| | Long 'Distance' Across LondonPage 1 of 1 | How do people deal with 1st contact if other person is on the other side of London , and they are reluctant to meet somewhere central ( eg West End, Southbank or Islington Green etc. ). I guess a bit more phone banter first?
It can be a long way to go for a coffee and 'thanks but no thanks' (whomever says it!).
I'm sure I can get to Maidstone quicker than Watford! | |
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Posted: 6/22/2012 9:23:28 AM | I have a car for the village scenario, don't fancy driving it across London though!
I will chat more on the phone first.
I did briefly date from Bromely to Norbiton, - non-radial journeys are even worse.
I've done *real* long distance too - 120miles - I'm not cut out for commuting at all! | |
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Posted: 6/22/2012 9:32:20 AM | I often see houses for sale in the countryside and think how beautiful they are and isn't the village quaint and then think my god how long would it take me to get to the nearest A road or Motorway no less! London is a different kettle of fish ... it is so densely populated that you would think you wouldn't have the need to meet someone miles away. You see, the woman or man of your dreams could easily be just around the corner!
Personally I wouldn't meet anyone who lives more than 30 mins in either direction which means centre of Nottingahm or Derby on an A road or Leicester by Motorway! Though I must admit I quite happily drive hours for a good dance venue, at least I am more or less guaranteed of a decent afternoon or evening! | |
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Posted: 6/22/2012 9:33:26 AM | dont you think she`s worth an hour or two driving ?, or even train or bus ?
i once drove for an hour and a half ( 80 miles), for a "coffee and chat "..nothing became of it, but we`re still friends etc, but hey, if you dont "fancy" the idea of risking a few hours incase it comes to nothing, well maybe she isnt for you ? :O) | |
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Posted: 6/22/2012 9:40:18 AM | dont you think she`s worth an hour or two driving ?,
There'in lies the rub. There is an issue that might be a deal breaker.. around religion, I've already raised it and she's happy with my lack of it for now, but I'm not sure how much I can reciprocate. This is probably the real issue tbh!
Hour and a half is 20 miles in London money :) | |
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Posted: 6/22/2012 9:47:10 AM | i know driving in london is no picnic, i did the lorries for a few years, but, we`re surely only talking of the initial meet here yes ?, IF it goes well, then she would ( i would imagine) be more receptive to meeting closer to you ( or as you mentioned, even half way ),
as for the religion issue, yes, that can cause problems ( but by no means a certainty), i know a guy locally, who has been married some 30 years, his wife is a devout hindu woman ), so dont let the religion thing become a problem just yet :O) | |
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Posted: 6/23/2012 4:07:12 AM | If she won't meet you half way on an awkward journey then that's a worrying sign in itself – that maybe she'd expect all the effort in the relationship to be on your part.
I'm not sure 'across London' makes much difference though: like any distance, research the best route and how long it takes, and then determine whether it's more trouble than it's worth. At least in London you -can- get public transport after meeting someone ... | |
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Posted: 6/23/2012 10:44:51 AM | | That is the trouble with London, people think that because it has over seven million people it is easy to meet someone but if you meet someone in London usually they come from the other side of town and travelling across London is expensive and difficult. It is far easy to date someone if you live in a small city like Norwich which only covers a few square miles. People forget that London is the size of a small country and covers over 600 square miles. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 8:43:17 AM | | If things aren't working for you this early on, move on to someone else. If she was keen she'd make the effort. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 9:43:43 AM | | Well I called her, and she was happy to meet centrally after a conversation, but today I've met another lovely lady on POF, who also lives extremities of N London. Again we met centrally, and things are looking good! I've cancelled all other dates and happy to make the journey henceforth! | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 10:14:22 AM | | I'm not sure why you( or her) didn't just drive round the M25. I live just to the north of London, 10/15 mins by car .If I want to go the other side of London I get on the M25.Certain times of the day it's a bugger but it's not that bad most of the time!Much easier and quicker than 'meeting centrally' | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 10:36:46 AM | For me , journey from SE to NW London would be over an hour whichever way I slice it (public transport, Blackwall+M25 ) a bit much for a 1st coffee IMO unless there are lots of other strong indicators that it is worth checking out, compared to Southbank (25 min BR) , West End/Charing X (30 min BR), or Islington Green (40 min BR+tube or driving on a Sunday).
But now making the journey for subsequent dates seems well worth it :) | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 2:12:18 AM | | if someones not prepared to meet you halfway then they are not worth the effort! simples | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 2:20:26 AM | That is the trouble with London, people think that because it has over seven million people it is easy to meet someone but if you meet someone in London usually they come from the other side of town and travelling across London is expensive and difficult. It is far easy to date someone if you live in a small city like Norwich which only covers a few square miles. People forget that London is the size of a small country and covers over 600 square miles.
Yes but on the other hand you have far less options locally in a smaller town so probably have to widen your sphere of influence anyway! OK travel across London is difficult but then you have 7 million people to choose from (yes I know they aren't all on POF before someone corrects me hehe) .. but how far does someone in eg northern Scotland have to travel to get that kind of choice?!
I don't think an hour to meet someone who really interests you is a big issue. The last date I had was in Manchester so was a good hour for me from Crewe. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 2:24:52 AM | And how much does distance matter if you actually connect with someone, which doesnt happen to often, lets be honest...
are you really gonna throw that away because they dont live 'round the corner'? | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 11:29:25 AM | I frequently travel 'a long distance across London' to support my rugby team ........... I'm sure I could travel a similar distance for the 'right' man, and how can you determine if they are the 'right' man (or woman) unless you are prepared to meet them?
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