| | I'm starting to see why this site is usless for me.Page 1 of 1 | | I go check the "newest users" in my area. 2 full pages worth of people and with the exception of about 2 out of 40 I swear the headline in everyone of them is something amongst the lines of "I'm not looking for a relationship or anything serious right now" or "just here looking for friends". Ok well most guys don't take the time to register on a dating site to make friends, heck I can already do that on my facebook <_< | |
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Posted: 7/14/2012 8:02:54 AM | Do you want the real answer. Hell with politeness?
Friends is a euphemism for 'permission to check you out' before I move on or else go for it..So that we can be polite when we say no thanks, just friends..when no, were not here to make friends, duh..But nobody has the guts to say what they really want; a cute ass, good income, passable brainpower..
What do women want, they want it all..What do men want, a great looking woman who will leave them out of the drama! We all want our needs met and its NOT about love but filling the void. And at some point if love should awaken within you all you want to do is help..because you see yourself in every face..
Thats not about friends either but far more.. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2012 7:30:07 PM | | I think most women who meet up from online dating for the first time rarely make it past the first date because they can just go home and sift through the other 150 emails they have waiting for them..its the "grass is always greener" mentality... never put too much into online dating..its really a horrible way for people to start relationships. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 10:23:15 AM | Actually, I married someone from an online dating source. He was not who he claimed, but I did love him and gave him every opportunity. You would be amazed that most women are NOT getting 150 emails a day. It's the same on both sides of the fence.
I do think, however, there are more scam artists on sites such as this so it is work to cull through. Keep trying...you don't know what might happen. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 10:58:52 AM | | Every woman i thought was attractive that would take the time to respond which im guessing were the ones that liked something about me would say getting 100+ responses..maybe not everyday would be quite normal.... i just stopped being the aggresor and let them come to me... it takes the frustration out of it that way... i equate chasing someone on an online dating site to walking into a bar with 1 attractive girl and 10 non attractive girls and 150 guys all taking their best shot to get the best looking ones attention... im certainly not that desperate to stand in line over anyone and still believe the only way to meet someone is IRL | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 11:32:29 AM | That's a shame...I know from Christian Cafe that this was not the case. The responses were about equal.
I can tell you I get emails but MOST don't even read my profile, or they wouldn't write. I'm obviously a faith based person and am looking for such. Yet I get everything from agnostics to atheists... and what would we have in common? | |
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Posted: 8/27/2012 11:12:19 PM | I see problems just with the people on this site. Men seem to give the rest of us a bad name, I am not looking for a hook up or FWB but everyone assumes that I am just like everyone else that I am.
I read the full profile and try to address a message specifically to them. But they just get unread and deleted, no response, or some other way of no progression.
I tried some other sites, maybe will try match.com or maybe Christian Cafe. To busy with work and kids to try and go out and meet someone at a bar. Not going to ask some woman to help me with melons at the store.
And why do I get separated people on my matches? Their still married. | |
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Posted: 8/28/2012 4:03:51 PM | Yes! I've noticed an abundance of that too, finding people on here that are still married, or in some cases sleeping and living with the person they're married too!
I can see some situations. For instance I have a female friend that is still technically married, but lives and sleeps with her new boy friend. The reason is because her baby daddy is a dead beat in another state that is taking his sweet time with signing the divorce papers. Situations like that where one of them is just being a total ass about it when the other is trying to move on and forward and life I can understand, but the rest just baffle me.
I met my now ex girl friend from another dating site in March. Come to find out her baby daddy is amongst one of her room mates and after many other red flags seemed like they were still a little too friendly for my tastes. I ended up dumping her because despite the fact we were only 30 mins apart from eachother, I hadn't seen her in person for 2 months. She was always "too busy" yet had plenty of time to post things on her facebook 3-4 times a day.
