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| | Fb - Why is it even important??Page 1 of 3 (1, 2, 3) | I do apoligise now if this thread has been put up before. I get asked a bit if I have Facebook and to everyones shock, I get told Im wierd because I dont have it!! No I dont need FaceBook and why would I want guys to have my personal info?? I dont even like giving out my mobile number...
Am I wierd? Is this common experience? | |
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| Fb - Why is it even important??
Posted: 6/27/2012 1:27:07 PM | | if everyone here told you, yes, it's weird, would you dash over to facebook and set up a page for yourself? | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 1:53:42 PM | | OP I don't have facebook and I will never have it. I get the same reactions from people when I tell them that. I'm a very private person and I don't want everyone knowing everything about me. Also I don't want people from my past wanting me to "friend" them. If I wanted them in my life, they would be. Everyone I need to stay in contact with I do so the old fashion way, by picking up a phone and calling. I don't consider many people to be my very close friends and for those that are, we don't feel a need to stay in constant contact with one another. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 2:29:48 PM | I have facebook to keep in touch with friends and family who are all over the Country and the World. I found my oldest friend from Junior School (forty years ago) on facebook. She's actually living in the next village but I would never have known that.
I rarely post anything, I don't "friend" the World and his Dog. Facebook is what you do with it.
I'm also likely to be wide awake at 3am in the morning so my friends are going to be p1ssed at a phone call. However I can send a private message (or an ordinary e-mail) for them to read at their convenience. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 2:30:32 PM | It is just a vehicle for sharing your thoughts and adventures to family and friends,,,it is no different then being asked to be in the yearbook...it's a pic of you people know where to go and see,,,
the real question is ,,,,,what is it that people are up to that they don't want others to know about? i often wonder about people like that,,because in my experience,,if you are saying you do not like it when people are in your business,,it is usually because your business,,,is monkey business..or something your ashamed or embarrassed about
what are you hiding you don't want anyone to see anyways? what "business'"
as a person who is the opposite,,,,,,i do so,,because i have nothing to hide and nothing i am ashamed of so i just put it all out there because my all,,is stuff i am proud of or at least not ashamed by......
i dunno,,to each his own,,i simply do not trust quiet people or people who seem to be hiding something,,,,,loud people ,,you see coming a mile away,,they are a known factor and easy to avoid,,,,quiet people,,,,wtf are they up top? what are they thinking?
"in tonight's news,,,,,a man was found with the bodies of 15 young boys found buried in his basement,,,,,,,neighbors all say he was a quiet person who kept to himself" | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 2:36:26 PM | The younger women I've dated in the past from POF have added me to their FB accounts and for obvious reasons they want to know me better, since POF
doesn't allow you to post photos in the manner other sites do. It's only fair that people should be fair to post image quotes, toon characters they love,
fashion pics, whatever, without having their face pic with the image on POF. However, I only keep about 30 or less persons on my FB account, family
and friends and I disable my FB several times a year after I'm done testing new features and reading it's legalese. I don't like to chat but occasionally I
do chat with the select people I keep active.
I have deleted all of the women I've added from POF to FB because they want me on the site more than I'm willing to engage when I don't use mobile to
log in and play. I didn't like their party pics, portraying them as having the time of their lives and being immature. I discovered them dating other people
when they didn't know the other guy was sending pics to their wall. And other reasons.
You are normal for wanting to engage offline, nothing against FB as people waste time on other platforms.
POF has a FB page where we can comment but then we give up our names to everyone and naturally we have to curb our enthusiasm and that's not natural. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 2:38:03 PM | There was an episode of a TV show I watch that referred to FB as a "Time suck".......LOL
I have a profile there. It served its' purpose, years ago, as I was able to reconnect with some people from long ago. Now, I'm lucky if I visit 2 or 3 times a year. Besides, all my friends on that site have all my personal info, so there's really no need to go on to connect with them unless someone desperately needs to know the temperature of my butt every hour on the hour.....LMAO!!!!
It's not weird. You're better off being social in the live world than parked at your computer letting life slip away..... | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 2:42:56 PM | | I find FB to be a pain and only belong to it so that high school and college friends know what I am up to. I think if someone needs to know as much about you as what many people put on their FB page before meeting, than they have "issues". Personally, I could live a long happy life without ever logging into it again. Don't bow to the FB pressure; remember "weird" means unique and unique is "hot". | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 3:11:48 PM | It's goofy and silly to "purposely avoid" Facebook, as it's a very useful tool, like email, telephones, or anything else you use to network with people.
It's a quick and immediate way to see birthdays, deaths, large events, small events, or general moods of friends and family; many you wouldn't hear from otherwise. Also, when you're out and about, places and locators will tell you who is near you or around you so that you may choose to meet them there or vice versa, if you'd like at the time. It's also a way to document points in time, and a quick and easy way to share photos with many people at once.
It's also very useful for other things; for instance, my father died a few months ago, and I was able to log onto his Facebook and notify all of his FB friends at once, meaning a lot could come from out of town to go to his funeral.
It's a very useful tool; and avoiding it is either people trying their best to not be like everyone else (which is hugely transparent), or not having enough friends or going out enough to make it a worthwhile tool.
I personally ask people on dating sites for their FB so that I can see photos they're tagged in as opposed to those they careful choose on here to see what they REALLY look like. I've seen people that have gotten 4x as large for instance in a tagged pic due to a mix of carefully shifted and framed photos. :) | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 3:14:48 PM | You are wise.
and not running with the silly herd.
Seek the same and you will do fine.
