| | Practical Joker or just plain crazy?? Page 1 of 1 | So I met this gentleman about three weeks ago(online here at POF ). We eventually spoke on the phone, which turned into a three hour conversation. During the conversation, he asked me to dinner the next night. I made arrangements for my small son, and sent him a quick text informing him of this. No reply. Tried calling a few hours later, no answer. Finally I heard from him about ten at night. He said he had been helping his parents and had no phone signal. He was to leave for his job on the oil rig in two days, so I figured we just ran out of time. Then, I logged onto my Facebook, only to discover that he deleted me. I wrote him and of course wanted to know why. He said it was Memorial weekend, and that it's a hard time for him. Huh?? But I once again gave benefit of the doubt. He goes to work and we talked more on Facebook chat; he sends me a picture of the sunset, tells me how he wishes I were there, and sweet dreams. The next day I wake, to discover he has deleted AND blocked me from Facebook as well as POF! Of course at this time I deleted his number from my phone and moved on. Last night I decided to turn in early, so I awoke about 2:30 am. There was a text from an unknown number. Went like this :
"Boo" with a picture of a bloody hand and a gun lying on a table.
I asked who it was.
"No one wants me"
Once again I asked who it was.
"Wish they did"
I said whoever it was shouldn't drink and play with guns.
"(Expletive) off"
I still didn't know who it was, and advised him I'd call my brother if he didn't stop harassing me. Then he finally told me who he was. And much more ....he began calling me filthy names and degrading me in general. This went on for quite awhile, and it finally stopped. I don't know whether to be angry or scared ....this man's profile seemed so legit ; he was looking for his forever lady, didn't want to be a friend with benefits, and he was an upgraded member. Has anyone else experienced this? Was he drunk? Is he psycho??? Could it be someone who felt slighted by me? Thoughts please!!!! | |
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| Practical Joker or just plain crazy??
Posted: 6/16/2012 6:25:28 AM | I am sorry this happened to you. This is the reason I don't add POF people to my facebook.
What would your brother have done? Do you know where this man lives? If he continues harassing you, report him to the police. | |
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Posted: 6/16/2012 6:46:41 AM | | Hi gcdeb, thank you for your reply. My brother would have stayed with me, I get a little scared as I'm a single mom living alone. All I know is this man lives in Pensacola, Bellview area. I've definitely learned my lesson. This guy talked a huge game, said I was his angel, that he loved me already, etc etc ...I'm betting on the crazy theory!! | |
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Posted: 6/16/2012 8:15:48 AM | First, be glad you didn't meet him.
Secondly, if this ever happens in the future DO NOT ENGAGE by responding - you're only giving them what they want. What you should do is call the police department and let them deal with it. | |
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| Practical Joker or just plain crazy??
Posted: 6/16/2012 9:16:22 AM | OP:
In your previous conversations with him, did you give him any identifying information - last name, street address/neighbourhood, where you work, anything???? If you did, please consider going to the police. KEEP the text he sent you, don't erase this. If he contacts you again, it's very important that you have evidence that he has contacted you and that you have evidence of the nature of his contact. This will help if the authorities need to put out a restraining order against him.
Please take this seriously.
This may be a drunk in the middle of the night situation or it could be a negative evolving situation...you don't know yet.
I'm very sorry this happened to you, it is awful. | |
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| Practical Joker or just plain crazy??
Posted: 6/16/2012 10:00:02 AM | Flaneur001:
He knows my last name. I'm unemployed at the moment, and he doesn't have my address ...already saved the message thread ...I'm completely freaked out. This has never happened to me before ...I just hope I've heard the last of him ... | |
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Posted: 7/20/2012 12:56:42 PM | Wow that is scary I agree with the previous posters this is why I am VERY cautious I dont even give out my real number I use a prepaid phone.
And I NEVER I repeat NEVER EVER add strangers on my fb waaaay too much I dont play that you must be more careful there are psychos out there. | |
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| Practical Joker or just plain crazy??
Posted: 7/21/2012 4:11:40 AM | If they know your last name and where about the city/town you live in. It takes someone about 5 mins with a computer to lear where you live, and you do not need to be a computer genis to figure it out - no costs involved.
If they are not good with computer, then $10-$25, he can purchase that information from one of many on-line sites. He just need to know your first & last name, (near -by city) approximate age, and sex. And with-in 30 mins he get an email with all your facts about you.
I do not understand why would anyone, male or female give out their last name, until they feel comfortable with the other person,,, &&&& have met in PERSON, at least once or twice! | |
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Posted: 7/21/2012 7:23:49 PM | First, the OP apparently has deleted her account so she'll never see this thread and responding to her is a waste of time. Second, read her original post, the beau gave several indications he was at best emotionally immature and at worse unstable yet she persisted.
I do not understand why would anyone, male or female give out their last name, until they feel comfortable with the other person,,, &&&& have met in PERSON, at least once or twice! Because one psycho deserves another. | |
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| Practical Joker or just plain crazy??
Posted: 7/26/2012 12:35:58 PM | Okay, this might be rough/severe, but you need to do it. Change your cell phone number, and if you have a land line, change that number, too. If you have your first name or address listed for your land line, change that to initials, and no address. I have found those to be very important. This man sounds very dangerous, you don't need that in your life.
I have talked to at least one man from POF I chose not to date, he was just scary to me, and not respectful of me in several ways. Better to be safe than sorry, still nice guys out there, better to stay away from the creepy/scary ones.
I'm sure other ladies here will have further tips and info on this matter. | |
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Posted: 8/21/2012 1:43:32 AM | | WOW... yea.. that guy has issues. Sounds to me like self hatred. I wouldn't worry about it, I mean... he HAD a GUN & rather than use it, he bloodied his hand and took a picture of it. Sounds like he wanted attention, wanted to show off and scare u or make u feel bad for him. But yea, you should get a gun and make sure you know how to use it. and get some mace or pepper spray to carry around. If u see your buddy around town spray him until the can's empty and then have him arrested. If you see him in your house shoot his (expletive) off and then have him arrested. That should do the trick. Don't blame yourself though, that whole ''memorial weekend is hard for me'' b.s. means he started this at least a year ago. | |
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