I think I just live in a bad city honestly. Most of the girls here are way too shallow and judgmental. Its hard finding people my age that don't have kids already, not saying that makes you untouchable, but I don't have any myself, and I'm not sure I want any just yet till I get to the point to where I'm with someone long enough to where I'd wanna have a kid with them, which so far hasn't happened with my luck. The rest simply don't find me attractive or quit talking/messaging me once I tell them I'm high functioning autistic because its easier for them to move on to someone else then have to learn about a project like me. | |
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Posted: 8/29/2012 9:25:41 PM | | A couple of "established" users have told me there are a lot of married people. A guy texted me pictures of himself and wasn't the same person on the pics in his profile. I had to ad 800 filters because even guys who know I would go out with them, weather we meet here or at the local bar, still write me msgs full of insults because they somehow think I'm a THING and not a person and they have the right to abuse me for no reason (and it's never justifiable). Now I don't even open msgs from unattractive guys to save myself from being emotionally injured. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2012 8:58:44 PM | Copy that. Just want to be friends, please bring your wallet, pay for everything, and don't get any ideas. I have friends that I go out with or run into and we buy one another a dring from time-to-time, don't keep a score card, and expect nothing in return. Most of the 'just want to be friends' that I have met here are just dinner whores and will go out with anyone that will buy.
Just my thoughts.
Will | |
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Posted: 10/18/2012 4:30:30 PM | You have to find someone who's on the same page in life and going the same direction. Yea, I know, easier said than done since they are few and far between. But that pretty much sums it up.
It's not just a guy/girl thing though because there are far more dudes looking to play than to settle down; if that weren't the truth I wouldn't be coming back again and again. Don't think you're being jipped due to your gender alone. | |
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Posted: 10/22/2012 12:20:14 AM | Many women have had very bad experiences with worthless, loser men. Not saying that all women are perfect, but there are a lot of men out there who make me ashamed of my gender.
That said, men and women view sex and relationships differently, but no matter what the differences, you are either going to have to do it the way they want, or learn to like being alone. | |
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Posted: 1/6/2013 10:08:33 PM | | try not to get bitter, out of the thousands there will be a few keepers. :) I just found a nice guy who also wants long term like me. I think eventually you'll find someone. I found this thread while looking around to deactivate my account, sometimes the grass is just right ;) | |
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Posted: 1/22/2013 12:04:37 PM |
"I'm not looking for a relationship or anything serious right now" or "just here looking for friends"
Common enough status from women. I ignore it...if a woman finds you attractive (spiritually, emotionally, physically) she's going to upgrade *your* status without regard to a silly check box on POF. I encourage you to drop them a note, get to know them, and then ask if they're interested in further pursuit. If not...well...no harm and no foul. Worse they can say is "No".
most guys don't take the time to register on a dating site to make friends, heck I can already do that on my facebook
Mind if I offer some constructive criticism? If you're going to take the time to register on a dating site, then you should also take some time to work on your profile. If you're not happy on the inside, it's going to show it on the outside. I've read your profile, and some of your forum responses, and there is a negative tone to them. I'd work on that before I attempted to contact anyone else here. Positive, confident people attract positive people. Negative people...well...misery loves company.
My $.02 | |
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Posted: 1/23/2013 1:03:48 AM | Negative tone is only your perspective of me, I simply see the world for how it really is: Ugly, Twisted, Vile.
Our society has been lead to believe through fiction and media that everything in life will work out if we just "stay positive" and be happy. I'd rather others see me for how I am then live a lie. If your "positiveness" is the key to relationships and everything then why are you still on here and single? <_< Talk about irony. | |
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Posted: 1/23/2013 7:51:13 AM |
I simply see the world for how it really is: Ugly, Twisted, Vile.
And you, as a person, are a reflection of the world you choose to see. If you see ugly, twisted, and vile...well...
I wish you luck, sir. | |
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Posted: 1/25/2013 10:49:58 AM | | I'm going to pipe up and and my two cents here. Most of the girls (maybe the age range has something to do with it) DO in fact recieve a **** ton of emails. So yes I think one of the posters hit the nail on the head, the girls really get their pick of the litter on these dating sites. I receive maybe 2-4 emails a week and I gauran****intee that most of the ones I date are getting ALOT more than that. So once again I agree, meeting someone on a dating website.....I wouldnt put alot of hope into it. | |
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Posted: 3/6/2013 12:42:05 PM | | I must be missing something.... I send out stuff and most of the times I get nothing back... think maybe men want a younger woman.. I know I'm in a bad area and not real close to people ..... but I should hear more than I do.. I've heard people say they gets lots but am thinking they don't have good filters on age and area..... will take anything from anywhere... and yes I do look at photos.... and I think the people have to king of "match" in their looks..... If I think a guy is out of my league I won't contact or will say something good to them and say that I think they are out of my league for some reason.... | |
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