| | Would you get married and have kids in your 40's? Page 1 of 4 (1, 2, 3, 4) | I am 36 and I want to get married and have kids with someone great. The older I get the more I think about suragacy or other alternative methods of being a parent. At 36 I seem to old for the 20 somethings that are interested in a family and the 30 somethings with no kids or that have kids do not want any/more kids. I do not want to rush in and just have kids with the first girl I meet but how many women are going to want to have kids in their 40's?
I know what I want, just no clue where to get it. Not to mention should I be chasing around the 20 somethigns the 30 somethings or the 40 somethings?? | |
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| Would you get married and have kids in your 40's?
Posted: 6/25/2012 6:09:13 PM | There are women out there that still want to have children.
They are just harder to find.
How about dating women who already have children and are willing to provide you with one of your own?
Check out the single mothers. | |
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| Would you get married and have kids in your 40's?
Posted: 6/25/2012 6:20:14 PM | | Too bad you don't live in my city. I have several friends who are in their early 40's who want to have children. My best friend M is 45 and has tried dating for the last 3 years, she hasn't met anyone and she's in the midst of adopting a 3 year old girl from India. I think if you have a way to let people in your area know this is what you want it may just be the hook to catch what you are looking for. Good Luck! | |
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Posted: 6/25/2012 7:13:16 PM | I'm 38 y/o...while I was never the woman to get depressed at not being a wife and mom by my early 30s, I would...but only if I was happily married, and was still in good health. I have women in my family who had kids in their 40s...
I also have a friend who had her 1st child in her early 40s, and 2nd one in her middle 40s. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2012 10:28:22 PM | | I'm 32 and don't think I would, I find marriage too intrusive, maybe I'm the minority here, but I know some other men feel the same way about it as I. That or I just have not found that women who's chemistry has created beyond lust, the emotions that would engage me to want to wake up with her and see her every morning. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2012 4:37:56 AM | | Myself and a friend are 35 this year and still hoping for the happy ending. There are women out there who want this, probably more than men, so would have thought you'd have had an easier time of it than we do. | |
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| Would you get married and have kids in your 40's?
Posted: 6/26/2012 5:51:03 AM | I have three friends in the UK, who are 42, the same age as I am. None of them has ever married and none of them have children. It simply didn't turn out that way although I know one in particular is still hopeful that she may be a parent but all have accepted that might not be.
There are lots of men and women who are in the same situation - no one has circumstances that are so unusual they are the only person to experience them. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2012 5:56:17 AM | I started a family very young in my life, as well at the time I started a career. My first child is now 21 and my younger child is a decade younger. I'm open to having more children and since I enjoyed the experience of pregnancy although I did not enjoy the sickness with it, I'm also a crossroads in my life where I think having any more children wouldn't be the best thing, for them, for my current children, or me.
I could biologically have a child in my forties, but with it, comes risk. Since I had devoted the first part of my life to raising my children, I would like to continue my education as I'm doing now, and work for other people's children, though my love and commitment are principally in the possession of my children. Of course this doesn't negate the issue of serious health concerns that may accompany a pregnancy at that stage of life, even with best medical care. The chances of child having Down Syndrome increases as does the age, and that child would grow up into an adult with a 100% chance of getting Alzheimer's in their thirties; so, there is much to grapple when making such considerations.
My daughter is close to reaching her majority and chances of her marrying and giving me grandchildren increases as she become older. At this point, I also ponder whether or not I'd want to raise another baby on my own and help her at the same time; ideally, if she chooses to have children, I want to be there and give her children the gift of being one of the child's grandparents, as our elders are the holders of knowledge of our history and existence.
These are issue which may arise in your relations with people. The best thing to do is be honest and open and discuss it. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2012 10:28:40 AM | Huge numbers of women are highly interested in having babies
in their late 30s, desperate even. There are also lots of women
who had them in their 20s and want to have a second batch
in their late 30s and early 40s.
Many of these childless women have been looking for "mr. Right"
for a long time and to their credit the haven't settled...
but they also haven't got the baby they wanted.
By the time they hit 43 or 44 the may start to let go of the
dream of biological motherhood a little. I know a lot
of women like this... who developed themselves, traveled,
partied, became very interesting adult women in many
respects... but they didn't secure their careers or their
homesteads and really a big part of the equation was
not only mr right's wonderful perfectness and eagerness
to settle down with ms. wonderful, but his ability to
bankroll the endeavor as well.
