| | Guys, is masturbating 5x a day abnormal in your 30s??Page 1 of 6 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6) | I'd been talking with a guy in his mid-30s for 6 weeks. He had previously told me that he has problems with a high sex drive and wanting sex a lot more than women he has dated. After we got together, he told me he masturbates 5 times a day. If he stops for a day or two the next time he does it is much more intense. I think that all the masturbation is making him less responsive to me.
Guys, how excessive is 5 times a day?
I'm also wondering how much stimulation it typically takes a guy to be hard enough for intercourse in his 30s or 40s. | |
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| Guys, is masturbating 5x a day abnormal in your 30s??
Posted: 6/13/2012 4:47:03 PM | I don't think it is excessive. Many days I do it 5 times--twice in the morning, once mid-day, once right before bed and then again in a couple of hours to fall asleep. Sometimes more. But when there is other stuff going on it will distract me so it won't be as much. Like I just started a penis enlargement program so I have to allot a couple hours before and after the workout before whacking it.
Doesn't take much stimulation at all. Usually just seeing a hottie does it (like walking down the street), but it even gets ready when doing things like washing dishes. Problem with going more than a day or two is it can get too hard and can be painful. | |
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| Guys, is masturbating 5x a day abnormal in your 30s??
Posted: 6/13/2012 4:50:14 PM | i would guess that 5 times is excessive a bit,,,,the most i can do is like 3 times and i am almost 50..........but ya,,,i would say that is above the norm but a valuable lesson for you ladies out there especially the ones who insist they have the same kind of sex drive men do,,,,,
you don't,,,on the average,,,,you just don';t,,no where near actually,,,,,i hear women can go years without sex,,,,,as this post makes clear,,,,men,,cannot seem to go one hour
think about it
carry on ,,,,,lol | |
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| Guys, is masturbating 5x a day abnormal in your 30s??
Posted: 6/13/2012 4:57:22 PM | | masterbating is natural. For a guy that has a high sex drive, its normal to rub on off as to say. But 5 times a day, that is a bit much. So does he get hard for you? Can he please you? For me it dosent take much stimulation to get up. And i am almost 50. Is he saying you dont give him enough, like is he presuring you. U guess as long as it isnt interfearing in what you two have goen on then whats the harm | |
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| Guys, is masturbating 5x a day abnormal in your 30s??
Posted: 6/13/2012 4:58:59 PM | My gut feeling is that it may be excessive, but it depends on the individual. The main consideration should be whether it negatively affects other parts of his life. It he is continually worn out to the point he is unable to function normally, it may be excessive. If he also spends hours upon hours looking at porn to facilitate his arousal, that may be problematic.Also consider if he is thoughtful, caring, honest, responsible, and possesses other good qualities.
I have read that excessive masturbation can make it more difficult for a man to become aroused when engaging in intercourse. How true this is, I am not prepared to say. I recommend you do a Google search. There is a tremendous amount of information (of varying quality) available. | |
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| Guys, is masturbating 5x a day abnormal in your 30s??
Posted: 6/13/2012 6:39:00 PM | It is taking what I think is a long time for him to get aroused.Like 10 minutes of a hand job with lube for two minutes of sex. I waited 15 minutes, and started lightly kissing with a little bit of a hand job. My thing is that if a guy doesn't respond, I'd normally take a break and not put pressure on him. He wanted to have me keep trying with hand and oral for over an hour. He was touching me too , but mutual masturbation makes me think of teenagers that won't go all the way. And then once he was hard enough to penetrate me he didn't take long.
I was thinking of asking him to stop masturbating for a day before we have a date. I have no objection to having multiple rounds of sex in a day, I just don't want stimulating him for foreplay to be an awkward chore.
He seems like a nice guy and we can at least carry on decent conversations.
If I were to try masturbating 5 times a day to orgasm, I'd have to use a vibrator to overdo pressure and make myself less sensitive later on. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2012 7:09:43 PM |
Guys, how excessive is 5 times a day?
For me? Pretty excessive. I have a job.
For this guy I know from Nantucket? Not excessive at all.
I'm also wondering how much stimulation it typically takes a guy to be hard enough for intercourse in his 30s or 40s.
How exactly are we to relate that to you?
"Well, in his 30's or 40's means 20 schovilthermaunits is about standard, plus or minus 6 thaumargies."
Or are you looking for something more graphic?
