| | intimate encounters Page 1 of 4 (1, 2, 3, 4) | | am I supposed to view all the pages before posting a new thread? I don't want to break any rules but I wonder if anyone noticed this. I opened my account a month ago and didn't put up any restrictions. I was getting lots of new emails from people each day. I added the age restriction and photo restriction and not much changed. I was still getting plenty of new emails every day. Two days ago I put up the "Must not have contacted anyone for intimate encounters". Ever since that, NOT ONE EMAIL. This disturbs me. | |
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Posted: 6/18/2012 7:23:41 PM |
Two days ago I put up the "Must not have contacted anyone for intimate encounters". Ever since that, NOT ONE EMAIL. This disturbs me.
Sorry but I have to laugh. 
Im not laughing at you, "chatty" , Im laughing at the fact that since the restriction for IE, no one has messaged you. What kind of messages were you getting and were they from men looking for IE?
Many new members get lost of emails which gradually subside. I've also noticed that when I make a small change to my profile I suddenly get a few messages.
Don';t be disturbed, OP, you did the right thing to block IE so now you can concentrate on more quality people looking at you and messaging you. All the best. xx | |
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Posted: 6/18/2012 7:26:02 PM | You should be glad the messaging filters are working.
I have no filters and still get no messages.  | |
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Posted: 6/18/2012 7:26:14 PM | | no no no...I think it's disturbingly hysterical. I have been getting very polite emails mixed in with a few odd balls. It's the fact that so many of them were from very nice polite men. That's the part that disturbs me. It makes me want to erase everyone and start fresh. Just so I know! | |
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Posted: 6/18/2012 7:27:17 PM | I think that's hilarious.
You have the scientific mind, OP. You should forget about dating for a while and go back to school! | |
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Posted: 6/18/2012 8:20:50 PM |
Two days ago I put up the "Must not have contacted anyone for intimate encounters". Ever since that, NOT ONE EMAIL. This disturbs me.
Was it because you enjoyed getting emails from people you where not interested in?
Or did you more enjoy rejecting them?
When you start fishing with a hook and not a net you will see a big difference in what you catch.
So if it is quality you seek you now what you need to do, as finding a girl without that restriction must be like finding a shiny new penny, because usually they are fake accounts created by guys. | |
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Posted: 6/18/2012 9:06:42 PM | | Padawan, be careful or they'll revoke your man card for giving away the "secret"! | |
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Posted: 6/18/2012 9:48:35 PM | You could always contact guys you think are interesting.
Decent guys who are attractive and not houndogs
do get alot of mail.
We often don't need to send out any. | |
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Posted: 6/18/2012 9:51:01 PM | Quite simply ... by putting up that restriction, you've blocked nearly all the guys on POF.
You're probably right Padawan. Internet dating is definately a challenge. :)
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Posted: 6/18/2012 9:51:07 PM |
am I supposed to view all the pages before posting a new thread?
Theoretically, yes.
Or at least use the search feature with key words to determine if your subject has been covered.
Two days ago I put up the "Must not have contacted anyone for intimate encounters". Ever since that, NOT ONE EMAIL. This disturbs me.
IMO you should rejoice.
I mean
1. You've weeded out those that are just not smart enough to realize deleting their account and starting a new one (takes 5 minutes) gets around that feature.
2. It may help you realize this is not a panacea for social relationships and loneliness. If you are using the site correctly (IMO) it's not really any different than in real life. There's tons of people here, the majority of which you will never date, either because of a complete lack of interest on your part, or theirs.
This is just like going out and doing any type of hobby.
The only difference is this is the hobby. Being single, or wanting to date, is really the only thing you have in common with the people on here. If you had more in common with them, you'd probably run into them in your daily life, or when doing the things you enjoy. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2012 7:28:26 AM |
I have been getting very polite emails mixed in with a few odd balls. Well I guess it's fair to say that even horn dogs can be polite when they want to be.
I put up the IE filter because I got tired of getting the "pop-up" IM's ... before I realized that I could limit IM's to just those on my favorite list.
Guys who put their "pop-up" toys on the IM really don't interest me. If you have not yet received one of those ... consider yourself lucky.
Note ... don't misunderstand ...
It's not that I don't want to see an occasional erection ... but I saw enough of them randomly in the jails I worked in ... had to tell the guys that playing with themselves when it's time to get their pills was really not the way to shock and awe me. Some I had to tell to put their junk away and come get their medication.
I just don't want to bother with their "hardness" while I'm in here posting in the forums. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2012 7:50:47 AM |
Quite simply ... by putting up that restriction, you've blocked nearly all the guys on POF.
Not "nearly all guys", but probably 75% of them. There are other guys like myself who wish to start relationships with the right person and there are others that want to go into every hole they can score, but it also works the other way round. The thing with dating sites, its not a one way "This is the only person I'll date", you have to be open for offers from others as well.
That person who is an oddball, maybe the nicest person you can meet, you just don't know.
thEven if guys appear to be polite ... they'll eventually hit you up for a booty call.
Just say no, its simple enough. Worry when they try and try again, although, to be honest, much of the blame lies with my gender as well, for not being upfront and honest to begin with.
However, a psychiatrist I knew who is a lady, asked me this question when I was massively rejected by a lady I liked and under any circumstances had any intentions to have sex with her to begin with.
"What is the eventual point of a relationship?"
"Because you want to be with them forever?"
"Because all relationships eventually lead to sex."