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Posted: 6/26/2012 10:48:51 AM | I'm 32 and pretty much all of my single friends and I want to get married and have kids and are making every effort to do so. One friend of mine wants a baby so badly that she was considering asking her ex to have a baby with her [we talked her out of that - he's an ex for a reason].
There are probably a lot more women than you think who want marriage and kids. I'm wondering if they're just shy about disclosing that for fear of scaring men off since so many men these days seem to have no interest in having a family and want to enjoy life an as eternal bachelor (which the media seems to encourage). | |
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Posted: 6/26/2012 11:27:46 AM | "Would you get married and have kids in your 40's? "
I would, but it isn't a requirement. I have three, 23, 21, and 8. My youngest was born 3 months after my 40th birthday. Nonsmoking men and women in my family historically live into their mid 90's or later, so if I am blessed with remarriage and my new wife so desires, I would be open to more children. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2012 1:41:31 PM | A woman's peak fertile age range is from her 20's thru mid-30's ... beyond that would be a little risky/lessened chances for fertility ... Myself I am teetering on the idea of not having kids ever .... add to that the fact that I am at the brink of surpassing that fertile age range too .... If Mr Right happened to come along after that & he wanted kids, it would take a lot of convincing for me to change my mind.
That being said, truth is, men have more options than women .... even when you get into your 40's you can still pretty much easily have kids provided your female partner is still within that fertile age range .... I don't see anything wrong if you dated someone in her 20's or 30's ...... Now if she were in her 40's, biologically speaking, that might be pushing your luck a little bit if you wanted to have kids with her ..... But that's not to say that it can't happen either. .... With the technology of modern medicine, a lot of things can be done.
Look at celine dion and her husband .. she is in her early 40's and he is in his 60's (if I'm not mistaken) .... just last year she had her second pregnancy with twins using IVF ... Personally I think her hubby is too old to be fathering kids at his age cos heck, he'll be 80 when his kids are in their early 20's!! ..... and I believe he's also a grandfather to his adults kids' kids too (from his 1st marriage) ... Anyhoo JMO ..
I think you're worrying too prematurely about this OP .... | |
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| Would you get married and have kids in your 40's?
Posted: 6/26/2012 4:02:45 PM |
See ladies? Jose is totally into it.
lol I am willing, but I defer to the lady. She is the one who does the carrying and child bearing. If my next mate doesn't want to go there, I am just s fine with that. | |
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| Would you get married and have kids in your 40's?
Posted: 6/28/2012 1:36:36 AM | I am the offspring of parents who married later in life. My mother was 39 and father 42. My brother was born (in the nick of time) that same year. I was born four years later.
Our parents were not like younger parents and didn't play with us much. I think we missed out on a lot of things because of our older parents. And, of course, when we were in our teenage years they were even more remote from our experience of current pop culture. They were really out of step. We felt quite awkward about that and tended not to bring boyfriends/girlfriends home.
Think about it from the perspective of your possible children, and also from your own changing body's perspective. Though you might get together with a younger woman, you'll just be your age and possibly not feeling like bouncing around with young kids. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2012 3:31:32 PM | Well I'm 43, still single would love a kid, trouble is its risky looking around my age, so you tend to go a little not a lot younger. But seems like the women in this age bracket either don't want them or don't want to be involved. I have two mate in exactly the same position single no kids same age as well. But the women are out there but seems to me like they have an agenda. If I get lucky great but happy just as well to go it alone have done before. So no buggy, its the women who will miss out.
As for the married bit well it has got to be worth it, but I know too many couples that are no more so its just a piece of paper presently. I might change my mind in time who knows gotta catch a fish first!!!!! | |
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Posted: 6/28/2012 3:47:05 PM | I'm 40. The clock is ticking. Raising a family had been rather important to me.
I just found out my ex-wife... we could not have kids together for some reason... is pregnant.
Unfortunately, the guy she got pregnant by dumped her a few months ago, after moving in a much younger girl a while ago. Apparently, he was sleeping with both.
She's pretty screwed now.
But, I envy her. | |
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