| | If you could see user's inbox replies?Page 1 of 1 | (Men and Women) If you had a way to see anyone on POF's actual inbox replies..Do you think they would totally contrast what they claim on their profiles and how people portray themselves on the forums in what they are looking for as well as who they are actually replying to? (perhaps the more appealing to the eye?)
Do you think messages sent from various users who aren't 'photogenic' and from various who are very photogenic who sent the exact same well thought out or even copy and paste message would BOTH groups get a favorable reply or just the better looking of them? (Athletic, Aesthetically pleasing)
I'd like to hear your thoughts. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2012 6:09:35 PM | | I think the majority of people may just look on the outside before venturing to see if the inside is just as beautiful. For me it depends. If I get someone who may not have stepped out of GQ magazine sending me a note that ius thoughtful, then I'll respond. On the same note, if Mr. GQ sends an email that starts with "Hey sexy chick" and nothing else then they get deleted. Same thing in real world dating! :) | |
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Posted: 6/14/2012 6:27:35 PM |
I think the majority of people may just look on the outside before venturing to see if the inside is just as beautiful. For me it depends. If I get someone who may not have stepped out of GQ magazine sending me a note that ius thoughtful, then I'll respond. On the same note, if Mr. GQ sends an email that starts with "Hey sexy chick" and nothing else then they get deleted. Same thing in real world dating! :)
There is massive amounts of evidence to the contrary about who is responding to whom no matter what the message(s) are and what the actual conversations quickly become on various websites. I found it simply amazing how profile 'requirements' and claims get thrown right out the window the better the guy looks and more cut up he is no matter what air claims are made in 'public'. And yes. They do lift the entire conversations and post them for other people to read. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2012 6:41:22 PM | | as a woman I can tell you for a fact that men are visually motivated. When it's obvious they only care about my appearance and not who I am or anything in my profile, I am very unimpressed and disheartened...(and this just happened w/ a very outwardly attractive guy-the shallow aspect though, I just couldn't get past) | |
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Posted: 6/14/2012 6:51:30 PM |
as a woman I can tell you for a fact that men are visually motivated. When it's obvious they only care about my appearance and not who I am or anything in my profile, I am very unimpressed and disheartened...(and this just happened w/ a very outwardly attractive guy-the shallow aspect though, I just couldn't get past)
Again. After seeing literally hundreds of inbox conversation screen shots off POF, women are just as visually motivated whether the will admit it in 'public' or not. The evidence is right in their inbox conversations. (and it's men too.)
Most peoples profiles on POF are mearly 'fluff filler'.
There are countless men out there who are well aware of that fact and ARE pulling women off this site on a daily basis, rinse, cycle, repeat. True story. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2012 6:55:42 PM | | I'm defintely visual, i've noticed by looking at my convo history every guy is shirtless or is wearing a singlet and is muscley. I didn't even realise that till I scanned over it just now. Amazing | |
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Posted: 6/14/2012 7:14:28 PM | Years ago, I was dating a man who was initially OK, then he seemed suspect. He used my computer & left his password written on a piece of paper on my desk...I snooped...OMG he was such a liar, used the same lines/form letters on a bunch of women...even called us all "cupcake"...
Another man I dated years ago wanted to show me what a great guy he was, so he logged into his email in front of me to show me stuff...it was all staged, he had another email he used to troll for other women...it all came out later...
I stopped doing online dating after that, funny how both had a public persona that they were my BF, but privately had their "cheatmail"...
No more curiosity about anyone's inbox, cuz I aint going there anymore! | |
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Posted: 6/14/2012 7:25:06 PM |
Do you think they would totally contrast what they claim on their profiles and how people portray themselves on the forums in what they are looking for as well as who they are actually replying to?
I've never really interacted with someone, that I know of, that touted that aspect.
IME I've usually found people that have to brag, or complain, socially will use evidence they make up or take out of context in order to fit their world view.
Really, though, I don't see how being able to see someones inbox would change anything, at all.
Do you think messages sent from various users who aren't 'photogenic' and from various who are very photogenic who sent the exact same well thought out or even copy and paste message would BOTH groups get a favorable reply or just the better looking of them?
Depends on whom they sent it to.
Studies have shown the more attractive you are, the more favorable response you get, in pretty much every aspect of life.
I.E. employment.
Physical attraction causes chemical reactions.
Thousands of chemicals flood your system.
The more attraction "cues" are triggered, the more chemicals flood into your system.
For the majority of people that induces a behavioral response.
Giggle, play with your hair, clench your butts, tell a joke, smile, etc.
Why not respond to an email?
You jump when something scares you badly enough, right?
Do you jump every single time you feel even the tiniest bit of fear?
Sometimes do you punch out?
When you feel awe, which is partly fear, do you jump, or do you voice it?