:-P
FB will be passe in a year or two.
just like myspace is today. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 3:26:14 PM | | Yes thanks to people who agree with me. I dont talk to the people on facebook anymore because half of them slagged me off lol. I cant b dealing with it anmore. I have a mobile that i use when needed thats it and email. But i visit my friend and visa versa. she has fb, i dont. she hasnt got credit, i have so she calls my home phone...YES A HOME PHONE and we arrange to come over for tea that way! perfect! | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 4:44:09 PM | I do have a FB account. I find it invaluable for sharing photos of the children with their grandparents and relatives as they are all in another country. It's also great for keeping in touch with my live long friends as with the time difference, it's easy to get hold of them without playing phone tag.
That said, I don't add just anyone to my account and that won't change. And, I wouldn't add someone I was just dating either. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 6:03:55 PM | I'm not sure why there has to be a For or Against attitude.
If it works for you. Great. If not then that's also great.
For me I have found it to be a valuable tool. As I have found navigation, digital cameras, smart phones and a lot of other new technology to be of value.
People that don't like, don't have the resources or don't know how to use the technology tend to focus on the negatives. I have a long list of positives so I won't be giving it up until the next new technology comes out to replace it. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 7:29:11 PM |
why would I want guys to have my personal info?
At some point in dating them they are going to need some personal information about you.
Unless you are simply seeking online pen pals.
Am I wierd?
Nope. Pretty ordinary.
Is this common experience?
For people to ask for others Facebook?
Yes.
For people, when not getting what they want (in this case access to your nonexistent Facebook), to start throwing out judgmental ostracizing tantrums?
Yes.
For people when they are a "victim" to said tantrums (slight ostracizing) to then go looking for other people to pat them on the back and say "there there, it's okay, you're good, they're bad, hush hush, that's okay, there there, you belong"?
Yes. | |
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| Fb - Why is it even important??
Posted: 6/27/2012 7:37:52 PM |
I do apoligise now if this thread has been put up before. I get asked a bit if I have Facebook and to everyones shock, I get told Im wierd because I dont have it!! No I dont need FaceBook and why would I want guys to have my personal info?? I dont even like giving out my mobile number...
Am I wierd? Is this common experience?
I dont talk to the people on facebook anymore because half of them slagged me off lol.
Hmm . . . so the REAL reason you don't have FB is because people "slagged" you off.
Do you need positive reinforcement from strangers? What is wrong with being weird?
Some of us do not give personal info on FB nor do we use it as a medium to meet men.
I don't have a TV--now that's much weirder than not having FB, eh? | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 7:38:05 PM | I have seen things like this come and go many times in my life.
Essentially, there are two basic groups that deal with things like Facebook: there are those who like, and deal well with the functions it provides, and use it purely as a tool, and there are those who are caught up in the frenzy of belonging that can go along with such things.
It's very much like the two kinds of people who enjoy a given set of films, such as Harry Potter, or Star wars: there are those who simply enjoy them as entertainment, and cheerfully move on with their lives, otherwise unaffected by them, and there are those who feel that in depth knowledge of them creates a sense of belonging with other fans, that gives them comfort and some sort of near religious purpose.
As for the "what are you hiding" mentality that someone expressed, I find that sort of thinking entirely repulsive. I have indeed seen that as a subset of the Facebook fanatics, as well as every other fan-based groups I've encountered in my life. It's a common human behavior, to pair excitement and comfort of belonging, with suspicion and hostility towards any who choose not to belong as well. That happens with religion-based systems, sportsclub-based groups, pretty much any allegiance-based groups you can think of. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 7:41:18 PM | smarter, she actually stated her reasons. She was on Facebook, people started ignoring her, so she got rid of it. So, she wasn't even touching the tip of the iceberg as to the practical use of it, got mad and got rid of it because her "friends" weren't paying her attention, and now tries to have an air of superiority about not having it anymore (!)
Essentially, the analogy would be buying a new laptop, losing at Freecell over and over again, throwing the laptop away because of that, and then writing a letter to her newspaper about "why do people always ask me for my email address and then think I'm weird for not having a computer!?" | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 7:42:48 PM | I like having facebook and find it very useful. I like to share photos and information with family and friends easily. I do find it odd when someone purposely avoids having a profile. I know there are people who tire of the facebook drama. I wouldn't know about that personally, I don't post dramatic things or respond to dramatic posts. I don't post passive-aggressive posts. I don't post when my relationship status changes. I do use it as a tool to catch up with friends, send party invites, or to give away stuff "hey, I have an extra ticket to six flags, anyone want to come?" "Hey, a feral cat just left her kittens on my porch, anyone looking for a kitten?" I've found it very useful.
As for not giving your facebook info out, I totally am with you on that one. No WAY I won't friend someone on facebook unless they are my actual friend or family member. Even if I've gone on a few dates with someone I won't friend that person unless we're actually seeing each other exclusively and he's met my family. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 8:22:55 PM | | I love Facebook. But don't get me wrong. Facebook is only for family and friends, not for dates. I do not invite people I just met. I do not invite people I have dated a few times. To make it to my Facebook page, I'd have to known you at least six month. So no dates for me there. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 9:30:16 PM | | I love my FB. I post several times a week about what is going on in my life, what my kids are up to, things I find funny, and pictures. I am very selective of who I allow to friend me. I did allow my current partner onto my FB just before our first date, however we talked much longer on the phone than most people due to scheduling conflicts. I like seeing more of the real person instead of just who they choose to present themselves as here. I did find out some interesting things that he didn't share right away, but nothing that turned me off. | |
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