| | Sex gone southPage 1 of 2 (1, 2) | Having sex is a wonderful thing. My girl and i had good sex but then things went south... we sort of have a weird relationship now and it seems like we are more friends than anything. Me, i want to be with her forever but not at the cost of her not loving me in return
Not sure what exactly, however im pretty sure there was no infidelity.
Whats a man to do???
Please help.... | |
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Posted: 6/19/2012 5:47:35 PM | Uh, communicate effectively?
If you're having sex, then one would think you'd be able to communicate your feelings. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2012 5:51:26 PM | Look up the magaine article called The Science of Love in National Geographic. I think it was written last year.
It explains ALOT. Good luck. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2012 5:52:12 PM | Repeat after me....
"What the phuck's up dear??????"
Simple. Easy AND peasy.
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Posted: 6/19/2012 6:16:42 PM | | Maybe she found your profile? | |
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Posted: 6/19/2012 6:48:18 PM | | OP your profile is set to single/ dating and "you want to come out and play" Okay..... >.> Now I know why she ignores you. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2012 7:40:45 PM | | someone one not loving you in return???? Not walk away RUN AWAY!! you will only get hurt in the long run...why waste your time.... | |
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Posted: 6/19/2012 7:56:22 PM |
i want to be with her forever but not at the cost of her not loving me in return
Tell her this ^^^^ and that you want to work on rekindling the intimacy in your relationship. The conversation has to start somewhere.
MrsF | |
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Posted: 6/19/2012 8:17:52 PM | I have a very unique novel idea for you to try out..
Careful tho.. it's a bit tough to take...
TALK TO HER
openly and honestly.
can you handle it?? | |
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Posted: 6/19/2012 8:47:01 PM | That depends. Are you the big kitty or the little kitty in your photo? 
Seriously, maybe she found the profile on the dating site you've been on for a year and a half, looking for women to date. Is that your idea of wanting to be with someone forever? | |
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Posted: 6/19/2012 8:49:49 PM |
OP your profile is set to single/ dating and "you want to come out and play" Okay..... >.> Now I know why she ignores you.
Exactly.
~OP~ As a woman, I'll bet her version of your past sex-capades is very different than yours. She very likely wasn't satisfied even when you thought things were working well. Since you're posting here and not talking to her, it's likely the two of you have never had in-depth sexual communication without being naked. You need to stop chasing skirt here and find out why you're lady isn't happy with you sexually. JMO  | |
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Posted: 6/19/2012 9:12:53 PM | | If she's not putting out, she most likely either started taking some kind of hormone/medication or she is with someone else. I've never heard of a woman suddenly becoming asexual, other than for medical reasons. I would ask her if she is sleeping with someone else. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2012 9:22:50 PM |
You had good sex. We don't know what she thought of it. What you are now is FWB (Friends Without Benefits). You want to be FWB (Friends With Benefits) or more probably FWB (Friend With Benefits). I suggest you try the tried and true remedies: jewelry, furs, diamonds, trips, and eating out at slow food restaurants.
LMAO! I actually spewed beer on my laptop reading this reply!
No advice here, just lmao! | |
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Posted: 6/19/2012 10:10:54 PM | | i suggest you look again at mrsforums post...'nuff said | |
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Posted: 6/19/2012 11:19:36 PM | You two need to sit down and talk openly and you need her to know that you aren't willing to give up a good sex life.
I love the kitties in the sink! | |
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Posted: 6/19/2012 11:49:51 PM | | Try new things, spice it up, stretch the limits. As is often the case, she could very well be wanting something you're not giving to her she may not even know she wants. Sometimes things just get old in a sexual relationship. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2012 4:24:35 AM | | Sounds like you both took eachother for granted, you became complcent in your relationship...... | |
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Posted: 6/20/2012 4:47:45 AM | hi funny
if the sex gone south <--sack it and move on
would be diffrent if u said the love making has gone south.
Most the time people forget that they in a non binding relationship ---at anytime u can be cast aside and left to rot.is down to the person who wants to move on if u get an reason or not.
All i no tomorrow comes if u stay and grind it out--or finish it right now,i guess its down to how much of your life u want to use up finding out why sex has gone south. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2012 8:47:30 AM | | get creative.... change your attitude and flirt some, there's a long list of things you can do, with the effort u took to write your profile and probably looking at females pictures... put into your female and get the spark back.... | |
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Posted: 6/23/2012 10:20:00 AM | | First step would be to find out if she is happy or shall I does she enjoy having sex with you... Maybe there is a disconnect between you two when it comes to sex and intimacy.. Sex is a critical component within a relationship and if someone is not getting what they need from their partner you run the risk of opening the door for someone else to step in and give her what she desires or needs. Then the other case scenario is that sex can be "not so important/over-rated" in her mind.. for some people sex isnt necessarily a deal breaker until you find out where her head is and if it is in the right place you are going to have a mixed bag of emotions. Good Luck to you.. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2012 11:23:10 AM | Ok as i had that experience in the past with a BF and did try to talk about it, its not gonna work.
Cause as soon as you are gonna try and put it nicely that you are not satisfied it will still come over as in
I AM NOT SATISFIED. So then the pressure is on and its gonna go even more down south from there.
And no it wont get any better. So if this doesnt solve itself over lets say half a year or so you are screwed! | |
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Posted: 6/23/2012 4:05:20 PM | | Either decide u want to ne with her her off this site and have some conversation. Or leave her stay on site here and meet someone and have bad communication because u don't know how. Finding a girl ion the side wont solve snuthinhm | |
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Posted: 6/23/2012 4:57:50 PM | I don't know if this applies to you, but a common mistake men make in relationships in terms of passion is they stop "dating" once they're finished dating.
Part of why Men win a woman's heart is by focussing on them, spending time with them, and building and maintaining intimacy.
Many Men forget to keep doing that once they "have" the girl.
Think of it like an engine... you have to keep stoking the coal or the flame goes out.
I've been with my GF for a little over 3 years. We still try go on "dates" for dinner and movies a couple times a month, try to watch television and movies together at least a couple nights a week, and still just lie down and talk for 30-60 minutes when it seems appropriate. I still hug her randomly, text her randomly or leave her voice mail once in a while when she's at work, and sneak up on her for "ninja" kisses. I feel it's important to remind her that she's still on my mind and that I try to think about her even when I'm busy.
I'm not as consistently "romantic" as I was when we first started dating and it's sometimes hard to make the time for her that she deserves, but I do my best. I figure as long as I keep making the effort she won't forget why she fell in love with me in the first place.
It probably works a little too well... she can be "in the mood" at the most inconvenient times. Like when I'm dead tired or thinking about something. Not every romantic moment is going to be well timed I guess, but I more often than not still do my best. I know she does the same on the rare occassion it goes the other way. When she's tired or preoccupied, more often than not she'll still make the effort. We affectionately call it "taking one for the team".
All in all, there are far worse problems to have. :) | |
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Posted: 6/23/2012 5:02:34 PM | All I know is that THAT tie is the worst tie I have ever seen on a cat.
What was the question? | |
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Posted: 6/23/2012 5:22:07 PM | | That means the relationship has run it's course and she wants to move on. She's tired of you going on POF asking women what you should do about your relationship instead of asking her. | |
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