Of course some people are taught to hide their emotional responses.
So if they get attention, they will shut down and try to make little to no responses.
People are trained differently, but the majority go along traditionally. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2012 7:34:20 PM |
Years ago, I was dating a man who was initially OK, then he seemed suspect. He used my computer & left his password written on a piece of paper on my desk...I snooped...OMG he was such a liar, used the same lines/form letters on a bunch of women...even called us all "cupcake"...
Another man I dated years ago wanted to show me what a great guy he was, so he logged into his email in front of me to show me stuff...it was all staged, he had another email he used to troll for other women...it all came out later...
I stopped doing online dating after that, funny how both had a public persona that they were my BF, but privately had their "cheatmail"...
No more curiosity about anyone's inbox, cuz I aint going there anymore!
I'll just say POF has gotten an infamous reputation in a few countries and there are many peoplein those countries who know full well of what the sites become and reasons most are joining. Texting conversations let alone certain 'pictures' sent on a continual daily basis aren't safe either. I'll leave it at that.
Hopefully people using POF or any online dating site will wise up. But unfortunately. I doubt it. After all. They did join the site with 'good' intentions on meeting the 'one'. Righto. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2012 4:06:47 AM |
I'll just say POF has gotten an infamous reputation in a few countries and there are many peoplein those countries who know full well of what the sites become and reasons most are joining. Texting conversations let alone certain 'pictures' sent on a continual daily basis aren't safe either. I'll leave it at that.
You mean fake emails from people that don't exist, trying to suck you into some kind of scam? | |
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Posted: 6/15/2012 7:45:07 AM |
Texting conversations let alone certain 'pictures' sent on a continual daily basis aren't safe either. I'll leave it at that.
You’ve been here only a week and already you’ve cracked the case. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2012 10:16:32 AM |
You’ve been here only a week and already you’ve cracked the case.
So one needs to be on POF 24/7 365 for 6 years or so to have 'figured' that out and can't possibly have heard about POF by being on other sites that have threads based off of POF and literally have users posting up screen shots of the inbox replies, the actual conversations, text message conversations from iPhones, and nude pictures sent from users of POF on a DAILY basis that's still going on today? Good God you people really are clueless. Though I'm sure from the views on this thread their are a few lurkers who know damn well what I'm saying is 100% true story. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2012 11:10:26 AM | Ive seen those forums where 'men' (and I use the term loosely) post actual screen shots of conversations whereby they humiliate women who were in contact with them. It looks like 'men' set up profiles with fake pics, and lure women who say they are looking for more than looks to engage in conversation, then slam them for being shallow, and on top of that, too fat and ugly to get a date with the 'man' in the profile...and then post it all for all to see, like some kind of trophy.
So what does this say?
Shocking...profiles that have pics of good looking people get attention, even from people who state they are not visually motiviated. True shock there.
It also says there are fake profiles on dating sites...wow, the shocks just keep coming.
In addition, it says there are some men who are so bitter because they dont get attention online that they resort to this type of behaviour. Again, knock me over with a feather. lolol
Bottom line, worry about how you handle your own inbox and mind your own business. Online is a visual medium, life aint fair and good looking people get romantic interest more than others. No one here is clueless, we just dont care what bitter people are up to. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2012 11:41:06 AM | Somehow an ex of mine got my password and after we broke up we remained friends, but she missed being with me, and she would read all my pof conversations. One day she said something she shouldn't have known - so then I changed my password. Afterward she confessed, she told me that it hurt her terribly to see me talking to other women, and she thanked me for changing the password because even though it hurt her to read it, she couldn't stop herself.
As for the topic, I think people are a lot more prim and proper on the outside and their inbox conversations would reveal more of their naughty side.
Thats the way it is with me at least :) | |
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Posted: 6/15/2012 11:53:33 AM | | I think that we are all driven by what catches our eye, with that said I think alot of men care little about the content of a women's character. I can only speak from my side of the dating thing. Looks can fade and if that is all you see, you will be very disappointed | |
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Posted: 6/16/2012 7:38:10 AM | My thought is that the experiment has a flawed design.
The exact same message from 1 cute guy + 1 not cute --
-- what kind of dumbass would anticipate women would pick not-cute over cute? Or try to contend it means something bad about them if they consistently pick cute, *all else being equal* (...if people even read messages before profiles which some don't)
A more useful comparison might have been to make the cute guy dumber or ruder than the not-cute and see if she still went for it.
And if she did -- so what?
For every woman you post tolerating rudeness from a cutey, you could also post one or more who doesn't put up with it.
If you wanted a fair representation. But that's not what this sounds like.
Sounds more like a group of bitter men who can't get or keep relationships, focusing on everything in the world to blame for it, other than their own sour attitudes. | |
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