"Well, on an average circumcised penis, say 6-7 inches long, 1-3 inches width, from base of pelvis to tip without any weird Clinton leanings, it should achieve maximum torpidity or turgidity for optimum penetration at around 3 inches into the mouth for 1.25 minutes."
Or maybe "Topless, but no more than bottomless. If you have to go bottomless before maximum woodness is achieved then he may want to contact a physician."
Or are you into weird things?
What kind of stimulation are you using? Satin or sandpaper? | |
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| Guys, is masturbating 5x a day abnormal in your 30s??
Posted: 6/13/2012 7:10:08 PM |
I'm also wondering how much stimulation it typically takes a guy to be hard enough for intercourse in his 30s or 40s.
Depends on who's doing the stimulating.
If a guy is really into a woman, and she's up for it when he is, then I don't see the point of masturbation. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2012 7:29:53 PM |
He seems like a nice guy and we can at least carry on decent conversations.
High standards I see.
So I'm being put down because I'm not seeking out jerks who treat me badly? Or just going for a guy who is hot but a moron that I can't carry on a conversation with?
I'm deliberately not looking for a soulmate/LTR/husband right now because I'm applying to grad schools and moving away in a year. And also dealing with the aftermath of being involved with a guy who really wasnt interested in sex, but wanted to get drunk, kiss a little, and cuddle naked in my bed. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2012 7:36:57 PM | yes hes unbalanced, its an emotinal thing n hes needy, needs to do eq work n find balance- hes no good 4 a rel, ok as a friend or a sex partner.
a look a pose a few words should do it, or a slightrun on fingers on a thigh, but if hes wasting all his energy on mas ven its a prob. gl. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2012 8:11:12 PM | If he is masturbating so much there cant be much left for real sex with a woman, I wouldnt think. It is a habit with him by now. I agree with you, mental stimulation as well as physical is important.
Your previous guy had a low libido and may have had underlying health issues and I would not be involved with such a guy at all. However, that was your choice. If you are looking for FWB as you are moving away, then there are many men that will be up for that. If this guy does not want to satisfy you sexually, move on. | |
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| Guys, is masturbating 5x a day abnormal in your 30s??
Posted: 6/13/2012 8:31:43 PM | | Yes, five times is a lot. Even on E that would have to be spread out through an entire 24 hours. I usually put the ol' hand away when I have a girlfriend I see often though. Five times a day on top of what you're giving him? That's just crazy. He did say he had a high sex drive, on a lazy sunday with my girl I'd be happy if I got four times in and that's pushing it. He shouldn't need his hand if you're around. Tell him to relax and live life a little, turn on a porn and tell him that you want him inside you more and goddammit we're starting right now. Your hands are getting tired and it's a turn off for you that he spends more time with handplay then sticking it in your places. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2012 8:38:05 PM | Eh, the one thing both guys had in common was that they are bipolar.
The earlier guy was just a short infatuation because he was moving away. I don't know what his libido would be like when he wasn't depressed. It just intensely hurt when he was explaining that he didn't do relationships because they destabilize his mental health and don't end well. And denied that he was leading me on by climbing in bed with me naked instead of sleeping on the couch. He called the cat a****blocker and moved him off the bed. Chain smoking and alcoholism also lead to a low libido. | |
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| Guys, is masturbating 5x a day abnormal in your 30s??
Posted: 6/13/2012 9:20:54 PM | | I think he has some deep rooted misplaced sexual issues. He seems impulsive and to have no self control. Who wants to have to jerk a guy off for 10 mins to get him off because he masturbates himself all day?? | |
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| Guys, is masturbating 5x a day abnormal in your 30s??
Posted: 6/13/2012 9:21:52 PM | | Totally agree with TJ. Since he is with you now, it should be hands off (well, his hands anyways). But since you mention bi-polar, that sounds like what I've heard (for men and women). When happy they bang like bunnies and when sad couldn't care less about sex. I was thinking earlier that the two of you weren't quite to playing the hide the salami game. But jeez....beating it when he has a willing lady? Some people..... | |
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Posted: 6/14/2012 3:42:38 AM | Seems excessive to me...
If he is used to strong physical stimulation from all the masturbation, then he might be a little desensitized. That does happen. But he should be ale to tell you what he needs.
And yes, if he were to skip a few days he would be easier to stimulate but might also finish too early.
Of course any psychological hang-ups or anxiety could also be a problem when it comes to stimulation. Perhaps he is so used to going solo that a partner will take some getting used to. | |
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