car to successfully date. You can't do much on the spur of the moment when you don't have a car on your date, you can't say hey lets go across town for mini golf, you'll have to drive. again and again and again, but it's ok you can drop me off at the bus stop at 2 in the morning. My date wouldn't be taking a bus. | |
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| How people get to a first meet. Deal breaker?
Posted: 6/10/2012 9:15:33 PM | | As long as they don't come on a motorcycle, whatever. Walking, driving, bussing, taxi.. all fine. I just don't like motorcycles. I would still give the guy a chance though if he came on one, I wouldn't leave the date immediately. | |
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| How people get to a first meet. Deal breaker?
Posted: 6/10/2012 9:17:15 PM | I do think that this is a geography question.... where I live you can only marginally be successful with public transportation... so to not have a car would be problematic...
I had an ex that loved public transportation and even though he had a car he would take the bus.... so... on dates I ended up driving... because I don't like being tied to a schedule for buses or trains.... he would bus or train to my house... and then I would drive from there.... and the same when he went home... I would get him to my house and he would bus it home... there would be times he would have to wait an hour for the bus... which doesn't work for me... | |
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| How people get to a first meet. Deal breaker?
Posted: 6/10/2012 10:15:35 PM |
Should it be of the man's/woman's concern of how you arrive to that first meet?
it SHOULDN'T, but don't be shocked if it is. there was a thread here from an outraged woman whose main gripe was the guy showed up on a moped. | |
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| How people get to a first meet. Deal breaker?
Posted: 6/10/2012 10:21:50 PM | I met a guy for coffee once, after we said goodbye he followed me to my car. I thought maybe he was just trying to be a gentleman or something? But he just stood at the passenger side, staring at me expectantly. That's when he told me he didn't drive (he was 41) and could I give him a ride home?
I would have vastly preferred that he simply walk off toward public transit than THAT. | |
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| How people get to a first meet. Deal breaker?
Posted: 6/11/2012 1:38:25 AM | | i agree with msg 2. in the state i live in, u need a car but u can take the transit its just shitty as long as its local u can get there no problems but if its 25 miles, yea good luck. | |
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| How people get to a first meet. Deal breaker?
Posted: 6/11/2012 3:13:03 AM | I don't think it matters how you get to where ever you have planned to meet - the key point is how YOU get there. No one wants to be an unpaid taxi service for others especially when they hardly know them. Just ensure you are there and on time.
May I ask if there is any reason why you are arriving on public transport when you state that you have a vehicle ?
I don't know anyone who has a car and opts to use public transport unless they are meeting in a city where parking can be a challenge. In this area, we have many 'park and ride' locations where someone can park their vehicle without cost and take public transport into the main town. Is this the case ?
Many people are highly alert when meeting someone new who contacted them over the internet. With no mutual friends who can verify that this person is trustworthy, many look for any small indication that the person they are meeting is not who they implied they were. Arriving on public transport to a coffee shop which has ample free parking outside might raise a question mark for some. | |
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| How people get to a first meet. Deal breaker?
Posted: 6/11/2012 4:28:51 AM | i am confused by your question....if i arrive for a date in most cases it is valet parking or trying to find a place within five blocks.........so how would my date know how i got there
after the date being a gentleman i would walk my date to her car, watch her drive off into the sunset, then walk to my car... .... ... so here again how would she know how i came
but if you mean she asked if i was driving to the meet?!? well that (in my mind) would send signals that it was make, model, and year would come next....this women also would not know how i got to my dates...she would not be one of them!
bonne chance | |
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| How people get to a first meet. Deal breaker?
Posted: 6/11/2012 6:22:05 AM | | Both are meeting at a certain place at a certain time. As long as you are on time and in the right place, mode of transportation isn't relevant - and never should be, unless one's lack of it ever affect's the other one's time or resources. | |
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| How people get to a first meet. Deal breaker?
Posted: 6/11/2012 6:30:38 AM | ^^^If you don't know the area, perhaps you should scope out the area a day before the meet. Even if you don't have a GPS, you can still print out a map of the area from Google or Mapquest complete with detailed instructions on how to get there and back.
It's not a huge deal as long as you're planning on leaving the same way you arrived. Expecting the other person to give you a ride back is being a bit presumptuous. | |
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| How people get to a first meet. Deal breaker?
Posted: 6/11/2012 6:49:19 AM | I didnt say that but people always have a habit of assuming things and seeing things in their mind that arent even there.
You know what assuming does right guys?
It makes an Ass out of you! | |
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| How people get to a first meet. Deal breaker?
Posted: 6/11/2012 6:53:55 AM | I prefer to show up to my date on the back of my 90 year old Sherpa from Nepal. Hey first impressions are everything.
I then ask the woman if she has a strong back. | |
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| How people get to a first meet. Deal breaker?
Posted: 6/11/2012 7:00:03 AM | | Depends on the reason(s) why they didn't use a car. It's possible that a person let a friend/relative borrow the car, the car is being repaired at an auto shop, a person didn't want to drive after drinking etc. However it could be a dealbreaker for many people if a person doesn't have a car and lives in an area where public transportation doesn't exist or is limited at best. | |
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| How people get to a first meet. Deal breaker?
Posted: 6/11/2012 7:06:24 AM | Where did the OP say he was expecting the other person to give him a ride? I'm not seeing it here, but perhaps I haven't had enough coffee.
OP didn't - that was more of a reference to Shakti's post.
Back to the OP, sometimes things don't always go as planned. What if the meet went longer than expected and you miss the last ride back? | |
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