| | am i being strung alongPage 1 of 2 (1, 2) | | i met a girl on here quite sometime ago, ended up in a friendship, after a few months i asked for more, i was told she wasnt ready for a relationship right now. Well after a few months of heading out on dates and one night had a few drinks together i was asked to stay over, and next thing she was in bed with me, i actually was asleep at the time woke up found her there but she was in drunken sleep, i was asked next day by phonecall did i take advantage of her which i said no. basically since then we have fell out a few times, made up and have only went out a few times. During phonecalls im told shes busy or heading to friends etc, and every now and then she goes MIA for a few days. I was down recently chatting asking how her dating was going which she got defensive about and is not dating anyone, but i think possibly she is as her actions suggest otherwise. I ve known her nearly a year have never met any of her friends or family so i am left confused. So i am open to suggestions | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 11:06:57 AM | | If one of my sons wrote this thread ( 34 & 40), I would have to beat them senseless...... | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 11:17:01 AM | Seems, he's already a bit senseless, Sonni.
Opie, I'm not understanding what it is you're confused about. All the clues just seem to be bouncing off of you. I suggest you try to get one. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 11:22:22 AM | | It sure seems like you are being strung along, but I would ask where she stands one more time in relation to you. Once you have the answer you can move on accordingly, but don't pester her anymore if she gives an answer that showcases indifference towards you. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 11:27:50 AM | from what you described she is not interested in you... I dont know if she is stringing you along or not.. you may be seeing what you want to see rather than her stringing you along.
Either way I would say friend zone her. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 11:29:35 AM | I think the question you should ask yourself is whether you are letting yourself be strung along. The answer is: Hell, yes.
I sincerely hope you have made yourself available to dating other women. Otherwise, you've wasted a year of your life waiting for something that's simply never going to happen. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 11:31:26 AM | | yes well im back on here looking!! when i start to move on i seem to let myself get pulled back in, it always feels like a game | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 11:32:30 AM |
wether to walk away or not
What is it YOU want? She’s not terribly interested in you as a relationship. But, apparently, you’ll do in a pinch. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 12:05:20 PM | Runaway while screaming "buh-bye!"
The REDEST of flags is her passing out from alcohol and not know what happened. Do you need a girl who uses you for an occasional meal? More importantly, do you need a girl who has to black out in order to get close to you, should it come to that?
You are wasting your time. Sorry. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 12:09:13 PM | Walk...are you kidding? More like RUN!
She has no focus, no time, no commitment, no nothing...she doesn't even have a freakin clue as to what she wants. She's just all over the place or not available at all. I'd say she's not ready for anything. Get on with it and find someone that is worth the effort in dating. Who the heck wants to meet someone only to never know when you'll see them again. She's unpredictable. What a ditz. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 12:19:37 PM | | you are in the friend zone and if you let her she is going to end up using you. frankly I'm surprised that you don't know better | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 12:23:41 PM | | Strung along? Hardly, she seems barely interested in a friendship. Wasting your time? Definitely. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 1:27:39 PM | Carol Ann has it right.
To be "strung along," you have to have someone trying to lead you somewhere. You describe this woman as an aimless drunk who stumbles randomly through your life. You can't attribute intent to her, until you actually witness a sense of direction. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 1:35:18 PM | The thing I think you are forgetting OP is that for a relationship to develop there needs to be a mutual interest so that you don't have to ask yourself these types of questions.
She sounds like the type of person that would chase you if you were with somebody else. Avoid her at all costs and don't invest any energy with this one. She's not worth it. You can do much better. I wouldn't even call that a friendship. Friends care about each other. Hopefully you're not the one buying her drinks. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 1:40:37 PM | | Really? You're a moron! Good luck not getting run over by a bus on a daily basis....let alone navigating stupid girls | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 2:26:48 PM | | Move on meet some one else and for God sake dont fall for it if she comes crawling back when you have someone new. Life is to short enjoy and dont waste it on someone who treats you like crap... Good luck | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 2:44:40 PM | | yes you are being strung along she is keeping you in reserve move on your worth more | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 6:02:52 PM | In this sometimes frustrating world of on line companionship shopping
your going to find that having a safety dates phone no. within reach is
just one of the tools to hang on to.They work in all weather,for any situation
and best of all you'd never know it!
Smart gal? | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 6:31:04 PM | This screams...move on.
What are you waiting for OP??? You want her to draw your blood or something?
There are women out there who really want to be in a relationship with a man who respects and cares for them and who she can respect and care for.....GO! Find one of them and stop worrying about this ridiculous and clueless woman. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 6:39:35 PM | Bro to bro...
She has put you in the friend zone. Run, and I do mean run as fast as you can away from her. If you accept her friendship, then you are gonna drive yourself crazy when she is banging every dude....BUT YOU.
So i am open to suggestions
Stop being "friends" with woman your attracted to. Once a woman puts you in a friend zone, you cant get out. The best thing to do is drop her from your life. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 7:12:57 PM |
LathaMath on 6/24/2012 1:35:35 PM
Subject: am i being strung along
Message: Women who are afraid of men get drunk so they can get laid and start a relationship. You are stringing yourself along. Try to be a bit less moral and lots more devious, like she is.
I hope you won't take this advice seriously. Be the good person, and *never* take advantage of a person under the influence. In the case you describe, had you done so, you could have been accused of rape b/c of the absence of, and inability to give, consent.
Yes, walk away from this woman. You don't want friendship and that's all she was willing to offer. This relationship may be inhibiting your ability to move forward with someone more interested. Good luck. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 7:20:52 PM | Already been said but it sounds like you are stringing yourself along. She doesn't seem interested. You only got in bed together when drunk and you still didn't bang her...which in retrospect may be a blessing. You may already be getting labeled as a predator by her...doesn't matter if your both sloshed...the guy takes the blame in these matters and not the women.
Move on. Don't contact her. Find greener pastures and someone who wants to actually date you. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 8:29:01 PM | | you r not in a relationship... in a years time u slept with her once when she was drunk and n othing happaned.. You r stringing yourself along.............. what is the question????? best of luck look up relationship in the dictionary | |
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