On a personal note, its not entirely 100% accurate but I see what she means. To have kids requires sex, we all should know that by now. From a personal perspective, its not 100% true, I've said I don't want kids, well not at the moment, for long term, I am thinking "maybe with the right person" and really, I miss that closeness that you just don't get when you are single.
/Now how close am I to breaking that self pity rule? I've been trying hard to step around it however, to share my experience, Iv'e got to explain the story a bit more, so maybe on that self pity line... Double jeopardy?/ | |
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Posted: 6/19/2012 11:57:37 AM | | The voyeur in my always wants to see who is seeking IE's. Hopefully I don't accidentally hit the "message" button whilst perusing such profiles. ha ha. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2012 12:00:31 PM | | Chatty, what I think happens is: someone gets a msg from someone looking for an IE. They respond in any way at all, even with a no thank you, and they are now blocked from corresponding with you. I think that restriction isn't very helpful and blocks a lot of possibilities. Just my opinion. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2012 12:10:33 PM | Blade:
Are we on the "list" even if we look? It says block people who have "messaged others looking for IE."
The local rag newspapers have "adult personals" that are funny to peruse. I'd hate to think my love of a laugh has made me into an internet "perv" on POF. ha ha! | |
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Posted: 6/19/2012 12:22:48 PM |
... someone gets a msg from someone looking for an IE. They respond in any way at all, even with a no thank you, and they are now blocked from corresponding with you. Nope ... it doesn't work that way.
Are we on the "list" even if we look? Nope (pescando75, you rascal you) ... just "looking" will not get you flagged. You have to actually initiate some sort of contact with someone looking for IE.
See Messages 1 & 2 of the following thread ...
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts14474658.aspx
Must not have messaged users looking for intimate encounters or sex.
See Message 3 of the following thread ...
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts12516968.aspx
if you messages intimate or sex encounters and you want it changed
See Message 5 of the following thread ...
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts14335387.aspx
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Please read the following links for information relating to our IE filter
IE Filter - How it Works and Can It Be Reset
The Contact User for Intimate Encounters or Sex Filter
Why Do Members Use the IE Block
Messaged for intimate encounters or sex
Must not have messaged users looking for intimate encounters or sex.
Messaging someone who is looking for intimate encounter?!?!!!
Intimate Encounter and Other Relationship – Is There a Difference
Can the IE Filter be Reset?
Profiled as a sex seeker forever!
And my personal favorite...
Mail Settings: Why was my IE Filter Discussion Thread Closed? | |
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Posted: 6/19/2012 1:51:46 PM | Sorry i wouldn't take it personal though it's not about you, they dont know you yet.
Even nice guys enjoy physical relationships.
So now that you have narrowed your selection down it may take a little longer , but it will happen.
Maybe exploring, other venues while you are looking would be good. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2012 4:46:54 PM | Aristole wrote
Was it because you enjoyed getting emails from people you where not interested in?
Or did you more enjoy rejecting them?
Actually, neither. I think you completely missed the point there. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2012 8:23:55 PM |
So whats wrong with perusing the IE section to see what or who is actually looking for that sort of thing?
Nothing is wrong with looking just out of curiousity.
For that matter, why even HAVE an IE section if you're going to punish people for looking/using it?
You don't get "punished" for looking, only if you make first contact with 4 or more people who seek it on their profile. Replying to a message from someone looking for IE has no affect on your account. You can talk all you want with that person.
POF allows 3 initial contacts .....sort of like giving you 3 chances......but is more inclined to accomodate what most of us are looking for. After all this IS a dating site and has the added benefit of these forums which tends to bring its users together thus enhancing out enjoyment of this site. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2012 3:43:51 AM | | There is nothing wrong with looking and or responding to someone who contacted you, IMO. Out of curiosity, I removed the restriction. I woke up this morning with 3 new messages in my mail box. I'm just going to leave it as is and if I find anyone interesting enough to engage in communication, I'll just ask them outright if they hit women up for IEs. If they are not honest with their response, its on them. The truth always bubbles to the surface anyway. Someone in here was right on when they said, its really no different than the "real world" of dating. You have to have gradual discoveries of a person. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2012 12:11:54 PM | | What's wrong with banging a few sluts, while you wait for Mrs. Right? | |
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Posted: 6/20/2012 12:12:48 PM | reason is everyone on the site has, at one point or another, sent a message to someone that was looking for intimate encounters
usually it's on accident, because I don't even look at that part, i look at the pics and i read the About Me.
I am one of the victims, because apparently I messaged someone that was looking for intimate encounters and now I can't talk to half of POF | |
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Posted: 6/20/2012 12:15:51 PM | i think you're looking at it wrong. You're assuming that EVERYONE must be looking for intimate encounters
that's not right. They probably messaged someone without reading their profile and can't talk to you now because they said "Hi" to someone that was looking for intimate encounters
just because i know someone or say hi to someone that does XYZ does not mean I do XYZ, right? Do you do everything your friends and family does? Course not. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2012 12:21:33 PM |
You don't get "punished" for looking, only if you make first contact with 4 or more people who seek it on their profile.
still a punishment, and it's especially bad if you don't know about it, no warning said "HEY! They're looking for intimate encounters, if you msg them you can't talk to ANYONE!"
think i'll delete my profile and start over, it's not right but it's what POF wants us to do
shame though, been on and off the site since 2005, and they didn't have this rule back then | |
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