| | Single worded e-mails...looking for more content...Page 1 of 1 | I haven't been on this site too long but I find myself getting lots of one or two worded e-mails. "Hey" or
"Beautiful" or lots of "hi"... I'm not really finding lots of orginality or even well words...
Is this normal, does one respond to this and how can I get to a progression of more thought out e-mails. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 7:06:53 PM | | It's very common and it happens to both guys and girls. Just ignore. I put a PSA in bold on my profile about one word messages, and it has cut down on them, but I still get them with some regularity. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 7:19:52 PM | I ignore most of them. My favorites are the ones who keep emailing me asking why I am not responding to them....or rather "hey y r u not writing back 2 me i like ur profile i think ur beautiful women"
Maybe this sounds shallow, but I like somebody who can put together a sentence.
Biggest pet peeve: WOMAN is singular....WOMEN is plural. End rant. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 7:22:12 PM | | When I was on another dating site, most women that contacted me first sent me "winks" or brief generic emails such as "How are you?" or "I liked your profile". The short initial emails didn't bother me. If I liked their photos and there wasn't anything in the profile that is a dealbreaker, I would send a positive reply. I think many people will open up and write longer / more detailed 2nd email after mutual initial interest has been established. Having said that, if the subsequent emails were boring, then I would lose interest. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 7:36:59 PM | Happens to both men and women.
I just got another "hi" tonight myself. Third one she's sent me. Each "hi" days apart. I don't respond.
What I have found that works for me is a better profile. Not sure what yours is like but I know for a fact that a better profile for me has yielded better results.
Don't rule out messaging men on here either. If you look around on the forums you'll see that it is highly encouraged. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 7:37:23 PM | | Yeah, I'm thinking of just deleting too. I get trying to have an opening or checking for interest but come on...at the age range I'm in and looking for, I would hope one would be able to say more than "ur cute"... I just wasn't sure if this was the norm or what. I do try to respond to most e-mails but maybe I'll respond to those that meet a 5 word minimum. | |
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pfif
| | Joined: 6/11/2012
Msg: 9 | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 7:56:11 PM | If he doesn't pick out something to say about what you wrote, you might do well to delete. Unless, of course, he's commenting on something in your photos that represent your interests (pet, activity, &c.)
EDIT: I might try something like 'Hey -- do you think we could play Scrabble together while line dancing? By the way, what is line dancing?' if I were breaking the ice with you after reading your profile.
It may not come off as a very funny quip, but if I'm into you enough to contact you, I'll chance it that my instincts will serve me, to catch your attention. I usually don't go for a humorous remark, but in the case of your profile (and the fact I'm to do it publicly as an example) I went for that approach. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 7:56:24 PM | I'll offer a different view point.
Out on the street when someone says hello you reciprocate and say hello in return. At that point of acknowledgement the person that initiate communication can choose to start a conversation or continue on their way. Unfortunately it doesn't work that well in a written format. But the spirit is the same in essence. But if you don't like this approach it is your choice.
But be warned, most guys will not write out elaborate first emails to start a conversation. I believe in a balanced approach not to the extremes (a decent sized response that is more than one word, but not more than a paragraph). | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 7:57:59 PM | I used to get those, then I changed my mail preferences so that the emails had to be a certain length.
Now I get
HI...........................................................................................................................................................................
So that didn't really help, lol. I just delete those messages. | |
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tjl503
| | Joined: 9/29/2011
Msg: 13 | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 9:18:21 PM | All first emails are mating calls, some are just shorter than others. "Ka kaaaaaaa, ka kaaa" If a gorgeous woman's mating call to me is "hey, how are you" It doesn't bother me, she's showing interest and breaking the ice which is more then most women do. If the woman is pretty, has a good profile and emails me first with just a "hi". Who am I to hate on someone taking initiative to talk to me. I will not shake my head in disgust because of the length of it. She better come up with something a little more witty in her next email to me though cause looks can only get you so far.
I would rethink getting butt hurt over short messages, you could be overlooking Mr. Right because you didn't like how he worded his ice breaker. Some people just aren't good at expressing themselves through text, especially a first message. At least give the single worded email offenders a chance and see if they have substance. Don't treat small pet peeves as deal breakers and you will have better luck. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 11:16:21 PM | One of the problems of online dating is that a guy may write a great message and still not get a reply, not even a simple thank you.
The failure for not receiving a "Thank you" is, ironically, on the shoulders of us males. This is because, it seems, a lot of males get their underwear in a bunch if they only get a "Thank you" and then proceed to shower the original recipient with "compliments". Result, girls don't reply to most messages they get.
As a result of girls not replying to most messages, males figure there is no reason to put much effort into writing a good message. This yields the "Hi" (I would even guess you're lucky if the "h" is capitalized). A reply to "Hi" indicates to the male that there is the potential for a conversation. Reportedly, the quality of the ensuing conversation varies greatly. ;-)
The above doesn't tell you how to solve the "Hi" problem but, at least, now you know why it is so commonplace. Of course, there are many males that type with two fingers, which will further exacerbate the chronic anemia characteristic of first messages. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 11:38:39 PM | some people look at initial emails of any length or content as 'take a look at my profile and let me know.'
of course, those bearing the cross of a clogged inbox need a more ruthless approach. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2012 12:47:28 AM | | LOL.......PALOMINOCOWGIRL.....I BELIEVE IS SHORT, SWEET AND TO THE POINT MESSAGES...WHO WANTS TO READ SOMETHING THAT GOES ON FOREVER............................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................ | |
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Posted: 6/25/2012 1:12:36 AM | Uggggh . . . get used to it, girl! I'd say at least 50% of the messages I get are 'hi', 'hey', 'how r u', 'hey beautiful' or something along those lines.
I've heard lots of guys give the excuse that most women don't respond to them anyway so why bother to write much. I find that to be a defeatist attitude that doesn't serve them well.
If they can't take the extra minute or two to write something thoughtful that shows they actually read my profile, I don't feel compelled to respond. Put in some effort guys, even if you think the woman you're reaching out to is a longshot. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2012 1:28:41 AM | I generally respond back with, "Wow, that was deep...Please tell me more!"
Or something sarcastic along those lines...but than again I'm an a**hole so I prefer pointing out stupidity with condescending sarcasm. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2012 5:50:57 AM | I've heard lots of guys give the excuse that most women don't respond to them anyway so why bother to write much. I find that to be a defeatist attitude that doesn't serve them well.
If they can't take the extra minute or two to write something thoughtful that shows they actually read my profile, I don't feel compelled to respond. Put in some effort guys, even if you think the woman you're reaching out to is a longshot.
I can understand why some men feel that way. They might have written dozens or hundreds of longer first emails where they mentioned things that were in a woman's profile. Yet they got very few positive replies. Sometimes the email is unread / deleted. Other men ( and women as well ) might not be sure what to say in a first email. In particular if they are new to internet dating. If you like their profile and photos, give them a chance. Don't be so quick to assume that they are lazy or inarticulate because of the length of their first email. As stated earlier, I think many people will open up and write longer / more detailed 2nd email after mutual initial interest has been established. | |
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